to ask you how often you have sex?

[FruitCakey]

DH and I go through phases.
We have been together for almost 9 years and married 5 years (tomorrow is our anniversary.) At times, sex can be most nights, other times it can be weeks without anything. 99% of the time, it's shit!

So I am going to be nosey and dig.
How many of you are satisfied with your sex life? How often is enough for you?

Please don't reply if you're not comfortable answering.

Around once a month. I'm not happy about it but I don't know what to do to make it better. I'm the problem not DH.

Oh aren't you all so lovely! Tea and undersexed, inappropriately long hugs for all of you.

Spider, why do you presume that you're the problem?

Together 5 years -We used to every night, but both have long commutes and long hours in the city so quite often it's reserved for weekends when we can really enjoy it and take the time. That said, I'm now 11 weeks pregnant and at first was randy as sin until the morning sickness and extreme fatigue (and mc fear) set in, so it went down to once a week. Happily I feel a bit more human now so we are back to weekend and 1-2 times during the week.

I love this thread. I knew there would be wide variations, but there seem to be a fair few who are at it once a week or so.

DH thinks most average couples are doing it 2-3 times a week. I told him there's no such thing as an average couple

Also, anyone else think there might be a correlation between length of time together and frequency?

Brickle

We were like animals when we first met. Used to do it at least daily but sometimes 2-3 times a day . We were horny teenagers tbf .

Since DC it's rapidly declined. We were managing weekly with two DC but since DC3 was born a little over two years ago we're down to fortnightly. Sometimes only once a month. I CBA! It's too much hassle. I'm knackered by the time I get to bed. DH would still have it daily if he had it his way... If I'm honest sometimes I only have sex with him to shut him up, that's bad isn't it?

Once a day for me, but only once a month for poor DH

Been together almost 10yrs, married for 8, 2DC aged 3&6

Twice a week. We have "sex nights" on two particular night a week after my libido disappeared after the birth of DC2 and we were at loggerheads over how much he wanted (every day) and how much I wanted (never again) so we have compromised and so far it's working - well, he still gets frustrated it's not more often and I still often cba but now we KNOW it helps neither of us get resentful

I feel bad really as in our hey day we were that couple doing it several times a night. Even after DC1 we averaged 4-5x a week

Between 2 and 4 times a month, but usually clustered around the middle of my cycle, i.e. driven by my sex drive not his. Been together 20+ years. Would prefer a bit more, but not grumbling (much).

About every 2 weeks. Could be less but could be more. We're both fine with it.

Sorry, but should have said that we've been married for 23 years.

Usually 2-3 a day (sometimes 1 or 2 of those times is oral though as don't always have the oomph for penetrative) Both high sex drive.

Single parent. Once a week here with my best friend.

Would rather it were more but circumstances aren't working that way

Once a day for me, but only once a month for poor DH

gellicleCat Really?! I'm confused!

Those who have sex every day, when do you actually have the time?!?

Been with DP nearly 8 years. Both work long hours. His working patterns are different to mine and we go to bed and get up at different times. I'm not usually that keen to dtd when he comes to bed in the middle of (my) night and he's not usually like that keen when I get up in the middle of (his) night!

We go through phases, usually on both weekend days but could be a few weeks without if we miss those n

Usually 2-3 a day

When? When I earth do you have the time??

I think phases are normal.

Been married 11.5 years, together for 18.

On average 2-4 times a week, but will sometimes have an off phase if one or both of us is tired/stressed/unwell.

Rarely go more than 10-14 says surtout something though !

Been together over 3 years. When we first met, we used to have sex 2 or 3 times a night most days (gyac - he's younger than me), but since having DS in May, I just don't want it. At all. Feel very guilty and unhappy because I'm trying to dodge the issue all the time.

Probably once per month on average. Can definitely count on both hands and maybe one foot the number of times since DS was born and he is 15 months.

Was probably once a week at the most before he was born.

My libido is definitely lower than DH's

once in the last 3 years (been married 10 years)

It's been a verrrry long time. I have a six week old baby so not for six weeks. But before that, I was on pelvic rest for placenta previa since the 20 week scan.
So prob six months since we've had any action

Probably once a week at mo - 35wks pregnant with DC4. Sometimes more often, sometimes less but I think we both feel a bit out of sorts if we don't manage it once over the weekend.

whois every morning (more out of routine really, though still enjoyable) and if we can fit a little something quick in early evening. Then at night, pretty much every night. If one of us has been out for the night, it's usual to give the other a nudge when getting into bed to see if they're up for a quickie. I've been through droughts though in the past. But because we both feel the need for it, it works for us. Don't get me wrong, it can be over in a flash, it's rarely a marathon

2/3 times a day apart from 1 week a month where it's pretty much nothing (PMS!)
usually when we get back from work, later in evening then before getting up :)