livingzuid a lot of people are worried and it's understandable. There is a lot at stake and I'm worried about it too. I'm voting no. According to the polls, about half of people agree with us. Try not to feel so isolated.
It's not your fault that the political situation here was a bit different to how you thought it was when you moved. Congratulations on your new baby. You made some great points in your post. I don't want to be patronising, because I know you need an outlet for what your thinking is around the referendum, but if it's making you anxious, do take a break from the debates etc. Your wellbeing is important for you and your family, and this situation is largely out of our control - we can decide how we will vote individually, and we can try and persuade others we talk to/leaflet/etc, but mostly, we just have to wait for the result and deal with it. And you've moved country, more than once by the sounds of it so you are maybe more able to deal with things if you do decide to move than many people would be.
Like I said, I don't want to patronise someone who is well informed, thoughtful and looking after her family so well - its just I care about how this is effecting you and your family too.