To think that nasty and callous responses seem to have increased on MN recently?

[Tinytillytot]

On AIBU and relationships? Some of the responses have made me feel really down on behalf of the OP?

I've seen in the last couple of days:

One MNer advising they would NOT want their husband talking to a "depressed person" a few times a week (OP had depression and a close bond spanning a few years within ex colleague who had obv. become a great friend)

One MNer asking "FGS is this the 50s" when an obviously devastated woman asked expressed anger and disbelief at possibly (almost definitely cheating) Dh AND the OW

A woman angrily labelling a landlord with a dilemma greedy and immoral for not GIVING AWAY her house to a tenant unable to pay the rent

And just a general increase in the eye rolling, dismissive and cutting put downs to some generally hurt people reaching out for a bit of support?

It's as cold as a nuns t*t in MN world at the moment.

I think using examples on this thread is a bit off. Just challenge on the thread.

I don't agree at all. And the three times a week person asked for honest answers. . I must admit it does annoy me when people go on that their partners have always been awful but they can't leave because now they're pregnant again. Why do people stay with those dreadful men. And not get out sooner. Because people don't usually turn bad overnight though I agree not everyone shows their true colours right away. But soon enough to see a red flag.

A woman angrily labelling a landlord with a dilemma greedy and immoral for not GIVING AWAY her house to a tenant unable to pay the rent

Sounds like some good old mumsnet madness.

It's always like this, though - at least it has been for the 7 or 8 years I've been on MN. If the first couple of replies are snarky, loads of mean people pile as well. That takes you into page two, by which time someone with sense has posted a more thoughtful response and it all goes on track :) Much the same as real life, really

Ah, thank you Charlie I don't lurk there much but might start doing so.

I do miss the funny threads that have been murdered by The PO. That has changed :(

Why do people stay with those dreadful men. And not get out sooner.

Well, the reason I answer as many of those threads as I can stand is because I stayed! Twice If I'd had Mumsnet back then, I'd have been a bit smarter. Strangely enough, not all women have read hundreds of MN Relationships threads!

Oh, Faire, do lurk on FWR! You could post in the pub :)

I name change monthly (or sooner). I don't want anyone to join the dots and identify me. I don't think I pile in with abuse.

As one of the people who moan about their useless other halves, it's because we love them really but we need a whinge about them every now and then!

Garlic definitely!! (re the funny threads).

I got chucked of MN a few years ago. But have mended my ways as I missed it so much

I've noticed quite a few potentially hurtful posts recently, but those posts say much more about the poster than the OP.....and the amount of posters who haven't read the OP correctly is astounding.

Things have changed on MN, but it has been changing since it started! That's the nature of the beast isn't it. In someways that's really good - I don't think you appreciate how good/busy this site is until you try to use some of the others out there, this is by far the best one I use - but in other ways it's not so good. When it was smaller you got to 'know' people better, the trolls were generally booted off by the posters, posters were incredibly harsh when and a lot more 'call a spade a spade' but also a lot less 'bitch for the sake of it'. Now it seems you can't have a laugh about anything anymore without someone getting all po faced about it & even the 'nice' threads people come on and act like complete twats...

Still... there ain't no place like home :)

posters were incredibly harsh when necessary and a...

YANBU, seems a bit like sport on some threads, taking nasty pot shots at people.

the amount of posters who haven't read the OP correctly is astounding

Yes!!!

and the number of posters who don't RTFT - not even when it's a short one, There is NO excuse for not at least reading all of the OP's posts on a thread. It just obnoxious posting on a thread you haven't taken the time to read, but believing you are the only one ever to have thought 'xyz' fucking obvious point. Grrrr

OP did you challenge any of the posts on those threads?

Oh yes, RTFT! Does anyone remember the one where the sister got anger with the op for not buying her dp's daughter a Christmas gift? When the daughter wasn't actually there, but soooo many people got the wrong end of the stick...

Can you take your hand from up my arse, EEVEE. On account of me apparently being your Sock Puppet

I am with Ragwort, people sometimes do need to take responsibility for their own actions as opposed to thinking that someone else will pay for it, or give them what they want.

There are also threads like the NHS pride one where no one dare say anything. Having just come back from hospital where my DM is staying. I would like to say something, disinterested and rude nurses, no organisation on the ward which resulted in nurses shouting at each other and because I was right next to the nurses station hearing them talking about the Asian cleaners being rubbish and not cleaning properly.

It's as fickle as always but no more nastier.

Whoops, sorry Arkham :D

YANBU, its becomimg the norm though. Its a shame some people feel the best way to make a point is by been nasty, attacking someone or generally pulling the person or everything they say to bits.

We all get sick of troll threads but if people suspect its a troll thread just report it. I never understand why anyone would want to comment on a thread they think is fake anyway.

I generally will say if I think someone is been unpleasant unnecessarily. I hope you do too Op rather than just starting a thread about it.

I don't think it's got worse - I think there's always been some people who like to reply just to rock the boat. Occasionally it helps balance the argument and occasionally it is just general shit stirring.