AIBU to not want to take 2 cars on my wedding day to accommodate someone?

[FelicityFoxton]

I'm getting married on Friday - it's just a small do with 18 guests. Two of the people invited are my daughter's sister who is 26 and niece who is 2. ( my dd is almost 16 and they have the same father,. I'm not particularly close to her however we get on absolutely fine and my daughter is close to her , sees her often and babysits a lot for her niece.

I invited her to the wedding. We are getting married 12 miles from here and then it's a further 12 miles or so to where we are having lunch and then it's back to our house. My daughters sister does not drive and has now just told me that she can't get there using buses etc because where we are going is not on a bus route

We have two cars. We were only taking one because there are four of us in the family. I really do not want to take two cars to accommodate her. It would mean me driving , my ( soon to be ! ) husband driving and all this to fit her in with her little girl. I just don't want to drive there separately , get married and then drive off to the lunch separately etc etc.

My daughter thinks I'm BU. I think she's 26 years old an she's had enough notice to sort out a lift or a babysitter for her child ( who is very welcome of course but if it wasn't for her, we'd be able to squeeze her in )

My daughter wants her there. I do as well but I just don't want to take two cars.

So ... AIBU ?

hi OP, I'm kind of on the fence with this one. But If I had to make a decision, I would say that if she REALLY wants to be there, she would be able to sort out her own arrange her own transport. As someone has just pointed out, she has had 8 weeks to arrange something. Has she even tried? Surely she must know someone that can give her a lift?

Can she not public transport it to as close as she can get, then get a taxi from there?

I'd give it one last push to try and get her a lift (blanket email to everyone attending to double check no one has a space in their car.
But I wouldn't take two cars purely on the basis that it's your wedding, at least one of you should be able to have a drink to celebrate.

How did she take your suggestion op? Is she happy with it? How old was she when she lived with you? Or had she already left home when you were with her father?

lottie the problems been resolved

She's very happy with solution and all the other stuff is pretty much irrelevant. I split up with her father 16 years ago - everyone is amicable and always has been. To reiterate - Im not her stepmother. More of a slightly exasperated caring older friend who bails her out a fair bit . She is important to me as my daughters sister but I am not a mother figure!

All is well though and thanks for the solutions on here - glad I found one!

Oh she's a ten minute walk from my house

I am glad you've found a solution that works for you all - I was reading through the thread, and was going to suggest asking her if she could find someone to drive her in your car - but this sounds much more sensible.

I hope you have a lovely day!