Mum changing shitty nappy in ladies

[ProudAS]

I just went to the loo in a restaurant to find a mum had just changed her DC. The used nappy was on the floor with poo visible. She did get rid of the nappy (in the sanitary bin) but not the smell.

The smell made me retch and feel sick. AIBU to think she should have used the baby changing room next door?

I've used mens toilets before. IBS is a bitch.

Alright, the foreigner has to ask what's the problem with putting the nappy in the relatively airtight sanitary bin?

Why would the bin have to be emptied?

Are there really seperate companies hired to empty the samitary bin? Do they also empty the nappy bins? But not the bins out by the sinks that have paper towels? I mean, i can understand the different garbage being bagged differently and such, but seperate handlers? And in the end, doesnt it all end up in the landfill in any case?

Well op its your issue, it seems as though you may have a phobia or something. Have you sought help for it! It must be limiting really, if you have to use the loo in public and it smells as loos do.

Afternoon all

What if you come across a public loo, with poo all over it, or poo and wee still in it which I have come across, errrr.

Quite often baby change facilities are awful and far more dirty than the option of a mat or something on a floor/surface in the ladies. Nobody has to stop and stare at the contents of the babies nappy, it's possible just to go along with your own business and ignore.

OP this is clearly a case of you having an issue not the mum! You are sensitive to smells. She tidied up shit in a toilet! What if an adult had done a particularly smelly poo, would that still offend you? You sound bloody irritating.

If it's psychological see a specialist and avoid public toilets.

Of course it can go in the bin. The ones you change at home go in with the normal household waste, don't they? Public toilet attendants do not call out the men in bio hazard suits every time someone leaves a nappy in a bin.

Do you know what?

Those of us who need to use disabled toilets have to put up with the smell of stinking, shitty nappies nearly every time we use a public loo because they are usually doubled up as baby changing rooms. It is not just the smell of one, it is dozens, that have been festering all day. It makes me want to vomit, but we have no choice. Very often the bin is overflowing. I have gone to use the toilet after one woman who left the shitty nappy open on top of the bin! I did call her back, but she stuck her nose in the air and walked off!

Get a bloody grip and get over yourself. It is a one off for you!

She might not have been able to bag it up and take it home, might have forgotten her nappy bags or not going near a bin. She disposed of it properly by putting it in a bin, instead of leaving it there. A restaurant should have facilitites to change babies and means of disposing of nappies, if they keep having to call out PHS to remove the bins as it has a nappy in it, mabey its time to get a nappy bin. It can be a normal flip bin with a lid, empty it out every day into normal rubbish.

It seems OP, that it is your problem that you need to deal with.

YABU because what the Mum did with the child and nappy was totally appropiate- you need coping mechanisms to deal with smells you struggle with. Other people cannot be expected to go so far above and beyond the norm to accomodate your sensitivites.

Ha ha ha ha ha ha YABU but funny though. Smell of poo in a toilet!

OP you crack me up

I'd far rather offend someone than allow my child to have a burning bum because i waited however long to get to a "suitable place" to change a nappy.

Oh god thinking back to when i used a marks and sparks ladies to change my baby. They had a baby changing room but... dun dun dun... i needed the toilet too and it was easier for me to get ds changed and then sling him over my shoulder and go for a wee myself. I was having the postnatal problem of if i'd held a wee for more than, say, 30 seconds i would have probably had an accident.

Someone did say "They have a baby changing room you know".

Brilliant.

Will you stop making out like my problem is imaginary and made up. It may be part psychological but hardly imaginary. Or do you have some clever idea for re-wiring my brain.

I am sensitive to things like this through no fault of my own. I have a disability myself (Aspergers) which is one of the reasons why I am affected.

Even if the mum wasn't being unreasonable (which I accept) you could show me a bit of empathy over an issue which is beyond my control.

Those of you telling me to get a grip - would you tell a paraplegic to get a grip and use their legs? There is probably something obvious to a neurotypical but I ain't neurotypical.

Those of you telling me to get a life. I've got one thanks but it's bloody hard as an autistic person in a neurotypical world.

Those of you saying she may have felt awkward about using the disabled facilities (incidentally separate from the baby room in this case)- I have a disability and she put me at a disadvantage because of it. I know people with ASDs who would have been more bothered than I was. Perhaps they should use the disabled loos and face disapproval because their condition isn't obvious.

Those of you saying there is no difference between nappy changing and adults pooing - there is a difference the latter doesn't make me sick. The gripe isn't just with her changing the nappy but the fact she put it on show and didn't take it away. If she'd simply changed the baby in the cubicle out of sight and taken the nappy away I would have been fine despite getting a quick whiff.

Those of you saying I should avoid public loos - do you suggest I go in the street or should I stay at home? Would you tell someone with a physical disability to avoid public loos because they were miffed about babies being changed in the disabled loos?

Those of you saying there are bigger issues such as adult changing places - as a disabled person myself I agree.

Yabvu. Its a toilet.

If the baby room was engaged what was she supposed to do?

Especially with a mobile/wriggly baby it can take a matter of seconds for a normal poo to escape and get up their back and front. This then messes an outfit and stresses a baby and parent out with a full change of clothing.

And for what? To avoid a poo smell. In a toilet.

Proud you never said you had a disability, so I apologise for telling you to get a grip.

Saying that, people do change babies' nappies in the disabled toilets and leave them in the bin. To me this is no different. It isn't nice, it is grim, especially when the bin is overflowing and it's not been emptied all day!

I wondered how long it would be until that predictable line popped up.

I see you have had a hard time on here, and I'm sorry if this is upsetting you. You must see it is a massive drip feed to say after several pages that you have specific reasons to find this so hard. Mumsnetters are clever, but we're not mind readers.

Those of you saying I have a problem are right. Those of you who think it can magically be fixed are wrong. I saw a psychiatrist years ago who made my problems worse.

If there had been no baby changing room I would have been more sympathetic but there was.

I did not choose to have this problem. Stop telling me to get over it - I would have done so years ago if it were that simple.

Proud I'm fairly sure that if you had mentioned your sensory difficulties then you would have received more sympathy, though of course the woman still wasn't bu.

If a paraplegic had posted something fairly inflammatory and seemingly no problem to the average person without mentioning why they have a particular problem with it then they would have been flamed too I think.

All posters can go on in the information in the first post/s

This belongs under the chapter "Drip-feeding 101"

See a different psych and keep working at it. My son with aspergers saw a psych for 2 years to support him with public toilet related ishoos...

Maybe try a different thread next time? Like 'I am really sensitive to smells, any ideas how I can use public toilets without retching?' Rather than the thread about someone actually using a toilet for the intended purpose.

You started the wrong thread.