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Original poster

to cancel a tinder date as he has tinned soup for lunch and didn't know berlin was in Germany?

389 replies

sarahighseas · 14/09/2014 20:55

As title really, its tomorrow and chatting to him now, but its going to be a disaster. I've been sucked in by a pretty face. Am I being too picky?

OP posts:
LividofLondon · 15/09/2014 13:29

Sarah I think you should go on the date with him...and report back here with all the details. Wink If you fancy him physically you could at least get a hot fumble out of it Grin

JiltedJohnsJulie · 15/09/2014 13:37

Grin at Worra. Not saying I'm old, but I had to google STFU.

Don't think they will be ordering food though. Think this boy has education on his mind but it's not Geography or cooking.

wingsandstrings · 15/09/2014 13:47

OP is getting accused of being snobby about the Berlin thing but that's unfair . . . it's not a stale piece of geographical knowledge, it's a signifier of what he's interested in e.g. being well travelled or curious about the world or having some knowledge of history and politics. If those are things that are important to you then you probably won't be that attracted to someone who doesn't want to have those conversations, doesn't get those references, and doesn't want to spend time doing that stuff. I was once dumped by a guy who was really into music, and the final straw for him was that a Morrisey song was on the radio and I couldn't identify the singer. He liked to spend his time listening to music, and talking about music, and making top ten lists of greatest guitarists ever etc etc and frankly I didn't and it would have been better if we never got together in the first place. I totally get why I wasn't his type, he wasn't being 'snobby'. Equally, if someone didn't know where Berlin was I wouldn't meet up with them on a date (unless it was strictly sex thing I guess, which it wouldn't be for me anyway) because I'm really interested in history and politics, and I come from a family with mixed European heritage so it's a given for me to be multi-cultural and well travelled . . . I just wouldn't want to be with someone who wasn't.
The soup thing is fine though, surely.

zippey · 15/09/2014 13:48

Dont date him, he is too good for you.

Snobbishness in a person is unnatractive.

ilovesooty · 15/09/2014 14:02

I hope he tells you exactly why you're not good enough for him but he probably won't because 1) I suspect he's nicer than you and 2) he might at least realise that Tinder's about shagging, not deep conversation, and perhaps he's not too bothered about the shortcomings in your personality.

guitarosauras · 15/09/2014 14:09

Where are you going for your date op?

guitarosauras · 15/09/2014 14:12

'I got abb, but I'm dyslexic so none of them were languages.'

What?

Marylou2 · 15/09/2014 14:25

Was going to say YANBU but just saw he's 22.A baby so give him a chance....and an atlas.

Original poster
sarahighseas · 15/09/2014 14:25

Thanks for understanding wings, yes it was a barometer on common interests and if we would be able to even hold a conversation together.

OP posts:
murphys · 15/09/2014 14:40

*Everything is true what I've said though. He just sent a message "morning miss, howz u?"

I can get over the weird miss and the u, but seriously a z rather than a s? Thats no autocorrect that's on purpose.*

And your spelling is so perfect OP...

gingee · 15/09/2014 15:02

How old are you?? Are you 22 as well?

WarblingOyster · 15/09/2014 16:11

33 gingee

WarblingOyster · 15/09/2014 16:12

Apparently

MrsWembley · 15/09/2014 19:48

Well, are you going?

GarlicSeptimus · 15/09/2014 19:53

I think you have to, Sarah ... for Wembley and me!

flamingtoaster · 15/09/2014 19:56

You really should go - then you can tell us whether your worries were justified.

Springheeled · 15/09/2014 20:27

My friend used to make an ace meal from scratch called 'soupy potatoes'.
You chop some potatoes and boil them then you drain off the water and tip in a can of Heinz, or even own brand, soup.
It was delicious and filling.

LineRunner · 15/09/2014 20:57

Smash, tinned soup, cider. Cooked up for my sister and I by some lads at Reading Festival.

thatsalovelyhat · 15/09/2014 21:08

Quick, LineRunner, amend to 'for my sister and me'. It affects dating chances.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 15/09/2014 21:28

I really, really want some soup now.

Also I'm working towards a Diploma in Higher Education in Criminology and Psychology.

I'm thick, ya see.

LittlePeasMummy1 · 15/09/2014 21:33

I have a PhD but would struggle to point out Germany on a map, let alone Berlin. And I like soup. Fortunately I'm not looking for a bloke or I'd be knackered....

SourSweets · 15/09/2014 21:39

I've just had soup for dinner because of this thread.

Homemade though, obvs. I'm not a total no-hoper.

MyFairyKing · 15/09/2014 21:54

Do people really go on Tinder to find people to "have conversations" with? Surely, it's more "do you want to have sex now or after we've finished sharing this fag?!"

OP, I'm afraid you've been a bit naive.

MyFairyKing · 15/09/2014 21:55

wings ....but it's Tinder! Grin

FickleByNurture · 15/09/2014 23:22

I lived in Germany for three years. I have a degree in German. I once declared that Berlin was in Ireland. I was sober!!

Mr Fickle and I are probably well matched, in that we both like a bit of soup and don't mind when we accidentally say something daft.