You! Yes you interfering cow in Boots!

[grobagsforever]

No my baby was not too hot under a shade. I only put it on whilst in the air conditioned shop! I have had enough of friends and family interfering with the parenting of my children since DH died without strangers chipping in. I'm 33, smarter than you'll ever be and she's not my first baby.

You have now made me cry in public. Thanks.

Horrible for you. Joining you in tears. Our species can be nasty!

Aw you poor thing. Hope you feel better after having a weep. Sometimes daft things and comments tip you over, don't they? Make a cup of tea and have a cookie and a cry x

Nosey moo!

I hope you are OK, did you say anything to her. Interference from strangers usually leaves me open mouthed and unable to respond like that.

Hope you are ok op

How upsetting and annoying, so sorry! Xx

Not really about the interfering woman in Boots?

Hugs for the loss of your DH, and can you talk with any of your family members or friends about how their interfering (which may be born form kindness?) makes you feel?

What exactly did she say to you, OP? Was she rude?

OP I'm so sorry about your husband.

This reminded me of the mum of a friend. She has vascular dementia and one of the horrible results is that she goes up to strangers and offers them unsolicited advice/judgement...

I hope you get lots of people telling you what a great job you're doing and that you meet one of those lovely people who appears from time to time to tell you, in public, just what a good mum you are.

I hate it when people usually family make little remarks to imply what you as the parent are doing wrong and how they would do things differently.

My FIL is known for this and I have to bite my tongue sometimes.

I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your husband

grobags. Hope you're doing OK. People like that really don't help.

Oh dear. It is bloody annoying isn't it.

A few weeks ago I took my twin boys (18mo) out into the local town as I had to run a couple of errands. They decided to kick off and have a good old cry in the middle of the square as I was sat eating a hastily grabbed pasty - having not eaten since brekkie at 6am. Cue some interfering old bag coming over to tell me (in a very rude manner) that my kids were crying and I should be sorting them out not stuffing my face.

I won't repeat what I said but it turned a few heads and I'm sure her opinion of me went from bad to worse but sod her, I wasn't in the mood for it.

Do what you know to be right, if people interfere then tell them where to go.

I'm sorry OP, but you know you're quite right and you're doing bloody great!

I saw a very tired looking mum out in a home furnishing shop with a a crying 3month old in the throws of 'no going back' tears.

What did some clever dick thin kwould be helpful? - To bend into the pram and croon 'awwwww you wee SOUL! Is your mummy being TERRIBLE to you?'

I think she was being funny, but the mum did an amazing job of smiling through gritted teeth.

People can be thick.

Nothing important to say except that she was an interfering bag by the sound of it. It must be tough for you to be without your husband, especially so many years sooner that you would have expected, I imagine, and with young children. I bet he'd be so proud of you. Sometimes, a good cry helps though- me anyway.

Hey, gro, sorry to hear about this. I followed your posts on here when your DH was ill and quite often think about you, especially as we were pregnant at the same time.

Congrats on the baby, BTW!

I have had similar situations - and I am very shy and avoid any form if conflict - so I tend to just ignore it, blank them out and tell myself that they don't even realise how rude they are being.

But second time around, I'm getting a bit bolder - someone commented on my DSs dummy the other day. I don't like them but see the benefits now as it's the only thing that soothes him sometimes.

So when someone (a friend of a friend I had never met) said: "Those things are disgusting. None of my kids had them" I found myself saying: "Oh, OK. Well, next time he is screaming his head off at 3am, pop round and get him to go off, would you? Ta" but I spent the next hour wondering if she was right. She wasn't - she was bloody rude.

I think what I'm trying to say is, some people are interfering bastards, but in your situation, no-one could blame you if you were rude back, or vocalised your OP.

grobags.

"Fuck off" is a complete sentence.

I agree.
It used to make me feel much better sometimes to indulge myself in a proportionate response.
Dd1 cried all day every day.She had colic and couldn't help it.Didn't matter what anyone did, poor little girl.So when a 'well meaning' person came up, as they inevitably did, to suggest 'do you think she might be hungry' or 'I think she might be cold/hot/need a nappy change'.....,sometimes, I used to allow myself a "Do you really think I'm daft enough not to think of that?".

I highly recommend it.

What exactly did she say?

Was it "oh, isn't he a bit hot under there?" or "you're a fucking terrible mother I'm going to ring the social"

It would be normal for any new mother to feel sensitive (especially one who has lost her husband, I followed all your other threads as well

Never any excuse for some of the responses suggested on this thread though. Unless the woman came out with something like my second example of course. Which I doubt. As I doubt Grobags is walking round waving a placard detailing her personal situation, then the "interfering cow bag" , not, I imagine, being a mindreader was hardly to know.

I disagree DrankSangria. There is no need to get involved in another persons business. If they want to initiate conversation they ought to do so in a nice non-judgemental way. The vast majority of people seem to manage this.

Act like an interfering cow bag and run the risk of being told to fuck off.

Hi Grobags, it's good to hear from you again. Apart from interfering busybodies, how are you getting on?

She was horribly rude, but they're not all bad - an older gentleman spotted me making my way around tescos with a screaming DS2, gently engaged me in conversation and asked if he could have a go at settling him. By that point I thought what the hell, and got DS2 out of his sling.

The man jiggled, and walked up and down the biscuit aisle chatting to me for a few minutes until he handed back a now calm DS2, and asked some advice on which biscuits to get for his wife in hospital.

Fingers crossed that next time you mean more nice people than nasty ones.

actual conversation with a woman in sainsburys car park the other while waiting for my mum:

Woman: Why isn't he in his pram?
Me: Because i'll be putting him in the car now.
Woman: Well...put him in then.
Me: My mum's car*. She isn't here yet.
Woman: Well then he should be in his pram.
Me: oh...

We were just standing by a bench next to some trolleys that nobody needed access to.

Very, very weird.

I was in Boots once and DD was running around a bit (she is 3). An elderly man said 'they think everything is something to play with, don't they?' I smiled and said something to agree...then he turned and said 'because YOU don't tech them any better!!'
It's something about Boots, makes people rude.
Ignore the silly woman.
Congratulations on your baby and You are doing an amazing job I'm sure.

Some people have nothing better to do than poke their noses in where they are not wanted

You know your looking after your baby properly

Sod them