to think Restorative Practice is a steaming pile of horseshit?

[BunnyLebowski]

DD is in Yr 1.

I was waiting for her outside her classroom today. The windows look onto their cloakroom.

I looked through the window and saw DD sitting on the bench changing her shoes. A (much larger) boy in her class (who I have seen act badly and have heard unpleasant things about) was standing over her slightly to the side. He was leaning over her somewhat intimidatingly. DD smiled at him uncertainly. He then pushed his whole body into her and pinched her extremely hard on the upper arm while staring manically at her. DD shrieked and exploded into tears.

I almost broke the window banging it at him. The wee fucker .

I immediately knocked on the door and explained what I'd seen to the teaching assistant.

DD's took them both into a room and then came out and explained their policy of Restorative Practice and asked if I would be willing to sit down with DD, her and the little turd boy.

DD got a halfassed apology and the teacher said that he was standing up for a friend that DD had been bossy to (she can be verbally bossy and we don't tolerate it - it happens very rarely and she's a star pupil). I told the teacher that I refused to accept that physical violence is an acceptable way of standing up for your friends. The boy was unfazed. Why wouldn't he be when there are no consequences for his appalling actions?

We left and came home. I am still raging and plan to ask the the teacher tomorrow whether or not his parents have been informed. I think they should be.

AIBU to think that this softly softly way of dealing with bad behaviour is not doing our kids any favours? Before anyone leaps on me, I'm obviously not saying bring back the cane but the boy should lose some of his privileges or incur some form of punishment for his behaviour?

Disclaimer: DD is my PFB and my celtic blood is up.

AIBU?

"Calling a child "a little shit" in front of the offending child is a safeguarding issue."

Except the parent didn't do it in front of the offending child, Eve has specifically stated that the child was not within earshot.

Thankyou LaQ and Thumb, I thought I was pretty clear when I pointed out that the child was nowhere near

I'm also surprised that ReallyTired has mixed me up with OP - the kids in my scenario are 8 and 10, not 5. I don't think my friend would have been that upset it it had been a Reception aged biter (although her sons arm is quite a mess, I saw it today and the biter certainly did a number on him), but by Year 4 I would have hoped that a child would know how wrong it is.

My friend has asked that this injury is put in the accident book, but the teacher has said she doesn't think it is appropriate (as it wasn't an accident). She may be right (I'm not sure how these things work) but I do think some type of formal recording is needed - if only to look back on if this child continues to be an issue.

the teacher has said she doesn't think it is appropriate (as it wasn't an accident).

That has to be wrong?

Thanks Pastor and LaQ, I will tell her that later

Sorry for the thread hijack Bunny, I hope your DD has had a better end to the week.

"My friend has asked that this injury is put in the accident book, but the teacher has said she doesn't think it is appropriate (as it wasn't an accident). She may be right (I'm not sure how these things work) but I do think some type of formal recording is needed - if only to look back on if this child continues to be an issue."

Legally the bite should go in the "accident book". Certainly most schools have proceedures for recording bites because the human mouth is so filthy. (with bateria not bad language!) The school needs to look at a risk assessment if the biter is going to continue in mainstream. Schools I have worked in have quite an involved proceedure when there is a biting incident because of the risk of tetenus.