To feel terribly guilty that DD will probably never go to Disneyland?

[JeremyKylesEyebrow]

I know I am BU, but have PMS and due to unforeseen financial difficulties, we're looking at a tight Christmas.

DD's best friend is going to Disneyland this spring. She has been going ON and ON about it. DD, therefore, has also been going ON and ON about it.

DD's friend has really been rubbing it in a bit. She comes in to play at our house most days (they are 6) and the Disney talk is constant. She is understandably very excited. DD went to her house one day, and friend was showing her lots of videos of the place.

DD has been full of questions. Why can't we go to Disneyland? EVERYONE ELSE has been, etc etc. I've tried to explain to her that DH and I don't have much money, that different parents like to spend money on different things, that lots of children don't go to Disneyland. And also that I didn't want to hear any more about it, and that if we do go, it will be when she is older and can appreciate it more.

Tonight she ended up in tears, saying her friend was going on about it again, that she feels jealous.

This is all pretty unusual for DD. She isn't particularly fussed on Disney as a rule.

Anyway, I have just watched one of those bastarding Disney adverts and burst into tears. Because we're poooor, and I can't take DD to Disney and waah wah.

It doesn't help that DD's bio dad (who doesn't have any interest in her and doesn't pay maintenance) has been to Disney about six times with his current g/f and her daughter (DD doesn't know this)

I know I need a slap. I don't even WANT to go myself!

I have three boys, older now, 15, 17 and 19.

We've never had the spending power to afford very expensive Disney holidays and as far as I recall neither did any of their friends.

It must be upsetting for you that dd is getting in à state about this but the reality is that it's not going to happen at the moment and that's that.

Keep your pecker up kid!

Of course isabella. I've said a couple of times now that opinions are fine. However referring to people as being "brain dead" because they go there made me wonder why it rouses such strong opinions.

I never went as a child and made it to adulthood (relatively) unscathed. I've been a number of times as an adult, and I actually think it's more fun that going as a child. DS will probably end up getting to go, but only as a part of a larger trip to the US. I really don't understand travelling overseas and seeing nothing but the airport and a theme park. There's so much more to explore.

She'll live if she doesn't go as a child. If it's important to her, then she can save up and go as an adult.