Aibu to tell my sister to suck it up

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I've booked a trip to Disneyland for dcs birthday originally it was just going to be myself and dcs my sil asked if she could come so we booked everything and it was all paid up and my dsis asked if she could come but as the room was full she had to pay a reduced price for an extra room all was fine until exdp said he'd really love to join us after the last few months it would be a turning point
for us,I've given him the price of adding himself on and told my dsis about she is now refusing to go as she doesn't like exdp (neither do I but its besides the point) anyway she said he can buy her tickets which are almost twice as much as what I've told him he has to pay and I know if I tell him it's more it will cause an argument and he will probably end up not coming.
So would I bu to tell dsis it's tough I've given ex the price he has given me the money or tell ex he has to pay to more? U know their his dcs and he's a shit but he's not rolling in it.

By agreeing to the others coming along, it stopped being your holiday to do with as you wished. YABU to expect everything on your terms and to get pissy with your dsis. Good luck with your choice - although it seems you've already made it!

Blankie it's my sister who has the problem sil is his sister who is also coming with us,he isn't demanding anything he wouldn't get very far if he was.

Yes, bollocks to the fact we've made plans, and you've booked time off work and paid in full for a holiday. My cheating x is coming now, if you don't like it tough.

That's just not on.

So basically if sis doesn't go to a holiday with someone she doesn't like she will be made to feel guilty as it would cost exp more

YANBU. It's your holiday which you planned so do as you please with it.

Tell dsis that SIL doesn't want her there

Nailed it mother

Look my ex is a twat but I'm trying to see things from both sides they have both as you like to put it bastard booked time off work both want to see dcs enjoy their birthday/holiday and dcs of course want their dad to be there as well as their aunt.

Whether she likes or hates your ex is almost irrelevant, it is common courtesy to ask her if she minded another person joining the holiday.

Why do I get the feeling there's more to it? Has he tried it in with your sister?

What a load of crap. It makes no difference if she has or hasn't got on with him in the past. Just having a man there at all changes the dynamic massively. The fact it's a cheating arse who you don't like either just makes it worse, to the point of being horrific.

But nobody could be as obtuse as to not know that. So I'm wondering what your angle is here.

yabu

Dunno, I would have run it past Sis when he first asked

Nothing wrong with you sharing a different holiday op with your dc and ex in the future.

No it's up to her if she doesn't want to come I won't and haven't made her feel guilty it's her parogative I would love all of them to come.

Agree Morris

She might have been civil to him in the past after you split, but has she ever had to spend longer than a day with him since then? Theres only so long you can keep up with the niceness to someone you dont like.

I'm ok with my ex, but any longer than a day and I'd throttle him.

Op I think you are deliberately missing the point despite this thread having reached over a hundred replies.

And it is up to exp if he does want to come. He will need to 'just suck it up' and perhaps should realise that he shouldn't moan about the extra cost as he is the one who has decided to go to the detriment of someone who had already paid and booked

If you just wanted a holiday with your dcs, you should have gone with it. As it is you've accepted everyone else who wanted to come, but with absolutely no consideration shown to any of them.

But I'm curious about how you are going to refund her, if your ex isn't going to buy her ticket?

And I really don't understand how you think you can go from no contact to a Disney holiday with your ex. Sounds like it will be the holiday from hell, with your relationship with your sis, who it sounds like you don't like anyway, down the drain.

Coy. I have been wondering how sis will be refunded as well.

Can't you just get them both in a room and talk to them. If it was me I'd tell them they need to sort it out and be grown ups for the Dc's.

As you were originally planning on going on your own can't you tell them you want them all there if they refuse you'll go back to your original plan of just you and Dc's so it's fair on everyone.

You've been totally unreasonable but obviously can't see beyond your own narrow view point

It's your sis holiday too you know. I know you don't think it is

'Holiday of a lifetime'

What a load of crap. Hundreds of planes travel between LAX and all over the world every single day. I live in Australia and I've been to Disney four times on different trips. It's not a 'holiday of a lifetime' it's a trip to a theme park. I'm sure your sister will have plenty of opportunities to travel there in the future if she should choose to. But I don't go on holidays with arseholes, end of story. It's my holidays, and I will only go with people I like. Otherwise I'll go another time.

This Is my point he has paid exactly the same amount as my sister and because she doesn't like him or want to come he has to pay extra they have both given me money after the original booking was made so they are both in the same position.

I love my sister but she is a very selfish person (some of you may think I am) who is known to do this sort of thing very often.