To want to know the honest truth about how much your DH does around the house?

[ClawHandsIfYouBelieveInFreaks]

Because I am so tired of mine being shite at housework. To clarify, he works 9-5.30 in a very physical job, leaves at 8.00am and gets home at 6 so he is tired. He generally works 5 full days a week...and he does jack shit in the house.

I work from home on average about 3 hours per day. I do the school runs on public transport with 2 dds. All the housework and all the basic stuff for the DDs such as taking them to their dance lessons on weekends doing their homework with them and most of the shopping and all of the cooking.

DH does a supermarket run once a week and the DIY things. He does take the DDs swimming or to the park on a Sunday and he really enjoys that.

He mucks in a tiny bit with bedtimes sometimes.

Is this fair? He had a go at me this morning due to the recycling not being sorted into their tubs ready to go out. I maintain that he should do that as I do ALL THE OTHER STUFF and I hate doing recycling. I put it outside in bags....he could then put it into the correct tubs and carry them out but he thinks I should sort them into their tubs ready for him to put out.

Is he a lazy fuck or am I being overly demanding given that he works 6 days a week? I don't mind doing the cleaning and cooking as to be fair, 3 hours work per day at home is hardly back breaking and I'm here anyway aren't I? But surely he could do the recycling!?

thefairy I was about to say stop bragging but actually he sounds lovely.

My dp does very little. He is shit at cleaning but will do the pots. I choose to be a SAHM and he works all the hours god sends to keep us afloat so I can take that.

I do pretty much everything, including "men's jobs" like DIY, garden, car, insurance papers etc., rubbish bins etc + ALL cooking, cleaning, tidying, ironing etc.

DH works from 9-6, but occasionally Sunday afternoons too (from home)

I work part time only.

He does sometimes sort socks out. Has started taking DS2 to one of his clubs (as I am with other DS at another club), and will sometimes do something (like taking bottles back about twice a year) after which he can claim he "does it all the time"

If I ask he will help with something.

He also does washing up once or twice a week (again to go on and claim he does it all the time/regularly).

In his mind, he probably thinks he does around 30-40%. In my mind 5%

Sometimes it grates on me!

But then again, what can I say, I am pretty much a SAHM. If I worked full time I might fight about more help. Also worried what example it is setting my DC.

This is going to sound like a stealth boast but my DH is very helpful and considerate. He works 13 hour shifts as a nurse 3-4 days a week and still finds time to do shopping, put washing on, hoover, look after DS when I'm at work (we alternate so while one's at work the other is at home with LO), and does his share of washing up. We split housework 50/50 as we both work and we both pay bills and just generally have a pretty reasonable set up (for want of a better description). On the rare few occasions he's not pulled his weight (ie leaving the empty card tube on the bog roll holder instead of replacing it with a new one) I only have to moan once and he bucks his ideas up again. I'm very lucky.

That said, however, when his family (SIL or my PILS) are over he expects me to run around after them all like a little maid. This is the only bone of contention I have. I said to him last time "YOU invited them over, you CHOSE to have them down today, so YOU can run round after them!" and he got quite snotty. So it's not all kittens and rainbows, what can I say

Im on maternity leave so I do the bulk of the HW

arrrg

sorry if you are on ML then you should be recovering from the birth, getting some rest from sleepless nights (I'm assuming he doesn't get up either) and concentrating on your new baby. At least fir the first 3 months, if not 6 months.

ML is about mum and baby not keeping the house clean.

It's a fairly even split. We both usually work full time, although I am on mat leave at the moment. I usually work slightly longer hours than he does.

We have a cleaner who does most of the cleaning and ironing once a week.

He does:
-the cooking
-incidentals shopping (his office is next to a Waitrose)
-changing lightbulbs and odd bits of DIY (he hates it - I don't, but often can't reach things as easily as him plus I have been either pregnant or going through fertility treatment for a long while!)

I do:
-baking
-day to day tidying and wiping down of the bathroom and kitchen sides
-sorting and putting on the washing
-household admin - paying bills, filing bank statements, etc.
-all car stuff as I'm the only driver

We both do:
-emptying the dishwasher
-hanging out washing
-putting out bins (although he does it more often than I do)
-main shopping

He's alright Nomore!

Do works nights 11-8 5 nights sometimes 6 a week so he's either at work or mostly asleep. When he is up and awake he does jack shit. On his days off he still does very little although will tidy up the front room and hoover. He does put the bins out and often does school runs in the morning and on his days off.

Much more than me. I was pretty neglected during childhood then sent to boarding school where you didn't have to do your own washing or cleaning. I've never really learned how to do it and I find it overwhelming.

I will tidy up the living room and sometimes the bedroom and clean the bathroom. But all the cleaning up the kitchen, doing the washing or the washing up my husband does.

DH does far less than me but then i'm a SAHM and he works long hours and also works away frequently.

However, when he is at home, he mucks in with jobs and i'd say it is about equal if he's there.If he saw something that i hadn't done/had missed he would just assume i was doing something else (probably related to DS) and he would just get on and do it. He also mucks in equally with DS - he always does his bath and bed time if he's at home. I think your husband should pull his weight a bit more when he is at home tbh, it doesn't sound very fair.

Actually Claw I think your DH does his fair share. Have you considered saving some time by doing your supermarket shop online.

You only work 3 hours per day. Your children are in school. I think your dh does plenty.

I cant see why you cant just sort the recycling as you take it out. Are you so resentful of the "little" he does that you create extra work for him "just because"?

DH has two jobs which are his and I won't do them. He does the washing up and he takes out the rubbish and recycling. As he washes up he tends to clean the kitchen but I also do this.

I pretty much do the rest, and embarrassingly PIL come and do the garden. My car has never been cleaned unless I go to get it cleaned.

DH doesn't drive - he works 5 days and also travels. I work part time and also do a lot of childcare. I have allergies so don't do washing up or the garden. I do sort the food composty bags though.

Yes I do the vacuuming, washing, ironing, drying (oh he empties the water from the dryer!) and ironing. I clean the bathroom. I tidy and the rest. Our issues lie in him taking off weekends from washing up till I nag him enough and he does it at Christmas. I don't take time off!

Your DH doesn't really work long hours.

My DH is out of the door for 6.30am and doesn't get home til 5.30pm.

He then makes the dinner for us all, washes up and helps bath the kids (he does one child, I do the other)

He does all the house maintenance, outside work stuff and does ALL the cooking and all the ironing (generally)

I do all the house cleaning and all the washing.

I'm a SAHM at the min so he figures my day is as hard as his

He's a keeper Some of you lot put up with some right lazy bastards!!!! I certainly wouldn't. It's not 1950 girls!

I'm a SAHP.
Dh does
Dc bath and bedtimes
Bins
Weekly shop online and unpacks it
Irons his own work shirts
Weekends when not working will do half of whatever needs doing
Have a cleaner once a week so no housework for either of us
Help with dc homework, we do a week each

DH works extremely hard 5/6 day a week in a physically demanding job and is out of the house from 7-6pm so I do pretty much everything at home. I do all the housework, washing,cooking, appointments, after school clubs, I iron as I go and I also do the books for the business and deal with payroll. I'm also trying to do an OU degree in my spare time (ha-like there is any!) When DH is off at the weekend he does help out, he doesn't really tidy up after himself during the week which is a pain in the ass. We're both knackered though, him at work, me at home but I feel we're both making an equal effort at the big picture so I don't mind that I pick up most of the slack regarding housework.

We both work ft, 10 hours each out of the house. Three DC.

I do the mornings, keep the kitchen clean, general tidying and put the washing away.

DH does the after school bit, cooks, does the shopping, bit of general tidying and hangs the washing out. Also the bins and the lawns.

We both chip in with everything else.

The cleaner does the cleaning and tbh we don't really do much on top of what she does (full vacuum, mop, dust, cleans all the bathrooms etc). I love her.

DH leaves the house at 7 am and returns at 7pm during the week. When the children were little he did bedtimes and bath times

Now during the week he, loads (sometimes unloads) the dishwasher, does the children's packed lunches, may cook his or my tea depending on timing and when he is home. Does the lifts to Scouts etc, empties bins, empties tumble dryer water if necessary

On a weekend he does lifts to activities, any DIY or garden jobs, cleans the bathrooms and toilets and makes the beds after I've washed the covers. He also helps with any spring cleaning type jobs and cooks

I work for 4.5 hours a week. I do the vast majority of the hoovering and dusting, I also clean the kitchen. The children dust and Hoover their bedrooms and the "playroom". I generally take charge of any spring cleaning/sorting and I do the clothes washing and ironing (though I only iron shirts)

He sorts all the bins and paperwork

I am either really lazy or really good at delegating

DH is a far better housekeeper than I am :-(

Dh doesn't do anything in the way of housework, homework/school, shopping or putting the DC to bed. But, he does do diy, car maintenance and the garden. He works 7-7pm 5 or 6 days a week and runs the (v.physical) business so goes in sometimes on a Sunday too.

Running the business is a whole load of shitting stress so it is fair that I do most at home.

DH & I both work full time. He does all the washing, bins and cleans the bathrooms. I do the food shopping, meal planning, dusting and hoovering. I sort out the money/ pay bills etc. We both cook, tidy and look after the DC equally, though he probably empties the dishwasher more than I do.

If you asked him, he'd say he does more than me, but he doesn't take into account the organisation of where DC are going to be, birthday parties etc. Plus I book all the holidays and it takes me ages to do all the research.

But my family tell me how lucky I am to have someone who does so much. Tbf this annoys him as he thinks it makes men out to be lazy and incompetent in the home.

I'm a SAHM to 5 children, 4 of them school aged. DH leaves for work at 7am and returns at 7:30pm, 6 days a week.

I do EVERYTHING at home except putting the bins out once a week and cleaning up sick in the night.

My jobs include but are not limited to all night feeds, (there have been a lot over 14 years!) all homework, appointments, bath times, bedtimes, cleaning, tidying, decorating, gardening, school runs, assemblies, sports days, parents evenings, play dates, cooking, lunches and food shopping.

I wouldn't want to do his job and he wouldn't want to do mine!

DH works in finance. gets up at 4.45am to get into the city but is home by 5.30 or 6.30 if he goes to the gym which he does about 3 nights a week.

He will put a wash on, tumble it or hang it up if needs be.

He showers with DD2 each evening and puts her to bed and gets up with her in the night if she wakes as he says he misses seeing her in the daytime and its nice for him to have this time with her.

He listens to DS read each evening whilst doing the cooking (I probably cook 3 times a week whereas he will cook 4 times). He will also make his lunch and the kids lunches for the next day a couple of nights a week too.

I do all of the ironing and tidying and cleaning (although we do have a cleaner once a week).

The 2 older DCs do the dishwasher and the rubbish/recycling and are in charge of bringing the laundry downstairs each day.

(I am a very lucky lady I think).