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aibu to go to the cinema on DD's 1st day of P1

140 replies

CycleChic · 14/08/2014 11:57

She's an only child, and DH and I really want to see this film before he gets a spoiler. We have signed her up for the after school club and if I weren't still fucking unemployed had to work that day, I wouldn't think twice about using it. DH has taken the day off and we've tried several other options for childcare at the weekends/evenings without any luck.

So... aaibu to just use the childcare we are paying for?

OP posts:
YouTheCat · 14/08/2014 12:00

Go for it and have fun.

Which film is it?

WooWooOwl · 14/08/2014 12:03

You'd rather go to the cinema than pick your child up from their first day at school at the normal time?

Your choice, but personally I think it's a bit weird and I'd think most people would want to hear about their child's first day at school more than they want to go to the cinema. I work in reception and I can imagine a few dc being disappointed not to have an excited parent there at the end of the day along with everyone else, but that entirely depends on the child.

I'm assuming here that this will be the first day at school though, is P1 what they go straight into in Scotland?

happystory · 14/08/2014 12:07

We'll since you asked, I wouldn't do it

TimetohittheroadJack · 14/08/2014 12:08

Why not go during the day when she is at school and be back in time to pick her up?

WorraLiberty · 14/08/2014 12:10

Is it usual to do an entire day at school on the first day?

Either way, I wouldn't do it because I'd want to pick them up and hear all about it.

Also, if she happens to struggle with her first day, the after school club might be too much.

Yes, she'd have to suck it up if you were working, but you're not.

SetPhasersTaeMalkie · 14/08/2014 12:10

I wouldn't do it.

googoodolly · 14/08/2014 12:10

I'd rather pick my child up than go to the cinema Hmm go during the day instead?

TheBloodManCometh · 14/08/2014 12:10

I love the cinema, I really do. It's one of my favourite things but I honestly think YABU.
Are you not excited about her 1st day?

TantrumsAndBalloons · 14/08/2014 12:12

Can you not go during the time she is at school?

If you are happy with it, it's up to you. I would rather be at the gate for the first day so I can hear all about it but everyone is different, you just do whatever you are comfortable with, don't you?

SavoyCabbage · 14/08/2014 12:12

I can't think of many things that I would choose to do rather than pick my only child up from school on her first day.

SirChenjin · 14/08/2014 12:12

Nope - wouldn't put a trip to the cinema over being there for my child on their first day of school. I work f/t and use childcare for the rest of the year that I pay for, but not on their first day.

P1 is the first year of school up here, but children attend nursery aged 3 and 4, before starting school at around 5. Their pre-school year (ie second year of nursery) is similar to reception.

TwelveGrimmauldPlace · 14/08/2014 12:12

Yabu it's your childs first day of school. Surely she would like her parents to pick her up like the rest of her classmates?

TantrumsAndBalloons · 14/08/2014 12:13

And it's probably a really stupid question and beside the point but why are you paying for ASC if you don't need it?

Ours is £10 a day, there's no way on earth I would pay £50 a week if I didn't have to.

backwardpossom · 14/08/2014 12:14

Presumably she's only in for an hour and a half or so if it's the first day, time - they'll be getting phased in.

I suppose it depends on how sentimental you are. I'm working on DS's first day (Tuesday) and as I am a teacher, I can't just take time off. I'm not particularly upset about it though, it's not ideal, but it's just the way it is. If I had a choice though, I don't think I'd go to the cinema over picking him up. It's entirely up to you!

Gileswithachainsaw · 14/08/2014 12:14

If you were working you'd have to wait til after school club had finished before you got to hear about the day.

I'd go. Care is sorted and heaven forbid use a service provided which you pay for.Hmm

Most likely she'd need to rest and wind down before she said anything about her day anyway.

thetoysarealiveitellthee · 14/08/2014 12:16

yabu and you know it!

What film out of interest???

WorraLiberty · 14/08/2014 12:16

If you were working you'd have to wait til after school club had finished before you got to hear about the day.

Yeah but she isn't...that's the point of the OP I think?

Come to think of it OP, I don't know why you're asking us. You know your child and we don't. So only you and your DH can answer your question really.

SirChenjin · 14/08/2014 12:17

If you were working - you would do what those of us who are working would do and take the afternoon off as annual leave booked months in advance, or finish early, again arranged months ago.

But that's a moot point, because the OP is not working.

No - in our LA they do full days from day one. Not phased in, thank god.

SirChenjin · 14/08/2014 12:18

Take the afternoon off if possible - should have put

Gileswithachainsaw · 14/08/2014 12:19

But why is it ok to use a service if your working but not if you aren't?

Should people stop using the free hits for two year olds because they are home?

If her dd was the kind of child who needed mummy there I'm sure she would pick her up.

After school club should be fun and she'd just have more to tell after.

Plenty of people have others pick their kids up after school for all sorts of reasons that aren't work.

BackforGood · 14/08/2014 12:20

I agree with everyone else.
Doesn't matter how much you want to see this film, I can't begin to imagine that seeing it could be more important than collecting your dc from their first day at school. Think that's really odd.

I'm talking as someone who had to let others pick up my dc as I was at work and couldn't get away (being a teacher) but really, really, can't imagine any parent not collecting them at the end of their first day if they were available and not doing anything else they had to be Shock

WorraLiberty · 14/08/2014 12:20

If her dd was the kind of child who needed mummy there I'm sure she would pick her up

Which begs the question, why is she asking us?

There must be a reason for it. Perhaps she'll come back and tell us soon.

OnlyLovers · 14/08/2014 12:21

Go for it and ignore the cats-bum-mouthing, You know your family.

DiaDuit · 14/08/2014 12:21

yes, YABU.

go the cinema some other evening, book a babysitter. first day of school is a big thing for DCs and they'll want to see you there picking her up like her friends' parents rather than going to afterschool club (is that til 5pm? long day for the first day! unnecessarily.) I suspect there wont be that many P1s going on day 1.

SquattingNeville · 14/08/2014 12:22

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