Not to buy my DD christmas presents?

[puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE]

Curious, based on a thread about how much people spend per child.

DD is 6. We have never bought her a christmas present aside from a helium balloon (she loves them). She is the only grandchild/niece or nephew in the family, therefore gets an inordinate amount of gifts from family members big family

AIBU not to buy her anything from me?

Missed out a bit there. Sort out the toys she has already and give to charity

Yes, a Christmas Eve treat might be good idea and doesn't have to be expensive

Well I wouldn't want grandparents doing my job of being Santa (they've had their turn ) & I'd be speaking to family again about the volume of gifts. Took us a few goes & there's still a mountain of presents but nowhere near previous quantity & my DS (now 9) would definitely notice if we didn't buy him anything

I think it's fine. If she's already getting loads of presents, then she's hardly deprived is she?! Personally I enjoy choosing presents for my DC, but I'm not enjoying the sheer mountain of 'stuff' we seem to have acquired and struggle to house. So really you're being sensible. Best of all would be to put the money you might spend in a savings account.

I love buying for my dd and seeing her little face when she opens the things I've bought for her and I find your set up very odd
I really hope that you buy your mum and dad really lovely gifts since they are basically doing your job for you. I bet they overcompensate and buy her much more because they know she'll get nothing from you

yanbu
we fo similar, mainly the dc have birthday close to christmas.
we give presents in the summer instead.

I really hope that you buy your mum and dad really lovely gifts since they are basically doing your job for you.

I don't. Can you imagine?

"Mummy gets everyone presents, except for me".

THAT will be damaging to her, if this isn't already as she gets older.

Do you lack in confidence as a parent a bit OP? I dont mean that to be rude at all but it seems odd to me that you would handover such a special time

Sounds very lazy on your behalf and getting off Scott free with any costs of your own sounds bloody miserable and ungracious of you somehow

Christmas is about giving, not about the volume of presents received. You've turned it into a transaction I.e. just about how many things your dd gets.

I would do something special for her. From you to her. That's what Christmas is about.

Ummmmm yes yes yes all very lovely but what aboot your inlaws, do they never get a look-in at seeing their gc or son on Christmas Day?

I would hate for my parents to have all the fun of choosing things my DD would love, wrapping them, doing her stocking etc. It's a special moment as a parent.

I lack confidence in general not, but the christmas thing is more to do with the quantity of gifts given and me not wanting to upset people by asking them not to get carried away. I understand how exciting it is for them to be able to do things for me DD and my family are always wanting to take her places/do things with her and I don't want to stop them doing that.

I have drawn the line with Disneyland and made it clear that I will be taking her, just me and her, when the time comes.

I think I will buy her something like tickets to a show or some event we can attend together.

*my DD

Figster I am eternally grateful for everything my family has done for my DD and I, do not underestimate that.

Ah right, have inferred you are a LP

What do you mean Dough?

Yes I am

Is there not a special book from your childhood that you would also like to make special for your daughter? Or just anything that you as her mother know that she would want, more than any mountain of toys from relatives?

Xmas eve pyjamas are done in my household too- love it. One of my favourite parts of Xmas, before the extended family stuff.

Hmmm when my sister was a LP my mum did a stocking and bought loads. My sister too.

I get that you don't want to offend them.

Personally I would want to at least do the stocking in my own house but we are all different.

The event thing is a good idea. You could make a token thingy.

Haven't we had this thread before?

I have no words.

I can only assume this isn't real.

You've asked this before. You got told the same things last time. What do you want to happen here?

I agree with you. How much you spend is not how much you love your child. I would probably buy something - bubble bath, pajamas. But I suppose only if she needed stuff. Like also idea of tickets for something but you might go anyway...

If she doesn't know what present is from whom under the tree, how can she thank the relatives though?

Agree with Marne I make a point of my ds knowing who's bought what so he can thank them

If it was me id rather the family cut bck on gifts and especially you describe it as crap I'd be the one buying knowing that it's stuff she will really love