To have the rage at parents who don't provide sanpro

[Wonc]

Had coffee today with a friend who works as a school secretary at my DC's school and she told me there are a number of parents who think it is the school's responsibility to provide sanitary products.
She said it is always the same girls every month.

WTAF?

I am mortified for these girls. As an introvert, I would have died having to go and ask someone each month for sanpro.

I haven't been able to stop thinking about it . She seemed very blasé about it, whereas I can't believe this is a thing.

Are you sure that's not just sour grapes because this thread has proven your belief that it's just silly forgetful girls who ask school for sanpro to be categorically wrong?

Did I miss the girls in question posting to state categorically why they're asking for towels from the office every month?

If not, the anecdotes of others (whilst heartbreaking) leaves us none the wiser.

The school need to get to the bottom of this and help the girls, or just continue to supply sanpro without question.

I think supply without question is the appropriate response here.

To drag the girls in and get to the bottom of it each month is hardly a sensitive proposal. Considering the fact that family planning will hand out condoms for free I'm not sure why giving a young girl sanitary towels is deemed worthy of her being put through an interview or given a formal warning letter to hand to parents. There will be many reasons and some of them will include lazy, careless, couldn't be arsed attitudes. There will also be other very sad reasons and tackling a girl about provision of sanitary protection is insensitive.

CP services are not going to flag it on its own so it's pointless suggesting tackling it is a safeguarding issue.

CP will be tackling plenty of other flags.

I think this thread has highlighted that all girls do not get stuff provided or given to them. I was one of them many years ago, like cheese. I took a paper round so that I could buy my own. My mother was very busy and tied up with a seriously disabled and sick sibling. It just wasn't noticed that I needed them and I didn't like to bother her. Money was tight as it often is when you have a sick child in the family...she was exhausted. (Sounds just like a great sob story but it's true)

My Narc Mother refused to discuss periods with me, let alone purchase SanPro, so I had to buy mine using my pocket money as well. If I was in Sainsburys with my parents and picked some up they would always be put back on the shelf.

I do remember though that one birthday I got £20 of cash and was "taken shopping" to spend it. I went to Sainsburys and bought SanPro and toiletries with it, she called me a whore in front of the cashier for buying it when I did not need it!

I had months where I was using toilet roll instead of SanPro as I just did not have the money to buy any, she would literally go to the shop buy her fags and not get me anything.

I buy it for my girls habitually now, perhaps I am compensating!

I'm horrified and very shocked at the experiences related by RaRaSkirtsForever", cheesee* and others. Just dreadful. Neither of my parents had any affection for me, but they did provide for me practically. It's truly heartbreaking to read what so many people have suffered, and it's still going on, of course, behind closed doors.