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Original poster

To send my son to school in his sister's pink raincoat.

130 replies

Oakmaiden · 09/10/2014 08:51

What with the fact he is raining. And has lost his raincoat. And left his school coat at school - again.

I have offended his dignity. WIBU to hope that this will spur him to remember his coat in the future?

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sashh · 09/10/2014 08:55

How old?

daisiesandpoppies · 09/10/2014 08:56

I think yes, it's a bit unreasonable - would be different if he wanted to wear it, but as much as I wish it wasn't an issue, it is.

Only1scoop · 09/10/2014 08:56
Hmm
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Oakmaiden · 09/10/2014 08:58

He is 9. His sister is 10.

He could take it off when he gets into school, and hide it in his bag. They all go into school as soon as they arrive, so there will be no hanging around in the playground.

We have torrential rain and thunderstorms all night. He needed a coat. And I am so pissed off with him leaving his at school.

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NellysKnickers · 09/10/2014 09:00

Tempting but I wouldn't. He would forever be the boy in the pink coat.

Swingball · 09/10/2014 09:03

He agreed to put it on?

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit · 09/10/2014 09:05

Oh god, not a pink coat! He penis will actually FALL OFF.

FFS.

If its the only coat available because he keeps forgetting his, then put him in it.

Floggingmolly · 09/10/2014 09:05

Yes you were. He'll have the piss ripped out of him, poor sod.

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Oakmaiden · 09/10/2014 09:06

Well, he didn't refuse. But then, my children do tend to do as I ask them.

It makes me so cross. Why shouldn't he wear a pink bloody coat? It is just a colour.

And then, at the same time, I am aware that he does feel it is a girl's colour.

I am a cruel, heartless mother, aren't I?

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Oakmaiden · 09/10/2014 09:08

I guess the other thing is: I am not sure what my options were. It was pink raincoat or walk to school in the pouring rain without a coat.

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FloatingPorpoise · 09/10/2014 09:09

Nine? Shock. My children would have to be heavily sedated to wear a pink coat at nine!

I think you'll find he won't forget this coat again though - good move Wink

ebwy · 09/10/2014 09:09

I'd have sent him in it, since his lack of coat was his own fault.

The fact that it's his sisters is neither here nor there, he needed a coat and that was the only one available due to his own errors

VermillionPorcupine · 09/10/2014 09:09

If you're hoppy...that's ridiculous.

I would happily put ds2 (age 4) in a pink coat because he wouldn't care. I wouldn't make a 9 year old wear one though because as a pp said, he will definitely get the piss ripped out of him by other boys.

daisiesandpoppies · 09/10/2014 09:10

It is just a colour and it's ridiculous and stupid that a fuss is made over it. Even if it was a colour purely for girls, there's nothing wrong with being a girl. And if he gets bullied about it then that's the problem of the other kids that needs to be dealt with.

That's what the liberal and logial side of me says.

However, I wouldn't have done this to him - sorry. Nine year olds forget things, so do twenty nine year olds!

VermillionPorcupine · 09/10/2014 09:11

Rather than make him wear a pink coat I probably would have given ds my own dark coloured rain coat and taken a brolly...or the biggest jumper he had and held it over his head.

Contraryish · 09/10/2014 09:12

Mine would have gone without a coat! (Knowing mine, he'd have also left his jumper behind at school, so he'd be in his shirtsleeves).

DancingDinosaur · 09/10/2014 09:13

Well if the options were get soaking wet or wear a pink coat, then obviously it would be the pink coat. Its just a color.

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Oakmaiden · 09/10/2014 09:15

My raincoat is pink too, so that wouldn't have helped.

Nor really would a jumper held over his head... IT might keep his head dry, but not much else Confused

I know nine year olds forget things (constantly) but there comes a time when there are unavoidable consequences to forgetting things.

Oh well. On the plus side it is entirely possible that no-one saw him in the pink coat. We didn't pass anyone on the way to school, and people don't hang around in the hallway.

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Chandon · 09/10/2014 09:17

I would not do that to my 9 yr old boy.

So, you buy your girl a pink rain coat, but your son has another colour. SO you subscribe to the pink-for-girls-thing.

Then when it suits you, you no longer subscribe to it.

MrsCakesPrecognition · 09/10/2014 09:18

Nobody saw him. He got to school dry. Maybe he'll remember his own coat next time. Sounds fine to me.

Swingball · 09/10/2014 09:21

I can't get my 6yo to wear anything she doesn't want to! What's your secret?

I'd have sent without a coat but may make me an even more cruel mother, I don't know.

NiceAndAccurate · 09/10/2014 09:21

If he's bothered by it, he won't forget his coat again. It's pretty simple. If he gets the mickey taken out of him, so be it. It's hardly likely to turn into full scale bullying!

There are consequences to his actions. He now realises that. I don't think you did anything wrong.

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Oakmaiden · 09/10/2014 09:22

Chandon - my daughter chose her own raincoat. As did my son. As it happens the shop only sold 3 colours, ds wanted the blue one, and neither child wanted the balck one. DD chose the pink one as she didn't want hers to be the same as DS's.

We don't tend to be a particularly "pink for girls but not for boys" family, but I am not going to ban my daughter from having pink things if she fancies them. Although as it happens she doesn't generally go much for pink.

My eldest son spent the journey telling youngest that pink was a "manly" colour.

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NiceAndAccurate · 09/10/2014 09:22

Chandon, that's quite harsh. Maybe the children picked their own raincoats?

Keletubbie · 09/10/2014 09:23

Perfectly reasonable. Simply because the alternative is him getting soaked.