To want to know the honest truth about how much your DH does around the house?

[ClawHandsIfYouBelieveInFreaks]

Because I am so tired of mine being shite at housework. To clarify, he works 9-5.30 in a very physical job, leaves at 8.00am and gets home at 6 so he is tired. He generally works 5 full days a week...and he does jack shit in the house.

I work from home on average about 3 hours per day. I do the school runs on public transport with 2 dds. All the housework and all the basic stuff for the DDs such as taking them to their dance lessons on weekends doing their homework with them and most of the shopping and all of the cooking.

DH does a supermarket run once a week and the DIY things. He does take the DDs swimming or to the park on a Sunday and he really enjoys that.

He mucks in a tiny bit with bedtimes sometimes.

Is this fair? He had a go at me this morning due to the recycling not being sorted into their tubs ready to go out. I maintain that he should do that as I do ALL THE OTHER STUFF and I hate doing recycling. I put it outside in bags....he could then put it into the correct tubs and carry them out but he thinks I should sort them into their tubs ready for him to put out.

Is he a lazy fuck or am I being overly demanding given that he works 6 days a week? I don't mind doing the cleaning and cooking as to be fair, 3 hours work per day at home is hardly back breaking and I'm here anyway aren't I? But surely he could do the recycling!?

Dh works full time. I work 2 or 3 days per week.
We have a cleaner.
I cook, he tidies up.
He does the bins.
We share the washing.
I clean the kitchen, tidy, vacuum, do all school runs (dc at different schools so this is a giant PITA) except one day.

Think we're pretty even actually.

I am really angry st the minute with my dh.

I always do the lions hare of housework. Hoover, declutter, clean, grocery shopping, oven, washing, cooking

He empties the bins
I am due a baby to week and he is still the same, have a one year old too so not exactly putting my feet up.

I don't know how long more I want to put up ith it :(

I work PT x 4 days 9-3, DH FT away from home 7-7.

I do everything to do with food, washing, shopping, organising children. He does all DIY, bins, taking DS to football (DH x 3 pw, me x 2 pw). He does more at weekends - helps DCs with homework, empties dishwasher, occasionally makes lunch or breakfast. He irons all his own stuff. Cleans out the hamster and sometimes feeds the cat.

He doesn't lie in and he doesn't laze on the sofa during the day at the weekend - neither of us do.

It feels quite fair.

We also have a cleaner who comes for 2 hrs pw.

I was resentful before she came - she has made a big difference to how I feel about the split.

50/50 Here.
Both work Ft busy stressful jobs.Both earn the same so it has always been this way.
We could afford a cleaner but sometimes they end up being more hassle plus I would rather spend the money on handbags.

hope you never had to bend down to pick up a dropped sock bigblue

I'm a SAHD the wife works full time, i do all the cooking during the week (I enjoy it) and I do all cleaning and the clothes washing, hanging, dishwasher, recycling, drop/pick up one child from pre school and one toddler stays with me..
At the weekend she may cook a meal and she sorts the kids clothes out into little outfits..
Even after Xmas when I start back at work (running my business) this will more than likely continue in the same vein, the wife works in the NHS which with her travelling means her days are considerably longer than mine..
I just pop my headphones on and listen to music on you tube, the time soon flies and I get to indulge my myself at the same time, I actually find the household tasks relaxing and rewarding when I'm finished..
As far as I'm concerned it's about keeping the household running smoothly and it's not a competition and lets be fair we now have modern appliances so it's hardly difficult these days is it..
Some people just like to make a big issue out of things and are bone idle, both male and female and we all have different expectations...

"the wife"- love that, not heard that term for years.

Thanks bigbluestars. I have never tried those things

That is how everything gets done, but in the real world my baby weighs over twenty pounds and isn't happy in a sling indoors and nor am I able to hold her weight and do anything else at the same time. The three year old has a high tolerance for dusting but isn't daft enough to confuse it with proper playing for too long.

They are also not robots and become ill, teethe, need picking up, hurt themselves, get tired, wake in night and leave you fit for nothing in the morning, suffer sibling jealousy.

It's not rocket science, but it is not an exact science either.