to ask you how often you have sex?

[FruitCakey]

DH and I go through phases.
We have been together for almost 9 years and married 5 years (tomorrow is our anniversary.) At times, sex can be most nights, other times it can be weeks without anything. 99% of the time, it's shit!

So I am going to be nosey and dig.
How many of you are satisfied with your sex life? How often is enough for you?

Please don't reply if you're not comfortable answering.

Around three times a month; a few years ago it was every six weeks! We'd become stuck in a rut but we talked it through and all is well now.

We're TTC at the moment so a bit more than usual, every other day around the middle of my cycle. It's not our "natural" pattern though and be hard work to get motivated.

Been together eight years and both work full time.

*can be

@ Lime

Not since last Christmas. no kids, mid 30's. In all other ways and appearances we are 'the perfect couple' but I just dont want to have sex. Feeling is mutual, but we grt on very well with no close contact.Previously i had a very high sex drive and had numerous partners in my 20s and admittedly used to be clingy to affection in past relationships. Doesnt factor in atall now which is weird, yet I feel most content and relaxed in my own being as ever.

Can I be extra nosey and ask those that have sex a LOT: do you orgasm every time? Not sure I've got time in my life for the amount of foreplay that that would demand.

Its ebbs and flows but normally 2-3 times a week.

We've been together 11 years, married for 8. Two kids and one on the way.

Curly almost always. I'd say there's o ly been a handful of times in the decade or so that I haven't.

Never for the last 14 years and happy with the situation as is dh.

Been together 19 years and married for 12. We used to go through phases from every few days 3x a day to every few weeks.
We have not had sex now for 2.5 years ! Yes 2.5 years

Been together 5 years. Sex at least once a week, we never let a week go by without it! Sometimes two or three times. Very rarely more than that. We have no kids together.

More often than a Starbucks Honey and Almond Latte.

About once a fortnight. Together 8 years, married almost 5. 2 kids (age 5 months and 3 years).
I can think of a million reasons why... And also a million excuses.
It's not that i don't love sex... I miss sex... I just prefer good sex. Which in my opinion is 'new relationship' sex. So it becomes a bit of an obligation.

You all know that new relationship feeling...When you're not tired. When you still look good. When neither of you have farted (or gone to the loo) in front of the other yet. Or seen you flabby gut leaky boobs and no sleep after pushing a baby out blood and gore and all...When stress is minimal. When time is a plenty. And holidays... Oh! The childless holiday sex
When you can spend all of your time on primping and all of your money on looking great. Like..you know...haircuts. Taming the monobrow etc. When you, or he, hasn't yet said or done anything to hurt the other irreparably. For most women they have to trust... To feel, to have that kind of beautiful ground shaking chemistry. Men can just think of boobs and bob's your uncle.

We are very infrequent; once a month or so, sometimes every other month. Together 14 yrs, married 3 and 2 dc (8 and 5).
Both work, I do 2 part time jobs and charity work. Dh works long hours. Dc do loads of clubs.
We are just too knackered! Used to have a high sex drive, never imagined that our relationship would become virtually sexless.

DH went off sex when I was expecting ds (5), it's a miracle dd (3) came along at all as I can count on one hand the number of times we've shagged in 6 years. It has caused big problems in our marriage. We have been though me trying everything I can to arouse him, crying with the hurt of rejection, begging him to see a doctor or at least talk to me about why, and we have now moved onto giving up and into separate rooms. Been together 14 years, married for 10.

I haven't had a conventional relationship in years - single parent, enjoy my space and my independence. Still just enjoying my 20's, tbh. Cannot be bothered with relationship politics.

I have a few guys in my phone book that I have an, uh, understanding with. It's fun and light and casual. Depending on the guy and the circumstances, I may see him multiple times a week or once in a blue moon. Depends how I feel really

Edwinbear so sorry.

I get a fabulous nights sleep every night though

Edwinbear,

I am not going to lie, I wish I could get away with having a separate bed because the sex between DH and I is dire.

We were at 2 to 3 times a week until I was very ill in May, hospitalized 4 times and 2 major surgeries -which resulted in half my intestines removed and a feeding tube placed in my stomach. Now trying at least 2 times a week if Im well enough (especially since returnong to work 3 weeks ago and Im really tired all the time), but I always make sure he's taken care of even if I cant dtd properly.

Thank god my DH is very understandimg and is still concerned he may hurt me (hes very concerned about me since I almost died twice) since just had feeding tube removed 2.5 wks ago my belly is very sore still.

I know hes happy as long as I try or at least make an effort to him feel good. Have gotten very good at oral.

Been together 7 yrs married 3 this past Tuesday. HTH

BTW we do have separate beds at the time because of my medical ishoos. Hope to merge back to our bed on a few more weeks. Once all medical stuff (monitors and machines) are finally no longer inuse.by Christmas at least. Fingers crossed.

Phases. Sometimes only once in a week (particularly when we have a small baby), sometimes 5 times. It is always very good. I think I knew I would marry him as soon as we had sex. It is much better than it was with anyone else.

All I'm going to say is, I'm pretty sure my virginity has grown back

curly with my medical issues, i can not have an orgasm, but dh does not know it. Remenber tha movie when Harry met Sally, Im very good at faking it, it makes him happy as he tried so hard to me me, but it is medically impossible, but he doesnt need to know. My dirty little secret.

wiener - Your reply made me chuckle! Love your sense of humour, even if you do feel it's true.

I can't orgasm either, notmeagain. I fake and I fake very well.