To hope that I can ask about FF without being shot down in flames?

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I'm interested in WHY people choose to FF if not for medical reasons (ie they can't because of medication they have to take, or because their baby was very premature and is unable to suckle) - I've seen a lot of threads where people assert that FF was best for them/their family/their baby or that they chose to FF without trying BF, and I'm curious as to why. Genuinely curious I'm not interested in fighting with anyone about what's best or right; I'd just like to read about why people FF because I honestly don't know. In the interests of full disclosure though (I know how MNs feel about this! ), I am a breastfeeding mother.

Fairylea what am I not allowed to be proud of my acheivement?

Silver, the thread is about why women choose to FF. If you are BF why are you commenting?

silver, how old is your PFB?

Did you not worry about the impact on their mental health of you "dreading every feed"? That doesn't sound like a very positive atmosphere to me.

Oh god, the washing up! My worst FF moment was when DH accidentally spilled an entire bottle of Milton into the laundry basket and bleached it all.

But its not an achievement. It's a fact of life. You breastfed. I formula fed. Does that make you a better parent than me?

Oh dear silver, I hope you weren't putting your desire for "achievement" over your baby's needs

Your achievement Silver?

You fed your baby. So did every other mother on this thread.

You've already been given a medal. What else do you want? A parade?

Yes, you can be proud of your achievement silver, well done you, have a medal or a chocolate button or kudos or whatever it is you want. BF can be very difficult.

But the thread is specifically about FF and not BF vs FF. Your comments were thoughtless, rude, insulting and belittled many of the women on this thread. You do not love your children more or prioritise them more simply because you BF, it is not a magic bullet that automatically earns you a place in the parenting hall of fame.

Perhaps we formula feeders should be kissing the ground she walks upon, that we may bathe in the milky glow of her lactation achievements.

I hope someone bribes me with chocolate buttons to breastfeed BECAUSE I'LL DO IT

Ah this thread is getting back to being great fun

Buttons for breastfeeds? New NHS campaign?

Heehee

You have to turn all those bloody teats inside out.
You have to boil water.
You have to hold the sodding bottle.

I am far too lazy to FF a newborn. It was HELL.
You are all mad.

I did like having all the bottles and teats and things all stacked neatly in their special place though.

I FF my others at some point in the proceedings but only when they were on a few feeds a day. I bought cartons for the youngest ones. I think that is even worse isn't it?

Its like the baddest form of FF or something.

Dishwasher, ready made formula - easy.

bear!

I wish they had that perfect prep machine when I was ff

I nearly cried when DD had to go onto comfort formula for constipation.

They don't make it in ready made cartons :(

"Hoobypicky but the benefits of breastfeeding are NOT 'very small' or 'negligible' To suggest so is ignorant."

Woah! Who are you to tell me that?

They 'king are to me!

The benefits of BF my babies absolutely were negligible in comparison to the benefits of FF. You can't possibly tell me otherwise because you aren't me.

The benefits of breast milk compared to formula milk are pretty damn small too - certainly not big enough to make me willing to be in pain, in discomfort, pinned to the sofa, unnecessarily exhausted, permanently attached to a baby, looking and feeling like something Worra's can of Pledge might have buffed up.

Come back with the "putting your child first" stuff when you've sacrificed your car, luxuries and holidays for a decent education for your PFB, given up a relationship or moved house for his benefit, given up your career to raise him. Which type of milk you feed for the first few months might pale into insignificance then.

On more important matters has anyone had M&S buttons. They're about four centimetres in diameter. I have to quality test them heavily before dd is allowed one.

The perfect prep machine is bloody brilliant.

I used to clear the shelves in Asda. If someone got to the last cartons before me I had to restrain myself from committing violence.

I am the laziest mum in the world.... Ready made formula in ready to use little bottles, all sterile and ready to go. I didn't even need to get out of bed - box of them by the bed. No faff. Expensive yes but totally hassle free. And no sore nipples or bruised boobs. Fantastic.