To sincerely hope motherhood is not the best thing I will ever do?

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I'm 12 weeks pregnant, recently announced on FB and an old school friend commented "congrats - it's the best thing you'll ever do". AIBU to really want to reply "I sincerely fucking hope not"?

I know she was trying to be nice and I am delighted about the pregnancy but I am also highly intelligent, ambitious and hard working - if the best thing I'm ever going to do is with my womb, I might as well give up now. AND I doubt anyone would ever say that to a man.

My son has achieved so much more than we ever thought he could. He has had a year from hell but continued to push himself at school to get great grades. He is ambitious, and a wonderful boy.

I take no credit for that though. Crap parents often end up with wonderful kids and many great parents end up with adult children who aren't so nice, despite their good background. I always think it is funny when people take so much credit for their wonderful children when I think nature is such a huge part of how they turn out.

Is having kids the best thing I have ever done? so far yes. It is also the most hardest thing I have ever done.

I don't know why Leonard Hofstadter's Mum springs to mind here

- if the best thing I'm ever going to do is with my womb, I might as well give up now

I really don't like how you make reference to your unborn child as something to do with your womb. Without a doubt, being a parent is the most difficult but fulfilling thing you will ever do.

there is no job in the world you'd be prepared to give your life for

of course there are jobs like this, eg being in the army?

and i think if you have kids they shouldn't be the only most important thng you do. i value career as much as family, you can have both

i don't want to be my parents' best achievement and i wouldn't want my kids to be mine.

Yabu. It's a personal thing as to whether motherhood is the best thing you'll do. For some people it is, for some it isn't. I think it's a bit sad that you're this cynical though op, why not hope for the best? Maybe you'll love motherhood.

Can't believe this thread is still going. The OP disappeared on Tuesday.

i dont think its about loving motherhood or not but wanting something more as well, it's possible to love being a mother but to need something else too

The thread is still going because it's interesting!

I'm still mesmerised by the idea that saying parenting your child is the best thing you have ever done (so far - when I find a cure for cancer I will no doubt change my mind but compared with preparing tax returns its not really a fair contest) seems to be saying in some people eyes that nothing else you do is of any value or even that you don;t do anything else.

Oh right.