Not to buy my DD christmas presents?

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Curious, based on a thread about how much people spend per child.

DD is 6. We have never bought her a christmas present aside from a helium balloon (she loves them). She is the only grandchild/niece or nephew in the family, therefore gets an inordinate amount of gifts from family members big family

AIBU not to buy her anything from me?

Yes is really bloody miserable.

Aside from the fact, one day she'll know her parents got her sod all. From a selfish pov, I'd have thought choosing and wrapping a gift or two for your child would be something you'd enjoy doing and be excited about.

Then there's her happy, amazed face when she opens up something she really wanted and you know you did that for her.

A helium balloon ffs.

Actually Augusta said it better than I did.

Or a charm bracelet and add a charm each year, or a diary for the next year and you can write a special Christmas message in the cover - which will mean something to her as she reads back as a grown woman, a special outfit, some art for her room, a special bedspread,

I'd get a few odds and sods but it would be daft to spend a fortune if everyone else is buying loads

Pps if you go for and experience get a "ballon in a box and pop the envelope with the voucher on the end of the string and maybe pop a cute Christmas teddy in.

And a Christmas cd eg now that's what I call Disney - or a DVD she can watch Christmas day

I think it's fine YANBU

YOu are deluding yourself if you think when she goes back to school her friends and teachers are not going to ask what her mummy got her for Christmas. Of course they are! And how you can be proud of it is beyond mer. Your family must buy her more because they know you are a Scrooge at Christmas. I can't see anything in your post that justifies the no presents rule you seem to have. Poor little girl. Not even one? That is just mean.

Yes yabu she is your child and your responsibility. Don't you want to see the joy on her face that comes from opening a gift you have lovingly chosen?

I think it's mean to get nothing, sorry. I'm another one who has a big family so they always end up getting LOADS, but I wouldn't dream of not buying anything for them.
Surely it doesn't have to be a lot? Just some token things to wrap up if money's an issue, or you just don't want them having expensive gadgety type things.
Board games or books or whatever she likes.
To get nothing is Grinch like!

YABU.

I completely agree with Augusta. The best bit about Christmas is looking for and finding presents that the DC haven't asked for but will really, really love when they receive them.

I wouldn't care if I upset my family by asking them to cut back on buying presents or of they could stop doing the stocking. Nothing (apart from no money) would stop me buying my DC Christmas presents.

Giving our children gifts is the best part about christmas. OP you are missing out if you don't do that.

I think i would hate this scenario. If i couldnt afford to buy my dc presents then i would be so grateful that i had my family who could help out to get the toys i know would make my dc happy. But if they got that much i felt it would be a waste to buy anything at all i would be pissed off and would have to ask them not to buy so much. I would personally find it imposing and would have found a way to politely ensure that presents were limited.

I would be gutted if i couldnt get my dc presents because others had already. If in your shoes though i would still have to buy something as i could not just buy nothing. Its not just about consumerism, its the process of thinking what dc likes and looking out for that perfect gift that will make their eyes light up and bring you happiness. I hope you get this with buying theatre / event tickets and i agree its a very good idea.

I think YABU.... Do u not take her to see Santa to ask him what she wants him to bring?

I do tend to go slightly overboard at Xmas this will be my ds 3rd Xmas but he still doesn't really understand a lot about it as he's only 2 but I still talk about Santa and he gets presents from Santa... Although when he was born we did tell the families to rein it in a little at Xmas and they now asked if there's anything he needs so for example my parents are buying him his nursery uniform for Xmas and dps parents have got him clothes and both sets of grandparents will get him a toy each.

But I can imagine the disappointment when the other kids talk about Santa yet Santa doesn't come to your Dd!?

It's only once a year and we don't buy much stuff throughout the year we don't go overboard on birthdays he gets a present no more than around 20-30 quid for his birthday and that's it so I think it's a bit unreasonable not to spoil our kids one day a year x

It's not about stuff and consumerism is about giving.

I would at least buy a special ornament for the tree that then comes out every year.
And keep one thing that she wanted back so I could give it to her.

Control the present opening so the Thank Yous are genuine (every year I get a card from the adult parent of teenage boys which is a generic Thank You to everyone. Pointless)

And why did you ask?

Wow I can't imagine not doing anything Christmasy !

We have 5 children and I LOVE planning their stockings and presents , it is so magical creeping into their room with the stocking before bed!

Also I would hope that the person who knows your dd best in the world is you - all those little things you know she will love that your wider family won't think of will be missing from your dds Christmas.

My children get loads of presents from family as well but they are generic , clothes , random dolls and sets.

I get them the things I KNOW they want for example certain playmobil sets or my eldest this year wants roller skates.

Isn't a pile of crap under the tree part of what makes Christmas magical when you are a child .

I think your family probably goes crazy because you don't - if my sister got her kids a balloon for Christmas I would get 5+ gifts too.

It sounds like you need to take back some control and spend some time just thinking about your dd and the experiences and memories you are creating .

Make no mistake she will remember that you didn't do these things.

I was just about to say what soth said.

you should know your daughter best, which means you should be able to get her something she really really wants and is special.

I think it's a really shellfish mindset that you wouldn't get something just because other people pick up the tab.
Your daughter will remember it.

Your parents sound a bit over-involved in the whole process tbh.
You should be making your own traditions in your own house with your own family.

I couldn't give up on choosing my DCs' presents. As others have said it's the discovery of something absolutely perfect, that they wouldn't have even thought of themselves. I absolutely love it.