Not to buy my DD christmas presents?

[puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE]

Curious, based on a thread about how much people spend per child.

DD is 6. We have never bought her a christmas present aside from a helium balloon (she loves them). She is the only grandchild/niece or nephew in the family, therefore gets an inordinate amount of gifts from family members big family

AIBU not to buy her anything from me?

Do you not do a stocking?

Does she get Father Christmas presents?

Does Santa bring them on your behalf?

I do think its a bit mean, is there no father Christmas either?

Yes. You are.

It's really up to you and it doesn't really matter what we think. I do think it's a bit odd as surely your dd is going to notice that her friends get gifts from their parents or Father Christmas? I would do a stocking with practical gifts and sweets?

I'm one of those that goes OTT! I love buying my dd's gifts but they don't get much from other family members ( small family ).

Do you want an honest opinion? I think you are mean to buy her nothing at all, I know she gets other stuff but one more thing wouldn't hurt.

Grinch.

Yabu. I think even if she gets presents from others and you don't want to add to it, the least you could do is get a stocking for her.

And if you don't want to add to the mountain of toys why not go for a special charm bracelet that you can add to each year, and make the charm relate to something special that happens in the year that you did together like a bigben if you went to London ect.. That way it is something special for her without cluttering up the place

We go to my parents for christmas, they do a stocking, so she always gets a stocking. Presents are put under the tree and handed out, so she has no idea who bought her what iyswim.

I can't help but think that any gift from me would just get lost in the pile of crap she gets. Last christmas she got upwards of 30 gifts and actually got bored of opening them!

YABU. I can understand not going overboard if you have a large family. But to get her nothing? Do you not do her a stocking?

It's your choice. Just be aware that on the future of other children come into the family that the gift giving from others may change. This may mean you need to buy more in the future for her yourself.

mother I do like the charm idea, but she is incredibly destructive so it would be broken or lost fairly swiftly.

I do intend to start buying her gifts when the ones from the family decrease, its just at the moment the sheer quantity of presents is alarming!

X posted.

I suppose she's not missing out then. But it does seem a bit weird that you delegate doing her stocking. Why don't you do it yourself?

You have got to be having a laugh you celebrate Christmas yet don't buy your child anything???

I would tell other members of the family to give less or perhaps some money for savings, and buy some things myself.

It's not something I would be happy to let other family members do entirely.

Bitter see above post. She gets a stocking.

Don't we do this thread every year puds?

Could you not buy her tickets for something ( cinema, a show etc..)?

Surely she should know who has bought her what at the age of 6, I get my dd's to write thank you letters for any gifts they get ( though I guess this would be hard with a big family ).

Bitter its a bit weird that you assume I delegate Her grandparents have asked me if they could do her stocking since she was a baby.

Do you not do Santa?

so on christmas morning, your child wakes up at home and there is nothing there? no stocking on her bed or presents under the tree? she has to wait until she goes to grandma's house and her presents are there?

i just think it's really odd! do you not want the pleasure of seeing her face when she wakes up all sleepy and excited and climbing into your bed with her stocking?

Op I'm going against the grain here. Presents do not equal love. Stuff does not equal happiness. She gets
loads of stuff anyway so isn't even missing out on the great social norm of orgiastic present giving/receiving. You are being pragmatic and not unreasonable.

Marne I like that idea a lot!

and what happens on christmas eve? if there is no stocking at home then doesn't that mean you miss out on the putting out mince pies and carrots for santa? and hanging up the stocking and being all excited?