to ask you how often you have sex?

[FruitCakey]

DH and I go through phases.
We have been together for almost 9 years and married 5 years (tomorrow is our anniversary.) At times, sex can be most nights, other times it can be weeks without anything. 99% of the time, it's shit!

So I am going to be nosey and dig.
How many of you are satisfied with your sex life? How often is enough for you?

Please don't reply if you're not comfortable answering.

I am surprised people do it so often,if you do it everyday does it not getting a bit repetitive?!
At the moment it is once a month, sometimes less. Used to be once a fortnight pre non sleeping ds. Now if I have free time I just want to sleep!
Been together 9 years,married for 3.

To be honest I have no idea as we tend to have TTC sex (me instigating, him acting like he would rather do anything else bar fuck me) on the whole with two episodes of spontaneous sex each month I would say.

I am not happy with the state of our sex life to be honest. My ex was permanently horny and made me feel like a sexy goddess. DP, because of his low libido, rarely makes me feel like anything beyond a nag. It's a real shame as otherwise we have a fantastic relationship.

Been together 14 years married 3. On average every 5 days. I thought it was low but looking at this thread it's the norm. Dh didn't go near me when Oregon with dd he was weirded out :-)

It varies. At the moment 1-2 x a day, we are both freelancers and are home at lunch time. Which is great while DS is at school. During the school holidays is probably 3-4 x per week when in bed. Daytime is much more fun.

In the past it has been less, but always a minimum of 1-2 x per week.

We've been together for 20 years.

Together nearly 8 years, ebbs and flows. Was everyday we saw each other at the beginning. Dwindled to one a month last few years. DH has had some pretty serious health issues. But we both want it more and have recently been twice weekly.

Because it got so infrequent I started to feel a lot of pressure that it had to be perfect, so I would only do it if I had a waxed fanjo and legs. It got ridiculous, (DH said it made no difference to him), so now I'm working on being more comfortable with myself and going with the flow a bit more.

It's much better now, definitely the more you do it, the more you want it and the better it gets.

I agree with what hotdog said, the more you do it the more you want it.

I think I have read right through this thread, and am surprised that noone has mentioned any impact from where they are in their cycle. We (DH 'n me) have faced a number of health challenges, which obvs. has an impact on both of us. Cancer surgery etc.

Aside from all that, though, for me, there is a time of the month when i can take it or leave it, and another phase, when i really, really notice. Strangely enough, if my skin is ever going to breakout, its exactly then, when I find all thoughts lead to orgasm.

Have been with my current dh for some twenty years, of which ten since we got married, he knows that when i have spots I'm probably up for it. I like that we know each other well enough as, well, animals, that he knows this about me. I couldn't bear other people to know. But i like it that he worked it out. Well, that he noticed how my cycle impacts me. Reader, I married him but it still took a few years for him to work it out. And that I am a morning person. Sigh.

OK, having read this thread, I'm now thinking its just me then. Would love to be proved wrong.

Together 18 months. We both work full time (same place!) 9-5s but I have two DCs (not his) to take care of during the week and every other weekend. So I generally see him 1-2 days a week for overnight stays.
Over any 24 hour period we are together, anything between 3-4 or even five times once A few times in the evening/day and then in the morning.
We do go out but we'll generally come home early and spend a good while in bed watching films and .. ahem. He's the first man I've been with that can rise to the occasion several times with little rest between .
It NEVER gets boring. We meet up for lunches and meals during the week to do our actual talking

With my ex (DCs dad) it was once or twice a week at best, sometimes once every two weeks. This did not work for me at all, we were together for 7 years in total and even after our children were born I would have been happy with it daily, or at least every other day.
My drive was way higher than his sadly.

Nowhere near bloody often enough! That's how much we do it :( I have a high sex drive, hubby has an incredibly low one, he's happy to go about 4 weeks without showing any interest :( it's not like I even want it that much, I'd settle for twice a week, yet it's a miracle to get it twice a month. Booooooo booooo hubby boooo.

Usually about twice a week but can be more if we have the time or a day off.
I would probably an every night kind of women but we don't live together.
I guess it's quality not quantity though.

Too long and I'm sick of always being the one instigating- or at least it feels that way. I'm frustrated and despite it being his low sex drive it makes me feel rejected.

Been about 6 years since sex. Together 20 . My illness and his lacking sex drive he's a lot older.

UABU

Together 8 years. Married 2.

When we were first together it would be more than once per night. (3 or 4, up to 8) Now we have settled at 2/3 times a week.

When DHs is off work it's most nights.

I'd be at it every 10 mins if i had my way

Very happy with how it is though.

We've been together nearly 25 years and we go through phases but it's never shit.

Wow!!! Nowhere near as often as all you lot.

fruitcakey DH is always up for it and willing. I'm not. I know the issues lie with me. Life is just so busy, we have zero time alone (literally), no date nights, nothing, which I think is a huge factor. Multiple DC, tiny house, long working hours.....just so many negative factors.

spamanderson exactly the same as you. About once every 4-6 weeks, it is a problem as I would like more (cries) but hubby is not very interested and I often feel a big down about this but don't know what to do about it. We do have a 2 year old DS, so we are both tired a lot, but I still feel we should make more time for each other. I'm jealous of all the posters who do it 2-3 times a week!

5 times since last Christmas.

Yes you are. Mind yer own

Goodness less than you shagaholics. Once a month, tops. Been together 15 years, 2 young kids.

we haven't had sex since I found out I was pregnant. dd is now 10 months old. We've only been married 2 years
I have felt so rejected that I'm not interested anymore. it was shit anyway and I never really enjoyed it coz I got nothing out of it. he says it's me rejecting him because he can never accept fault even though I was nagging about having sex whilst pregnant.
I am going to sit here and be jealous of all you shagging like crazy

Suppose I might do it tonight since you made me feel a bit guilty about frequency haha. We do it at the weekend couple of times on a sat night. Generally I can't be arsed during the week and would rather just sleep although sometimes in the lead up to ovulation I get really horny and he gets really lucky for a week. We have been together forteen years in January and have three kids aged 10-2, he has his own business and I work too but I am just too tired by the time my eldest finally settles down to sleep. How do people do it often as kids get older and are awake later and sleep lighter?

Been together 9 years, married 5.5 years. We have 4 kids (2 are mine from a previous relationship) and before our last baby we had sex around 2-3 times a week. Our youngest is only 16 weeks old so we've not got our sex life back on track yet. We've managed it around 5 or 6 times since she was born but that's about it. It'll take a good few months before we're back to normal. The same happened after our other child was born as the usual new parent exhaustion takes over but I know it'll pass so I'm not bothered.