To think that nasty and callous responses seem to have increased on MN recently?

[Tinytillytot]

On AIBU and relationships? Some of the responses have made me feel really down on behalf of the OP?

I've seen in the last couple of days:

One MNer advising they would NOT want their husband talking to a "depressed person" a few times a week (OP had depression and a close bond spanning a few years within ex colleague who had obv. become a great friend)

One MNer asking "FGS is this the 50s" when an obviously devastated woman asked expressed anger and disbelief at possibly (almost definitely cheating) Dh AND the OW

A woman angrily labelling a landlord with a dilemma greedy and immoral for not GIVING AWAY her house to a tenant unable to pay the rent

And just a general increase in the eye rolling, dismissive and cutting put downs to some generally hurt people reaching out for a bit of support?

It's as cold as a nuns t*t in MN world at the moment.

And I've come across some really really lovely posters recently, who've reached out and made me feel better.

But focus on the few people who are having a bad day/aren't very sensitive if you want...

I'm fairly new here and have been amazed in both good and bad ways at the responses some posters have received.

I agree with others are getting fed up with trolls, and with namechanging, lying, shit-stirrers, but equally agree that the increase in posters just being spiteful arseholes for the sake of it is pretty tedious too.

I'm find I'm getting softer. Most worrying.

What? Toughen up woman, what are you thinking?

what Fenton said.

getting really, really tired of people sticking the knife in just for the sake of trying to make themselves look big and clever. You dont, you just look like a twat.

Aye.

Especially when the person doing it doesn't realise that they're so obvious they might as well have their usual MN name on the hoverer thingy.

So obvious. And utterly cowardly really. If you're going to be an arse, at least own the shit that comes out of it.

As for trolls, well, you just can't get the right sort anymore. Time was, they'd have us all going for days. Now you just see the thread title and think "oh give over". A shocking symbol of dumbed down Britain. Not even the trolls can do their jobs properly anymore.

Hey ho.

It's no worse than usual.

It's been bitchy for years. YEARS.

As for trolls, well, you just can't get the right sort anymore. Time was, they'd have us all going for days. Now you just see the thread title and think "oh give over". A shocking symbol of dumbed down Britain. Not even the trolls can do their jobs properly anymore

So very true!!

When I first joined no one spoke to you for months. It's just bigger now.

in my day the trolls were so good they'd have the shoes off your feet and the coat of your back before you even realised they were wearing Manolos and a Mink coat... ::nostalgic sigh::

Yeah.

Trolls these days are watery weak.

Meh it's fine.

Sick of these threads that slag off mumsnet.

Who is Matthew wright? If he's day time twat then wouldn't know him.

Mumsnet is full if string supportive funny and kind women supporting each other and having the odd spat to liven things up

Assume these posts are from daily mail arse wipe journalists or strange men.

Mumsnet has always been robust. There's a lot of kindness there too.

I consider myself to be quite bright yet often fail to spot a troll. I turn a bit Rose from the Golden Girls and just take threads on face value. I think it's because they often turn out to be trolling with the most mundane of subjects.

oooommm

miss, miss, Maryz's got a ticker!!!

cold as nuns tits?
Not very pleasant analagy there.

I'm pretty new too and although there are a fair few comments that have me thinking "wow, that was rude!", I think the kind and helpful advice comments greatly outweigh them.

I'm not sure the right tone always comes across so maybe if things were said in RL they wouldn't sound as blunt as they come across typed down...

And some people are downright rude They seem in the minority though I think!

Also fed up of people slagging off MN and making threads about threads. It's not mandatory to be here!

This place goes through phases of trolltastic.

Tiny I totally agree. I am thinking off deregistering and fucking off actually. Maybe Mr Wright is right. We are in the midst of self absorbed vipers.
It makes me very sad in all honesty
So much for sisterhood.

butter you are so right about things being typed sometimes sounding blunt. I was in a Whats App group that ended up in a big bunfight for basically that reason..

Yes. Over the last few days I've had some of the rudest, shittiest, personal digs I've ever had on here. Wonderful when you come on here for a few minutes respite from real life crap. Makes you feel great.

Mmmm it's strange that the posters who say they are fed up etc are names I have never seen before this thread and I mumsnet far far too much.

Strange.

Don't get me wrong, there are loads of lovely MNers, the majority for sure, it just seems that it's becoming less common to see a thread without at least one hostile or needlessly rude comment. I wasn't slagging MN off as a whole. I'm an MN addict, I lovessss it but I agree with DOGSINBOOTS I have considered trying to kick the habit recently due to the nasty pasties

It just makes me feel a bit when people really go after vulnerable/sad people. It's blatant nasty bullying sometimes.

I'm rubbish at troll spotting too which probably doesn't help!!!