to ask you how often you have sex?

[FruitCakey]

DH and I go through phases.
We have been together for almost 9 years and married 5 years (tomorrow is our anniversary.) At times, sex can be most nights, other times it can be weeks without anything. 99% of the time, it's shit!

So I am going to be nosey and dig.
How many of you are satisfied with your sex life? How often is enough for you?

Please don't reply if you're not comfortable answering.

And nobody will convince me that men over 35 look good, I've never met one.
don't say that! my DP turns 35 very soon :S

I think he looks amazing.

Of course it isn't odd that you are different.

I just think it is horrible that you have felt constant pressure to have sex.

And my husband is almost 40. He works out three times a week and has a very toned body. I think it is shocking that you have never met a handsome man over the age of 35.

My husband is bloody gorgeous and still manages to turn heads at times. Unlike me ;) I have met many handsome men in their 40's and 50's.

You've never meet a man over 35 who looks good? Good Lord, do you every actually leave your house? Imagine if a man said that

I thought she might be about 18 years old, but then realised she said she was getting older so I doubt she is very young.

I do think it is sad that anyone ever feels pressure to have sex a certain amount of times, but I guess I can see that happening if you are with someone with mixed matched sex drives.

Every four days or so.

Dame - men do say that, all the time and even if they don't say it the majority of men prefer younger women. I leave the house every day, I live in a city where there are lots of men, none of them are attractive, the last time I saw an attractive man was about 2 years ago, he must have been just vistiing. My friends agree with me and most of them are single, so it's not just me being picky.

I know some men say it, doesn't make it right! I think men improve greatly as they age. Perhaps all my mates have really dishy husbands

Lol @ I live in a city where none of the men are attractive

Which City is this? Just so I can avoid it!

About once or twice a month and that's fine for us

Never.

Roughly once every 8-12 weeks ... if that. Together 13 years and married 10 ... 3 dc's 11, 7 & 3. God its depressing... mind you I gave off to him when we were going out that him never trying it on made me feel like shit.

I guess I have the sex life I deserve. , When we talk about it, only after I bring it up, he says he's embarrassed because he comes so quickly - I don't get this - why wouldn't he try to change things if he's not happy?

He doesn't try anything new ever, neither do I , because of the constant rejection. I am devastated. This is as good as it gets I fear.

I'm only 38 but feel so old, and dead inside.

DH works shifts so when he's on nights it's every couple of days, when he's on day shifts it's every day.

I'm incredibly lucky that regardless of the frequency, we are very sexually compatible and it is 99% of the time amazing!

for those who regularly are intimate - would you say you find your OH attractive? Can you fake the attraction if not?

I am not in the lease bit attracted to my husband although I have never told him this - in the time we've been together I have gained approx. 7 stones... he about 4.

We never kiss - I always used to love kissing.

Meoryou I still find my dh incredibly attractive

I imagine that must feel really special :) and close ... would really like to have that I think. but got to work on me first!!

I never thought I would reach the day where men over 35 were attractive but I have realized that the most attractive men I see now are probably late 40's even early 50's, greying hair, in good shape, well dressed and confident - gorgeous. Wouldn't touch a 20 or 30 something anymore and I'm only just 40.

U2TheEdge Your situation sounds very much like ours, we always say, why do we not do this more often but we know there are reasons we can't/don't. A marriage is so much more than sex every night and I guess I would be more concerned if it wasn't.

DH is 47 and I am 34, I am currently fit and toned and work out lots and he is 2 stone overweight but I still find him very attractive and can't imagine ever not feeling that way. Older men are so much more attractive than younger men IMO.

Obviously I can appreciate nice toned bodies like David Beckhams but I still love and fancy my DH.

meoryou

I find my DH very attractive still, lucky sod is ageing well!!

Married with one, together 4 years, and we do it at least twice a week, more if we're not too knackered.

I have read every single post in this thread and am amazed at the frequency that some of you have sex even in long term relationships. I would say me and DH and about once every 6 - 8 weeks. We have been married 10 years and have 2 kids. We both know it should be probably be more often but we are both as bad as each other in initiating it. Lazyness really. We both still fancy each other and when we do actually do it it is amazing. He is very attentive and good with his hands and although it is so good I still can't fathom the energy on most nights.

I did used to have a boyfriend who for 4 years insisted on sex every night and sometimes more often. I found it repetitive and boring after a while and actually started to resent it.

It is definitely quality rather than quantity and there is no "average" so long as you are both in agreement. I do wish sometimes that DH could snuggle up in bed a bit more but when I bring this up he says "well you don't either" which is true.

Never seen an attractive man over 35!

Norman Reedus is almost 46 and I'd shag him bow legged.

Dp and I used to be daily. Then a couple of times a week. Now around once a fortnight. I have a high sex drive and could do it more often but I have to admit I like the gaps. When we do dtd it's fantastic

Together for 10 years, married for 7, one DC (5). Once a month or so? DH stopped initiating, because I turned him down most of the time. Sex is ok/good when it happens, though. Don't find him very attractive (never did), but love him.

Also have to find the energy for a shower and a massive (over 30 min long) hair removal session beforehand, and an immeduate shower afterwards, so quite often just cba. Btw showers are to prevent uti (I am prone to them), and hair removal session is necessary for me to feel confident and attractive (I am "blessed" with the v hairy gene).