Aibu to tell my sister to suck it up

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I've booked a trip to Disneyland for dcs birthday originally it was just going to be myself and dcs my sil asked if she could come so we booked everything and it was all paid up and my dsis asked if she could come but as the room was full she had to pay a reduced price for an extra room all was fine until exdp said he'd really love to join us after the last few months it would be a turning point
for us,I've given him the price of adding himself on and told my dsis about she is now refusing to go as she doesn't like exdp (neither do I but its besides the point) anyway she said he can buy her tickets which are almost twice as much as what I've told him he has to pay and I know if I tell him it's more it will cause an argument and he will probably end up not coming.
So would I bu to tell dsis it's tough I've given ex the price he has given me the money or tell ex he has to pay to more? U know their his dcs and he's a shit but he's not rolling in it.

YABVU firstly about expecting your sister to 'suck it up' and secondly expecting your sister to pay for an extra room then have to give it up to your sil, dn and ex. It doesn't matter if it was a reduced price she's still paid it and is entitled to full and exclusive use of it.

Nobody was on the original booking apart from myself and dcs everybody else wanted to come after I'd booked and paid for us
Dsis has not paid for a single room it is the same size as the one on the original booking as they didn't have any smaller ones available she doesn't have a problem sharing with me and dcs.

what kind of backstory are you wondering about?

'She doesn't have to speak to him...'

Gosh that would make for a pleasent atmostphere on holiday.

The backstory with your and your sister is what I'm wondering about, in a couple of posts you've hinted that she's hard work, or that she's making this all about her? I don't know.

Now you're just being plain daft. Do yourself a favour - ask mnhq to delete this thread - you're obviously incapable of understanding what's being said and your coming over as rather stupid.

I didn't want to go on holiday with any of them I would have said no it's as simple as that.

Your DSis signed up for a holiday with you, your DC, your SIL and your DN. She was to stay in a room on her own. Your ExP is now coming (who presumably she doesn't want to go on holiday with), the bedroom arrangements have changed as a result, and so she has said no.

Only one person is being (V) unreasonable here.

So your ex gets to 'take his kids to Disneyland' for the price of just 1 adult. How nice for him!

You sound as though you are bending over backwards to be nice to him. What for? If he wants a holiday with his DC then HE pays for them thats what normally happens when you break up!

You WILL be stressed going away with him, stop being deluded about it. This has the potential of REALLY upsetting your DC.

Oh and your DSis has every right to decline. TBH i think you were very rude letting her join without checking with your DSIL.

Ok for example at our Nan's funeral she was refusing to come if she and her mum didn't have their own family car as she didn't want to sit with everybody else or just basically trying to find ways of making everything about her when and where things are done it all has to revolve around her and if it doesn't she acts like a brat.

So why if your sis and exp were added onto the booking at the same time is it costing your exp more to transfer the tickets into his name if your sis cancels if he already has his own booking

Sounds like brattish behaviour runs in the family

Sorry - that sounded harsher than intended.

Because my sister booked two weeks ago and he asked me to book on fri.
I've told her about it she doesn't like the idea has said he can buy her ticket which will cost over the odds for name change instead of adding him on

Sorry, but it's the least you and your xdp can do after giving her out of her holiday.

Accurate though curly

How exactly am I being a brat?
The whole bloody situation is ridiculous tbh.

He's already getting to play happy families, and only paying for himself, I would have thought he'd be happy as a pig in shit?

It is ridiculous. Particularly the notion you have that it's your holiday even though the other parties have paid for themselves. Clean up the mess you made OP.

I have not said that its my holiday I said it was originally just myself and the dcs.

Seriously what is wrong with a dad ok not a great dad being able to share something with his dcs yes we have our differences and yes he fucked up a few too many times I mean really I give up.

Because she booked first on the understanding that it was just you , sis and dsil.
now exp has decided to throw you a bone and wants to restart contact and join the holiday even though your sister (who booked and paid first) says she would no longer want to go as she does not like him.
you are expecting her to either put up with it, spend money on a holiday with someone that she does not want to speak to effectively ensuring she has a shit time.she has offered him to buy her ticket.. You and he are the one moaning that now it will cost him more.
why should she shell out for her holiday to be ruined by your choice.
why not just tell your sis the truth and say, actually i was happy for you to come , i took your money and booked it but now exp has shown a internet i would much rather upset your holiday than risk upsetting him

Oh ffs -pay dsis what's owed and go with your ex if that's what you want. Totally unfair on dc, dsil and dn - but hey ho, it's not like you've really considered their wishes and feelings anyway. You are either deluded or lying about your intentions/relationship with your ex IMHO.

Offs..there is nothing wrong with your exp wanting to go on holiday with his children. But why should your sister have to give up her holiday when she had booked and paid for it first. Why is she getting hammered into either staying at home or going on holiday with a bloke she cant stand so he doesn't have to pay extra

This has got me practically reaching for the vodka .. It is almost like the op is deliberately trying to miss the point

Take it the ow relationship didn't work out?

I'm off to bed