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To feel really upset aft DP pointed out a hot girl he thought should 'sit on his face'

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peachyliz · 17/08/2014 15:18

My DP of 3 years occasionally glances at other women discreetly. I'm fine with that. More recently when his mates are over, they talk about hot women (celebrities) at great length, and I laugh and go along with it. A few times recently he has made similar comments about hot women, even when he is just with me.
Then yesterday we were going through a drive-through, and he pointed out a woman working there and said "she doesn't belong here, she is way to hot to work here", so going along with the joke, I said "oh really?". And he said "she belongs sat on my face".
I was completely stunned, and as we were on the way to spend the day with my family, I just didn't say anything. We spent the evening with friends, and he joked with them that he had crossed the line, and wanted me to just forgive him (in front of them, so no opportunity to talks about it).
I'm angry because I feel like he just doesn't respect me, and that I am a bit of a doormat. I'm having a confidence crisis anyway, because he recently spent several weeks with mention-itus about a new, beautiful female friend of his (who is apparently just lovely, talented, and invited him to a BBQ party without me). So I just feel even more insecure now. If this is the stuff he says to my face, what does he think about when he meets other women?

Sorry for the essay. Am I being unreasonable to be really upset and angry?

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GrapefruitILoveIt · 19/08/2014 11:34

I'm not bitter (despite my name) and I'm not alone! Only in a fledgling relationship but he is the polar opposite of my horribly misogynist x. This guy takes everybody as an individual and we click hugely.

I'm only one person but I'm glad I left an asshole. 100% satisfaction here.

bethcutler13 · 19/08/2014 11:34

Oh come on.... Nobody WANTS to work at McDonald's.
Doesn't define the girl, hey at least she's working but I can't envy someone for working at McDonald's?!
Maybe for being really attractive and working towards a phd though

AnyFucker · 19/08/2014 11:34

have you got cats or alsatians though ?

iamusuallybeingunreasonable · 19/08/2014 11:35

And some people have no choice but to work in maccy fucking dees, if it makes you feel better to look down on them for this then I'm not sure who the sad one is

iamusuallybeingunreasonable · 19/08/2014 11:36

A PHD is no use to a girl who goes down the gym or for a facial just to get up to scratch with the girl in maccy fucking dees... What a waste

bethcutler13 · 19/08/2014 11:37

Good on your grapefruit, that's great news for you.
I'm so glad I stayed with mine, he turned out alright in the end, he's pretty much my rock even if his OCD drives me crazy.

bethcutler13 · 19/08/2014 11:40

I used to work there! When I was 16, they actually treat there employees very well. But I can safely say I wouldn't work there again and I could envy anyone for working there.
I don't have a phd.
I go to the gym because it's me time and I've had one facial in my life but it's surprisingly refreshing.
If I wanted to compete with other women I'd join the swim team or something, not sure where everyone's got this idea from.

bethcutler13 · 19/08/2014 11:41

Stop making judgements, it's really not necessary

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bethcutler13 · 19/08/2014 11:45

No, still trying to find myself respect. Think it's in my dps wallet. Still searching

iamusuallybeingunreasonable · 19/08/2014 11:49

You'll definitely not find it in your DPs wallet

LEMmingaround · 19/08/2014 11:49

Wtaf does the girl from mc ds matter? The geezer is a cunt. I would never be with who said that about ANY woman. When i think of who works in macdonalds i think. Young person. Probably a student. Happy to work shit hours and work under pressure. Prob look quite good on a cv. I couldn't do it.

I bloody fancy a mac donalds now, dammit, ill have to give dp another blow job.

MrsGoslingWannabe · 19/08/2014 11:50

What the hell is this all about?! Can't be bothered to RTFT.

bethcutler13 · 19/08/2014 11:54

I can. He said he's going to pay for me to have a boob job too. How much does that anger you?! Go on...

LuluJakey1 · 19/08/2014 11:54

Beth If I was you, I would hide this thread and never look at it again. It is one of those MN threads that has been diverted into something else and you have got caught in what has turned into an online attack and defend circle.

OK, what you said didn't sound great but you apologised and it has gone on and on. Honestly, it is not worth it. Just ignore it. You can never win and it is not worth upsetting yourself by keep reading and posting.

Just an opinion. Smile

And somehow, the OP has disappeared. in it all. Hey ho! MN flaming.

YouTheCat · 19/08/2014 11:55

Gordy, you and me both on the crazy cat lady front. Grin

Fwiw, I don't need to compete. My partner doesn't show himself up by being a twat and shows me the same respect I show him plus he shows the cat respect too.

bethcutler13 · 19/08/2014 11:56

Thanks Lulu. You're right.
P.s was joking about the boob job...

AnyFucker · 19/08/2014 11:56

Stop goading, Beth. It's not big, and it's not clever.

YouTheCat · 19/08/2014 11:58

Couldn't give a shit if you want a boob job, a blow job or a job in MacDonalds. Grin

MrsGoslingWannabe · 19/08/2014 11:59

Are you bored Beth?

AnyFucker · 19/08/2014 12:00

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MrsGoslingWannabe · 19/08/2014 12:00

Grin at YouTheCat.

iamusuallybeingunreasonable · 19/08/2014 12:04

Beth's gone off now to make herself look hotter than the other girl sitting on her DHs face

WowserBowser · 19/08/2014 12:08

Naughty iam Grin

People always miss the point on threads like this. It's not ok to treat women (even those awful maccy d working swines) like shit. That's all people are trying to say.

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