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Original poster

to cancel a tinder date as he has tinned soup for lunch and didn't know berlin was in Germany?

389 replies

sarahighseas · 14/09/2014 20:55

As title really, its tomorrow and chatting to him now, but its going to be a disaster. I've been sucked in by a pretty face. Am I being too picky?

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SweetsForMySweet · 15/09/2014 23:40

Rather than sharing a fag with op it would be 'Do you want to have sex now or after we've shared some tinned soup' Grin
Wings Tinder is not a dating site to find deep & meaningful relationships, it's for quick booty calls/no strings sex hookups.
I think the text was a teacher fantasy with older woman op

WorraLiberty · 15/09/2014 23:41

I literally have just googled Tinder. I didn't bother last night because from the way the OP was talking, I thought it was a fairly respectable dating site, that you might have to pay to join.

Now I've looked, it seems to be nothing other than dial-a-fuck Grin

Yet you claim to have 'ridiculously high standards'??

whois · 15/09/2014 23:45

Smash, tinned soup, cider. Cooked up for my sister and I by some lads at Reading Festival.

Quick, LineRunner, amend to 'for my sister and me'. It affects dating chances

In this case, isn't using my sister and me correct? You say 'Jane and I went to town' because you say 'I went to town'.

But you say 'the lads cooked a lovely meal for me and my sister' because you wouldn't say 'the lads cook I a lovely meal'. You say 'they cooked me'.

Or have I missed the point of that grammar (and thread)!

GarlicSeptimus · 16/09/2014 00:04

Yeah, that's what hat was saying Grin

On Cinder, they'll have a special corner for elderly grammar pedants. We'll correct one another's syntax while using heavy items of furniture to support the shag-in-an-alley fantasy.

(I mistyped that as sag in an alley. Appropriately!)

differentnameforthis · 16/09/2014 00:05

OP, I think you should cancel the date....poor sod (him) it'd me like dating his mum, what with the criticism & high expectations. let him someone who could care about him because of who he is, rather than his perceived lack of education, etc.

ZeroSomeGameThingy · 16/09/2014 00:09

I managed to keep a straight face up to

Should have tried a narrower alley.

differentnameforthis · 16/09/2014 04:26

Is Tinder just for sex? I'm not saying that I am the most sexually experienced person, but how would knowledge of European capital cities impact sexual performance?

Perhaps Berlin is code for something else Wink

Ohwhatfuckeryisthis · 16/09/2014 05:36

Are you hooking up with my son? It fits, b tec(k), can't cook, works his arse off,hasn't travelled, 22 ( desperate for a shag, so yes I wouldn't be surprised at tinder). Must warn him someone is after his brains.

NobodyLivesHere · 16/09/2014 06:26

I'm too busy being sad that I'm the same age as the OP and so have to face facts that its 15 YEARS since I left school (with a levels, shit ones, but a levels).
Also, if this tinder thingy gets you hook ups with pretty 22 year olds I'm so there..

MrsWembley · 16/09/2014 06:29

Worra, why did you bother googling when all you need to know has been told here. I'd never heard of it and clicked on this thread to find out if the OP had made a mistake.

Turns out she'd made lots of them...

MrsWembley · 16/09/2014 06:29

Oh and, LineyShock

Beastofburden · 16/09/2014 06:53

So, how did it go? Grin

CinnabarRed · 16/09/2014 06:56

I think a "morning miss, howz u" text would cheer me up no end. I like it.

ShowMeTheWonder · 16/09/2014 07:08

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LineRunner · 16/09/2014 07:09

In my defence re the grammar thing, it is now clear to me that subliminally I am looking for a right bit of rough. Grin

QueenofLouisiana · 16/09/2014 07:20

My DH had only ever been to the Isle of Wight and Menorca when we got married. We've spent the last 15 years travelling the world as much as we can (Tasmania next year). I don't think it should be a deal breaker before you even meet him.

I don't understand the tinned soup thing. I grabbed a bag of Wotsits and an apple for lunch yesterday.

LineRunner · 16/09/2014 07:25

I had a working lunch with a Council Leader once and she had a packaged cheese sandwich, crisps and a Twirl.

CarryOn90 · 16/09/2014 08:24

OP I'm really really curious to know and surprised nobody else has asked...

What are some good things about this guy? You've got to the point where a date is on the cards, so you must have some kind of conversation/something to talk about?

I agree that it's not necessarily evil to want to date somebody who has a vaguely similar level of general knowledge to you. I had a boyfriend once who was lovely but a bit slow, and there were lots of references on TV/radio, jokes, and general things in conversation that he didn't 'get' - and it was a bit sad I couldn't really talk about any of my loves and interests (books and history mostly) with my partner with whom you are supposed to share things like that.

But I think it's a bit unrealistic, sad and silly that I can't admit that (and I think I've explained it as kindly and plainly as I can) without being called a snob, which I definitely am not.

As for soup I can't say that it makes any difference to me what someone eats. Funnily enough the dim boyfriend was a chef and would be HORRIFIED at eating tinned soup every day Grin

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sarahighseas · 16/09/2014 08:33

Well date was pretty ordinary, 3 hours seemed to disappear quite quickly and it wasn't ever uncomfortable I guess that's a plus. He is cute (and know he has a great body from photos).

He turned up in an ironed shirt, smart casual shoes and tidy jeans. I felt a bit guilty as I was wearing grotty clothes that I'd been in all day.

Didn't have q kiss goodbye, I would of rode him silly but think he was looking for something more than that, and might have become clingly. Or do all 22 just want it? He's still messaging me saying nice to meet etc. Pretty uneventful really.

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TSSDNCOP · 16/09/2014 09:49

So I'm reading I this correctly. You had a tinder date and the smart, polite young chap blew you off?

Is that a first in tinder history?

chaseface · 16/09/2014 09:54

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WorraLiberty · 16/09/2014 10:24

Or do all 22 just want it?

With someone grotty and unshowered?

I suppose it depends on the 22yr old. Most handsome young men I know, would have given sex a swerve in that situation.

GarlicSeptimus · 16/09/2014 11:23

He sounds lovely!
That said, XH2 - who was also 11 years younger than me - had significant educational & cultural gaps and I should never have married him.
I was definitely right to shag him, though.

Kewcumber · 16/09/2014 11:28

Pass him on to me - he sounds lovely and I'd shower before meeting him (though am 49 so old enough to be his mum)

Pandora37 · 16/09/2014 12:32

LineRunner that sounds very much like a typical lunch for me. Blush

Oh he sounds so adorable! Are you going to meet him again? If not, send him my way, I'm only 5 years older than him Grin.