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My friend kept dds money and used Tesco vouchers

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jammyjamjam · 03/09/2014 12:24

Hi, ds had inservice yesterday and a friend (a mum from school) offered to take her, her own dd and 2 others to an amusement park, entry fee was 25 pounds. When ds got back in the afternoon, we chatted about the day and it turns out the mum paid for my dd and the 2 other children with Tesco vouchers, ie, she had redeemed her Tesco points to pay for the 4 dcs and then kept 75 pounds form my dd and the 2 other dc. Surely she could have told us that this place took in Tesco vouchers and I could have used my own points and saved the money? I'm grateful that she took dd but surely she should have been upfront about her intention of using vouchers....AIBU?

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LatteLoverLovesLattes · 04/09/2014 10:50

Cash is more valuable than points

It is more flexible than points, but not more valuable surely.

HelpMeGetOutOfHere · 04/09/2014 10:51

you can use other peoples vouchers. My dad owns his own business and his fuel cards collect nectar points plus he often fills at tescos and gets Tesco points plus my mum does her weekly shop with Tesco. Basically they have hundreds of £ worth of points a year if not thousands, and they cash them in for merlin pass vouchers, we then take them and convert them to annual merlin passes. The vouchers are in my parents name and the passes are in my married name, no one has ever questioned the difference in names.

I think if the friend didn't think she was doing anything underhand she would have said I have some vouchers expiring so will use those and you just give me the cash? this would then have given the other parents chance to say either yes that's fine, or actually I have some vouchers that need using so id prefer to use those.

If I had vouchers that needed using I would have said give the dc money for drinks ice cream etc and i'll cover the cost of getting in with my voucher.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 04/09/2014 10:51

Latte - You'll never convince me and I'll never convince you! It's like the big enders and the little enders in Gulliver's Travels. They had a war over which is the correct end to open an egg!

Lweji · 04/09/2014 10:52

It sounds like you should take her child somewhere, use your vouchers and pocket the price.

Bouttimeforwine · 04/09/2014 10:52

No ghoul, it is not more valuable, just more flexible

FishWithABicycle · 04/09/2014 10:52

Ghoul £25 has exactly the same value as £25 of vouchers. The difference is that vouchers can expire and can only be used in a restricted way. However if you stand by this statement I would like to know whether you would kick up a fuss in a bookshop demanding that they must sell you a £15 book token for less than £15 because the token will be worth less than the cash. If you wouldn't do that (and I wouldn't, it would be mad) then you can't stand by that statement.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 04/09/2014 10:53

More flexible is by definition more valuable. I really am going now for the sake of my blood pressure Grin

LatteLoverLovesLattes · 04/09/2014 10:53

Ghoul Grin

Floggingmolly · 04/09/2014 10:54

the voucher may have been only £6.25 but she can choose to use it wherever she wants. I know it's not exactly what you meant; but she actually can't literally use it wherever she wants - the options for exchanging the vouchers for something 4 times their value are extremely limited.
Whereas cash, of course, is far more flexible... So although what she did makes perfect sense in a coldly logical way, she was still being extremely low rent and tacky... or what back home we'd call a cute hoor

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 04/09/2014 10:54

It's obviously the little end by the way (of an egg that is)

Grin
whatever5 · 04/09/2014 10:55

HelpMeGetOutOfHere According to the terms and conditions the tokens are not transferable. Nobody may have checked when you got your Merlin passes but they have checked my tokens in the past.

Namechangedforthisohyesidid · 04/09/2014 10:57

YANBU! Very very sly indeed. It's totally irrelevant as to what her situation is and how much if a discount she got, if you are friends you mention it!!!!

Bouttimeforwine · 04/09/2014 10:57

And mine have been checked. Depends on how jobs worth they are.

Topaz25 · 04/09/2014 10:57

LatteLoverLovesLattes She could only have spent clubcard boost vouchers on certain other things, like days out. And because of the boost, she didn't even spend £25 to get them. But she charged other people £25 for entry fee then used the vouchers instead so she could swap them for cash that is more useful because it could be spent anywhere. The clubcard boost vouchers only have a value of £25 at certain places and she did not spend £25 to get them, which is why I don't think it is fair for her to charge her friends £25 for using them.

Bouttimeforwine · 04/09/2014 10:58

Figs she didn't get a bloody discount.

Preciousbane · 04/09/2014 10:59

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Bouttimeforwine · 04/09/2014 11:00

Figs = fgs

Topaz25 · 04/09/2014 11:00

FishWithABicycle I only used the BOGOF vouchers as an example of how I would not pay with vouchers and charge friends full price. The vouchers that were used only had a value of £25 with certain providers and the friend did not spend £25 to obtain them but charged OP £25, thus getting extra money, which I don't think is fair.

HelpMeGetOutOfHere · 04/09/2014 11:01

we've had merlin passes for quite a few years now and only ever used nectar and Tesco points to pay for them. I have always had a letter in my bag with permission to use them but have never needed it, certainly not in the last 5 years.

Floggingmolly · 04/09/2014 11:01

She cashed in vouchers with a face value of £6.25 for twenty five quid, using a friend to do it.

Topaz25 · 04/09/2014 11:02

She didn't get a discount on the entry price but she only spent the equivalent of £6.25 on the entry price because of the clubcard boost. She did not spend £25 to get the tickets but charged her friends £25.

Bouttimeforwine · 04/09/2014 11:07

£25 is what they were worth in lots of places. No profit but more flexibility.

I give up

CatThiefKeith · 04/09/2014 11:19

If someone took my child to a theme park all day for £25 I'd have their bloody hand off, even if they had complimentary tickets!

Am Shock at the amount of posters that think this mum from school If someone took my child to a theme park all day for £25 I'd have their bloody hand off, even if they had complimentary tickets!

Am Shock at the amount of posters that on top of a days childcare and taking op's daughter to a theme park this mum from school should also be sharing out her hard earned club card points!

Seems a lot of people think she has made some sort of huge profit.

By my reckoning:

£6.25 x 5 = £31.25. So she made £43.75 "profit". Personally you'd have to pay me a lot more than £43.75(minus fuel, food etc so probably more like £30/40) to take 4 kids to a theme park for the day in the school holidays, I can't think of anything worse! All that stress, she has "made" no more than about three quid per child (if that)

I wonder how much a childminder would charge?

KneeQuestion · 04/09/2014 11:21

she's definitely taken me and the other parents for a bit of a ride!

No, she took your child and the other parents children, for a day out and for that you should be grateful!

CatThiefKeith · 04/09/2014 11:21

Incidentally, if she wanted to just exchange them for cash, she could have put them on EBay. There are loads on there!Wink