Not to buy my DD christmas presents?

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Curious, based on a thread about how much people spend per child.

DD is 6. We have never bought her a christmas present aside from a helium balloon (she loves them). She is the only grandchild/niece or nephew in the family, therefore gets an inordinate amount of gifts from family members big family

AIBU not to buy her anything from me?

I would probably go for an activity or similar if you think she already has too much stuff, or possibly money into savings that she is aware of so can spend if she chooses. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with not buying your children a Christmas present - I find it hard to shop for my son as he never 'wants' anything and would rather just have time together than new 'things' (for the moment at least!).

No gym we stay at my parents from christmas eve. She does climb on my bed with her stocking. Just not at my house and with a stocking made by her grandparents.

Do your family know you don't buy her a thing? Maybe that's why they buy so much

I think it's odd too sorry. I love choosing bits for the boys stockings and one is 17. Why can't you do one too? Take her to choose one to hang up.

I can't help but think that any gift from me would just get lost in the pile of crap she gets.

So maybe you could get her something that isn't crap?

gym all that is done at my parents house. Carrot/mince pie/reindeer dust whatever the hell that is

I think the tickets idea is a good one. A day out as a family after Christmas as a present that she will remember as from you AND will be time together.
I always ask for a family trip (did Matilda last year) as my present from DH & DD's.

I know what you mean. Technicaly I get DD presents as I do stocking and a Santa present, but I don't do one from me.

In my house Santa delivers presents to our house and you get more when you go to Grandmas.

nancy they do know. I have explained why, but they just want to buy her a lot of stuff. My sister gets really carried away 5+ gifts. She apologises to me about it every year, but can't help it. It is very nice of them, but if they bought her less then yes I would buy her gifts too.

I can understand not adding to the mountain under the tree, I'm not really planning to get much for my son (8 months) for this reason, but I can't wait till he's old enough to do a stocking, I'd hate to miss out on doing that. But each to their own, if you are happy not doing it that's fine. So YANBU

I would definitely at least be buying tickets for panto/other type of show, or, for example, ThomasLand if she was into something like that.

I know the mountain of toys may be a bit much bit I couldn't not get anything. Or maybe tell the grandparents you are doing the stocking since they are buying other stuff anyway. Or how about a Christmas Eve hamper?

But she does know that Mummy pays for panto as an early present.

I don't see why you can't get her a small thoughtful gift? I like Marne's idea of taking her to an event or something.

There will come a day where she will start to notice that she gets presents from everyone but you. What conclusion she will draw from that, I don't know. At least do something for her.

Presents don't equal love, and we know that as adults. Children do not always understand such things.

I think now she is getting older, the trip out somewhere/tickets for a show would be a good thing. That could be our thing.

If she is getting lots from others it would seem you are spending money for the sake of it. If she gets a stocking and lots of presents I can't see why you should buy her anything. All I would say is will she be getting what she has asked for from her family? Will she want to know why her letter to Santa wasn't read?!

YABVU it doesn't matter how much other people buy her,I find it shocking that you don't bother buying presents for your own child

Actually come to think of it we all have a new outfit at xmas. Might start wrapping DD's up. You could do that OP

I tend to buy her gifts throughout the year, so I would assume that compared to some children she gets a lot of gifts for no reason, but christmas she is snowed under a pile of gifts. I do always buy her a birthday present as people seem to be more restrained at birthday gifts.

She does get a christmas outfit every year. We go out and choose it together then she wears it on christmas day. I don't wrap it though as I don't really see it as a gift.

Is this one of those threads where we all compete to see who gets their children the least?

Often the op will start with I bought my dd a wooden spoon, is that too much. Then there will be bunch of follow ups saying the dd with the spoon is spoilt and all their children need to make christmas is a grape.

Op you started the thread with buying your dd nothing, how can we under cut you!

I cannot get past the fact that she has no idea who has given her what under the tree. Does she just do a sort if generic thank you letter?

I take some toys away from DS at Christmas.

YABU. Do you buy other people presents ?

Is this one of those threads where we all compete to see who gets their children the least?

Pshh... I'll admit it. DD is only 7 months and I've probably gone overboard with toys she'll never play with.

I really can't see the problem with not getting her a present if she gets so many. It would make more sense to get her a present at another time when it would mean more.
DS gets very little compared to others we know. He really appreciates the things he does get.