To be very concerned that DD2 is now telling lies about me to her form Tutor.

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I know it seems like every week, that DD2 is up to something than she apologizes and says sorry. However, I am very angry with her now , I got a phone call from DDs form tutor telling me that she seen DD2 and friend Julie working round the town 'drinking' beer from a can with some 'undesirable' non 'grammar school' boys (expect to get flamed for that) on Friday night. They were both supposed to have been in the Cinema . The form teacher approached them and asked them what was in the can ( butter would not melt in the mouth) DD said the can was empty and 'would not ever drink alcohol' 'Lovely to see you miss ' . The form tutor was having nothing of it so pulled them both Monday morning , Julie admitted to drinking beer, DD still denied she had drunk any Alcohol. DD then burst in to tears saying I am throwing her out after she has done her GCSEs because I am moving to Cheshire and that she is not allowed to come. DD asked her form teacher ' can I stay with you miss for sixth form'.

I told DD about two weeks ago that we were moving to Trafford in July after her GCSEs and DS school year ends, she fluctuates from being ok to swearing and slamming bedroom doors. The main reason I am going is for DD2 and DS , to give them a better chance, there really is nothing for them on the Kent coast. The thing is I keep 'grounding ' her and taking 10% of her allowance of her , she then returns to being the loving caring daughter I know she is.

The form tutor has given DD and Julie a detention, Julie for drinking, DD one for lying. DDs form teacher is very concerned about DDS behaviour and why she is acting like a year 7 ( incidentally she was so focused in year 7 overcoming her difficulties) she never behaved anything like this. This is the reason why her form tutor is very 'fond' of her. The form tutor told DD that year 11 is 'not the right time' for this behaviour.

Garlic. I have got a handle on DD and watching her closely . I think she understands, the potential problems and is concerned for Julie. I have been pulled up for saying that Julie's mum is a GP and Father is a Lawyer on this thread.

I have told Julie's mum and dad who informed the school that Julie was thinking of 'wagging' today , the school are taking action to safeguard Julie. Her Mother and Father are dropping her off and picking her up from school. The police have been informed about him 'He is Known'. I hope its under control.

I really did not want to post about that though, I just wanted to post about DDs lies and mood 'changes' ( don't worry she is not on drugs )

I'm relieved to hear that, Smoke, thanks. Mood changes are pretty normal for teenagers ... haven't read your other threads, though, so I couldn't hazard a guess as to whether DD's out of the normal range or not.

It's clear to me that OP uses enclosures for emphasis. It's unconventional. And a bit rude to keep haranguing a poster about her writing style, MrsDV. (Unless they write in txtspk and say bubs/hubs!)

Mrs Devere. you can't be married for 20 years and never 'want a divorce' never stray from the 'path' both of them , lets be realistic. However, they are Rock solid together, whose main concern is giving their and my children a great life and a prosperous future.

I really don't have to say anything about Manchester given the news we woke up to this morning.

' Mrs Devere. you can't be married for 20 years and never 'want a divorce' never stray from the 'path' both of them , lets be realistic.'

You are a card!
I know numerous couples who have been faithful since they got together and have never seriously contemplated divorce beyond an exasperated moment.
So, yes you can be, and it's rather sad that your experiences haven't included any of them.

Mandy. Very very sad as a Dog Lover. However what about a father Shooting his 8 year old daughter in East Sussex .

Sorry for incorrectly accusing, MrsDV. But not for being offended by txtspk

His wife is happy toffinance a pony and new car for a 17 year old niece? Really?

Mrs Devere. I Understood what you were getting at. I have been single 'on 'and off since DD2 was born Divorced 5 years ago after breaking up every other week. We have a great relationship now , and are best friends we were like oil and water together though.

Ilovesooty. Why not? , If you had a Niece and could 'afford' to buy her a Car why wouldn't you.

Because he has his own children. I'd help out nieces and nephews - maybe find a nice work experience post, or give a nice present. But if I was your brother's wife I would be firmly saying that we will not be paying for a car or school fees - and I'd love to see her views on this matter.

I do have another problem though, DD1 is a bit jealous about 'the Car and pony.' She is Only Joking though, DD1 is the most assured 18 year old you could wish to meet, she is not bothered about things like that, 'she says what is the point of having a car at University'. DD1 just gets on with everything without asking or expecting anything, she is very resilient and needed her resilience to get though her 'modern' school.

As jeee said. They have their own children.

I was wondering where your elder daughter fitted into all this largesse.

Good to know that her resilience in the face of having to settle for a less pampered education will help her to come with the unequal treatment. I bet she can't wait to get to university and a life of comparative normality.

Older daughter, younger son. Will they have equally lavish expectations and gifts? Or is it all for your middle child?

Its funny previously , everybody was saying DD2 was the 'Loser' and that DD1 and DS were the winners in my relocation to Trafford .

DD1 will be 'looked' after, instead of paying her University fees, Brother has put a £30k deposit down on a house in Leicester for her, he will pay the Mortgage while she is at University , when she leaves University he will sell the house and give her a £30k Car after the house has been sold.( for DD to do with what she likes with that car).

What a truly fabulous, generous and helpful uncle they have.
I hope the fairy tale has a happy ending and that all the promises materialise.
I'm sure that all the bribes will make her transition easier and soften the blow of losing her friends and plans having to be rewritten.

Down. It could though be potentially difficult for DD1 to sell the car, as It depends how the Inland Revenue see it. However, if the car has to remain in brothers name ,at least she has a 'fully insured' 30k car to drive round in for as long as she wants.

"It could though be potentially difficult for DD1 to sell the car, as It depends how the Inland Revenue see it."

Unless your brother and his wife both die in the next seven years, it has nothing to do with the Inland Revenue.

What's the point in a 30K car?
It's a serious question, there are so many more ways to use 30K than to buy an expensive car for an under 25yo with sky high insurance rates.