no ex dh you can't wear speedos, you've let yourself go

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Exdp takes dd 8 swimming regularly and all has been fine so far. Now I find out that she is being teased because he wears speedos to the pool. Aibu to think he should dress in a way that doesn't cause embarrassment? BTW he has let himself go and should not be wearing them.

My SFIL insisted on doing this until MIL broke it to him that he was no longer as svelte as he once was. There is a bit of middle ground but you may need to be a be subtle in how you do it.

But the people teasing should not have a say in what your ex wears, that is his business alone. TBH I see older men on the beaches in Europe in them and nobody takes a second glance much less teases. I think we all need to be a little less body obsessed, as long as you are comfortable in what you wear that should be it.

it doesnt matter if its a zombie thread if people are still enjoying discussing it. Most of us are wasting our time anyway. Its not like we actually help anyone by answering threads except in rare cases

Gosh I didn't see that clearly too early for me!

Exactly Branleuse.

Violet, if you don't like it go and read something else. It's not a hardship to click away.

The OP could always remove the first S from Speedos, and see how fast everyone leaves the pool...

Oh bugger. I think there should be wArning on every new post of a zombie thread Nd not just to the person who chooses to resurrect it. Life is too short to have to keep checking every blinking thread date before you post.

Poor guy at least he's taking her swimming! I'd be talking to her about body shaming people and how it's not acceptable.

I think it's a bit strange that 8 year olds are teasing her because of speedos, what kid would even notice this sort of crap? You can't tell him what to wear! I wouldn't bat an eyelid at someone wearing speedos fat fucker or not.

I've re written this post

No Ex Wife you can't wear bikinis you've let yourself go

Ex wife takes dd 8 swimming regularly and all has been fine so far. Now I find out that she is being teased because Ex wears bikinis to the pool. Aibu to think she should dress in a way that doesn't cause embarrassment? BTW she has let herself go and should not be wearing them.

I don't care if it's a zombie thread; I think it's interesting.

Reminds me of the time my DM was planning to visit me at Uni, many years ago. I suggested that we could go swimming during her visit and asked her to bring swimwear.

When my DF found out he asked my DM if she should shave her legs because I might be embarrassed going swimming with a mum with hairy legs.

My DM pointed out that I was a feminist and thought I might object if she did shave her legs.

Eventually mum actually asked me if I wanted her to shave her legs! I'd long since grown out of being embarrassed by my parents so obviously it was up to her. Can't remember what she decided to do in the end, but we did have an interesting discussion about feminism and body hair.

Now I find out that she is being teased because he wears speedos to the pool

So people are so shallow they look at someone in the swimming pool and make personal comments about him to his DD and that's OK?

Mean, very mean