To be very upset about how this friend has treated me?

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I've namechanged as this will probably make me recognisable.

I run twice a week with a friend, and have done for about 2 years. I've always thought that we got on well. We met through our DDs' school.

Lately my friend has been a bit off with me. Nothing I can put my finger on but I've just had vibes that she's being off. She has also become quite friendly with another mum from school, who for some reason has never liked me and has always been quite rude to me.

For the past fortnight my friend has said that she has hurt her back and so doesn't want to do any running for a few weeks. I had no problem with this and haven't been running myself since she said this. She actually sent me a text yesterday saying that her back is still bad, and she's going to have a couple more weeks of no running.

So, this morning I decided to have a run on my own, and about a mile down the road who did I see but said friend out for a run with the woman that doesn't like me! We actually had to run past each other so I put on a brave face and just said hello in a cheerful tone, but when I got home I actually felt really upset.

I enjoy running with my friend, I've started to really look forward to us going. And I'm upset about the nasty undertones that have clearly been there, and feel silly for not picking up on it.

AIBU to be upset or do I need to get a grip?

I think she's a bitch. Lying to someone who is supposed to be a friend, then cackling away to each other when caught is bitchy behaviour. If the cap fits....hope you're ok OP x

Yes, it's the cackling that gives it away: the bitchiness, I mean.

People can be so, so weird. So solid and then suddenly, given the right set of circumstances/influences, so cruel and flaky.

Honestly it's why nazism flourished/flourishes: normal people wanting to 'fit in'.

And no I'm not saying bumping a friend from a running engagement is tantamount to fascism, I'm saying that human nature is weak sometimes.

I get you Atrocious, the sheep mentality.

Sheep mentality is exactly how I described her behaviour to DH when I was chatting to him about it.

I saw my 'friend' again this morning; she was very friendly and seemed like she wanted to chat but I was polite but busy.

Good for you, she's probably had time to think about what she has done and now feels guilty as you have risen above it.
Keep up the polite but busy air, that will no doubt bother her more.

Well done op!
That's the best thing you could have done.
She'll be feeling bad about it now

Nice job! You handled it perfectly.

Just seen her again and she was with the other friend and she just walked straight past me and didn't even acknowledge me.

Glad I've disengaged from her. I can't be bothered with all this childish rubbish.

She really does sound v childish. Much better to know where you stand with people!

Aha! Just seen your latest post OP. So now you know: she does still want to be friends, and regards you as a friend, unless the other woman is around, in which case you will be ignored or mocked. So your friend is revealed as weak and disloyal. But also stupid: why does she think you will be content to be snubbed one minute and chatted to the next, without saying anything?

I have to say if someone was doing this to me I'd probably stop saying hello altogether. It's too tiresome to have to work out whether you are going to be greeted or cut dead, best not to engage at all.

I think I'll just carry on saying hello to her but not engaging with her. I bet it will drive her mad acting as if I haven't noticed her games.

I agree Abbie very childish, at least now you know her true colours.