Mum changing shitty nappy in ladies

[ProudAS]

I just went to the loo in a restaurant to find a mum had just changed her DC. The used nappy was on the floor with poo visible. She did get rid of the nappy (in the sanitary bin) but not the smell.

The smell made me retch and feel sick. AIBU to think she should have used the baby changing room next door?

I'm going to hide the thread.

You've answered my question but not been very nice to me in the process.

Don't bother posting again. I won't read them.

Any suggestions re alternative arrangements???

Only use your own toilet unless obviously in an emergency.
I do this, albeit for different reasons, and with the exception of pubs/anywhere else where I drink alcohol thus increasing the need to visit the loo, I manage.

I do get bothered by floaters but not to this degree and then there's the fact that I can do something about it by flushing.

You can do something about the nappy, don't look at it. It's no different visually than spotting a floater/skids then averting your eyes and having to deal with it.

Was just thinking the same fanjo

I have AS. Here's a run down list of what I see happening here:

Babies have needs.
Adults have needs.
People with autism have needs.

Those needs can overlap and can clash.

We (everyone) must imagine and respect what the other person is experiencing and show kindness.

Having AS is no exemption from this. Having a baby is no exemption from this.

This time, a clash of needs has occurred, just incidentally, through no one's fault. It's ok to talk about the issues people with AS face - that's a ok subject, but with regard to placing any blame, in this case, I think it's probably best to just let this one go.

yes I would because I wouldn't have been bothered about it being in the wrong place... You can't impose that sort of order on the rest of the world, op, regardless of your disability. Besides, to the mum, it was in the right place, ie the bin.

Sanitary bins have that flappy opening chute thing. You can't get a nappy in them. So they must have been designed to be suitable for both. They all go for incineration don't they? It's not as if it was the recycling bin

They are not suitable for both.

They can't contain the smell of a dirty nappy and are only collected every so often. So if someone puts a nappy in our one at work, ignoring the big sign not to, it stinks so much we have to call and get a new bin.

Anyway, I think people are so desperate to be proved right, about something innocuous like a pooey nappy, that they forget a real person has asked who might just be a bit upset by reading hundreds of snarky replies calling her all sorts.

No bin contains the smell. San pro reeks too.

It is your problem unfortunately op - you are the sensitive one and the lady didn't do anything wrong.

Agree with Giles

Don't put it out there if you don't want people to comment on it.

Well im not surprised tbh.

That you two agree

It is possible to get dual purpose nappy and sanitary protection bins, so, yes they do end up in the same place. The reason they have different bins is the size and frequency of disposal.

Yes giles you must also know better than me about the smell of the bin even though we had to get an emergency new bin at work as the whole practice stank when someone put a nappy in it, and we can't even smell the bin with just sanpro in.

Still I must be wrong

I've used plenty of toilets containing both. They reek regardless.

Anyway thankfully the OP is away and I am off to do something more interesting than argue about stinky bins. I deal with enough pooey nappies IRL

Ok giles you are right. I must be inventing the story.

Have a nice evening :)

The bins irrelevant anyway given the change was still happening when op walked in. Wouldn't have made any difference at that moment in time so it's a pointless argument

How does your BIL stop himself from feeling sick and retching?

Spoke to DH who is very close to BIL. BIL is married to SIL. DH and BIL have known each other since pre school. DH informs me that BIL has always tried to avoid public toilets but not always possible so if he goes he accepts that he will probably not like the experience.

However BILs Aspergers affects him more in other ways, relationships and communcation etc.

I think the OP is being unreasonable about the nappy issue. But that's the nature of autism, everyday things which other people take for granted can completely overwealm you. Hypersensitivity is a well known issue for autistic people and I think it's often something which NT people just don't get. I have AS too and for me it's suncream which makes me want to peel my own skin off. Everything else disappears into the background and the only thing that exists is the flesh crawling, stomach churning horror which is my skin being in contact with this vileness concocted by Satan himself.

I think the way a lot of poster on this thread have responded to the OP is disgusting. No empathy or compassion at all. Like sharks in for the kill. There's no excuse for it. Her condition is there in her username for all to see (unless you're a bit thick). I knew what was going on from the OP alone. You're responding to a vulnerable person, just try remembering that while your pounding away on you keyboard feeling all mighty and clever and quite possibly destroying someone in the process.

Don't call me thick Liver I don't understand the meanings to lots of usernames but that doesn't make me thick!

The OP did not explain about her condition until later in the thread and then many posters were sympathetic but still thought she was being UR.

If you'd have said she'd have whopped the baby on the restaurant table or on the seats in plain sight, I'd join in your disgust.
A TOILET though?! Nah, not so much. What the bloody hell do you think they're for if not you know, going to to the toilet?!
Take a peg for your nose next time when out if you're so delicate.