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To be pissed off dd1 keeps eating dp tea!

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Anotherchapter · 28/08/2014 21:09

She is 19 for god sake!

She has hers when she gets in from work around 7:15pm . She has probably quite a large meal for some one her size (she is very petite) finishes it all off then with in an hour or so I can hear her in the kitchen faffing about looking for food.

Recently she has taken to taking food off dp plate as he gets in at 9:30 ish.

She knows it's left for him And I tell her to leave it alone. I didn't plate his up tonight (did a beef curry) I heard her come down stairs and go in the kitchen. I heard the lid off the pan lift up, I told her to leave his bloody tea alone, then a few seconds later I heard her put it back and go back upstairs.

Just been in to check and she had took all the fucking meat out of it bar one shitty morsel!

If she gets hungry she knows she can make toast or cereal but to be taking his food - when she knows it's for him and that's all there is pissing me off.

I've just been up and told her off - she said she only had a tea spoon full Hmm

I don't know what her problem is.

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Original poster
Anotherchapter · 28/08/2014 22:06

marmite I cook and make the food up because I'm at home all day so I have the time. We are a family on a budget so I have to plan meals

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TaliZorahVasNormandy · 28/08/2014 22:08

and its rude and greedy for another adult to take food from another when she knows they havent eaten yet. If she wants more food she can make it, she's 19. If she doesnt want what her mum has cooked, then she dont have to eat it.

Marmiteandjamislush · 28/08/2014 22:08

If she's working and has no additional needs surely she can budget and cook for herself though. I was 365 miles away from my parents at just 19.

MrsWinnibago · 28/08/2014 22:09

Marmite some families are on tight budgets and believe it or not...food has to be rationed. It would be VERY nice to think we could all have an open kitchen and a free for all but we can't.

I for one have to limit my gannet children from scoffing ALL the cheese, ALL the crisps and sometimes all the fruit and milk.

They get enough to eat...but the'd eat it all and leave nothing for the next day.

Marmiteandjamislush · 28/08/2014 22:09

I also say this as someone who developed bulimia due to my overly controlling mother.

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TaliZorahVasNormandy · 28/08/2014 22:11

Marmite, then perhaps you are projecting slightly. At 19 she's old enough to make her own food and not pinch someone elses.

Marmiteandjamislush · 28/08/2014 22:11

We're not talking about child though, Mrs, she's an adult. If she wants to live at home she should be part of the budgeting process.

MrsWinnibago · 28/08/2014 22:11

MArmite you sound like a lovely Mother. Hmm What sane parent makes their teen child cook for herself and pay for it all while she makes herself and her partner separate food!

What a mean and silly suggestion.

Marmiteandjamislush · 28/08/2014 22:12

That's my point. Tall Op, shouldn't shout at her like a child.

MrsWinnibago · 28/08/2014 22:12

Yes of course she should give her board and if she wants to buy extra food then fine. but this is a FAMILY not a bloody house share!

Oldraver · 28/08/2014 22:12

Why are you making and plating food for an adult? That's pretty controlling

Marmite thats crazy..surely every adult in the house doesn't cook individually. Someone will cook for others. Plating up isnt controlling

MrsWinnibago · 28/08/2014 22:13

Where did OP say she shouted?

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 28/08/2014 22:15

She shouldnt act like one, she's obviously been told not to do it before and still does it.

My mum still cooked for my at 19, she's not controlling.

ICanSeeTheSun · 28/08/2014 22:15

Marmite I can go into my parents house any time and help myself to any thing.

I will only ever have a biscuit or a snack. No fucking way would i go and eat someone elses prepared meal.

This needs stamping out, because she wouldnt go into the works fridge and help herself to someone else lunch so why do it at home.

Marmiteandjamislush · 28/08/2014 22:15

You mean their ADULT, working daughter Mrs, I hope at that stage of life my 2 boys would be able to do what I suggest to the OP. Many young people do not live with parents at that age so have to cook for themselves, so what is mean and silly about it? Hmm

ChillySundays · 28/08/2014 22:17

My DD is 19 and I wouldn't expect her to cook her own evening meal but I would expect her to have some consideration for others in the house. How would the OP's DD react if she came home to what the OP's DP comes home to.

WitchWay · 28/08/2014 22:17

I'd cook a meal for everyone at the same time, even if it were late - that's what I tend to do. DH gets in latish. If DS is starving he might have his early, but he doesn't get more later - if still hungry then milk/cereal/cheese/crackers

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Anotherchapter · 28/08/2014 22:18

Shock a bit of projection there marmite .

Dd1 is part of the budget. That's why she has fresh meal waiting for her every night and which she is always pleased about. I also do her washing. Because I have plenty of time on my hands.

Anyways dp is back , he said 'don't worry about it' . Sky sports is on and he is happy.

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Mrsjayy · 28/08/2014 22:18

She gave her daughter a talking to for nicking somebodies dinner she is eating somebody elses food who hasn't eating yet op is hardly controlling being in a family is about respect for others she is showing none,

MrsWinnibago · 28/08/2014 22:19

Marmite 19 is still young enough to be in need of the support and help of your family.

Marmiteandjamislush · 28/08/2014 22:19

"I did the shouty thing before. She was sat up in bed. Swearing she only had a teaspoon full. But we both no she was lying." There Mrs RTFT

Marmiteandjamislush · 28/08/2014 22:20

Support, yes smothering, no. It's very damaging and unhealthy.

MrsWinnibago · 28/08/2014 22:20

The shouty thing is pretty normal in most vibrant families *Marmite". You seem to have some idea that once DC turn 18 things suddenly become formal and nobody disrespects anyone ever. That's not what happens.

MrsWinnibago · 28/08/2014 22:21

How on earth is providing a meal and not wanting the DD to eat the DPs meal smothering! Your perspective seems very skewed.