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Original poster

aibu to go to the cinema on DD's 1st day of P1

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CycleChic · 14/08/2014 11:57

She's an only child, and DH and I really want to see this film before he gets a spoiler. We have signed her up for the after school club and if I weren't still fucking unemployed had to work that day, I wouldn't think twice about using it. DH has taken the day off and we've tried several other options for childcare at the weekends/evenings without any luck.

So... aaibu to just use the childcare we are paying for?

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DogCalledRudis · 14/08/2014 12:42

Are there any other showtimes? Daytime, day before, late evening?

thetoysarealiveitellthee · 14/08/2014 12:43

Honestly I think the kid will be fine, might be a bit upset when they realise Mum wasn't there when she could have been (also cant imagine many kids do the after school club thing on their first day so she might be the only one there :( ) but they will get over it.

Its whether you can handle the guilt that will probably come after the film has ended to be honest so thats what you need to be asking yourself IMO.

Gileswithachainsaw · 14/08/2014 12:44

Your all acting as if she's going away for a week or something.

Really it's a couple of hours and she's in an after school club not home alone.

thetoysarealiveitellthee · 14/08/2014 12:45

Mind you I always remember a few times my mum didnt pick me up as she had gone to bingo and I remember feeling that she loved bingo more than me Blush

DiaDuit · 14/08/2014 12:46

just imagining the DH's work conversations the next day

colleague: "well, how was DD yesterday? was she all smiles coming out? did she enjoy her first day?"
DH: "oh I don't know, I went to the cinema"
colleague: Hmm

thetoysarealiveitellthee · 14/08/2014 12:47

Giles its not that. Its a bit of a big thing, a milestone innit, collecting your kid on their first day, waiting there for them to come running out, peeking through the window to see your kid trying to put on someone elses coat etc.

They can go to the pictures another time, I think thats the point.

OnlyLovers · 14/08/2014 12:48

Dia, we don't know, obviously, but I read the OP as saying that her DH took the day off to go to the cinema.

ICanSeeTheSun · 14/08/2014 12:48

I waste my AL on all sort of reasons, some is so I can just drop the DC off to school and go home to bed.

thetoysarealiveitellthee · 14/08/2014 12:49

last year my boss was horrified that I hadn't booked the day off to get DS1 on his first day so made me work from home so I could get him Grin

My boss is ace.

vestandknickers · 14/08/2014 12:50

I can't believe you even have to ask.

Go to cinema or be there for DD when she comes out of her very first day or school?

Should be a no brainer.

First day at school will happen once in her life. She needs to feel that you're exited for her and dying to hear all about it. The vast majority of mums and dads will be there at the end of the day and she'll notice that you're not.

Oh, and if it's Planes 2 - they all die too!

Thebodyloveschocolateandwine · 14/08/2014 12:51

I think it's bizarre behaviour since you ask.

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CycleChic · 14/08/2014 12:51

I ask because I'm starting to think it's not a nice thing to do. .. even though DD probably won't care either way. So I guess I know it's not really on. :(

The 1st day's only until noon, and the asc is running (a wrap around provision, too) so we couldn't make a showing during the time she's at school this week or next.

The film is Guardians of the Galaxy- if she were a bit older we could just take her with us! For those disparaging DH: the other option is we see it separately, but it's been ages since we were able to go out together :(

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mrsruffallo · 14/08/2014 12:52

If it's Earth to Echo, it all works out.

Gileswithachainsaw · 14/08/2014 12:53

But she is going to be there.along side all the other parents picking their kids up from ASC.

There will be people doing car shares or using grandparents and all sorts.

Dd couldn't have cared less who picked her up.

MildDrPepperAddiction · 14/08/2014 12:53

First day of school? YABU and I suspect you know it. I'm on ml so will be able to drop off and collect my DS however if I was working I would book leave to be with him.

Original poster
CycleChic · 14/08/2014 12:54

Knew I forgot a pressing question Hmm

He wasn't goi

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LadyLuck10 · 14/08/2014 12:55

Why did your DH even take leave? To go to the moviesConfused please grow up, your second post explains about spending time together. Is that really more important than your dd first day of school? Book another day of leave and go then ffs.

thetoysarealiveitellthee · 14/08/2014 12:56

Is that the one with the rodent in it?

Tbh you wont know if your DD cares until you either pick her up, or don't.

As I say IMO you have to think about how you would feel missing that first pick up. How you'd feel if she asks why you weren't there etc. She might not say anything, but what if she does?

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CycleChic · 14/08/2014 12:57

Grr. He took the day off for the film primarily, but also to be there at drop off. For just the film, he'd have only used a half day.

And he's loads of leave because we can't afford to go away to use it up.

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Gileswithachainsaw · 14/08/2014 12:58

Just go op

Seriously.

Your dd will be fine and most people will be too busy face booking about it all to pay attention to the kids anyway.

thetoysarealiveitellthee · 14/08/2014 12:59

So if hes got loads of leave left go another day???

mrsruffallo · 14/08/2014 13:00

Yes, couldn't he take another day off, say next week when she's settled in and you could go then?

lylasmam2012 · 14/08/2014 13:02

I've often taken days off work and left my 2 year old in creche to go the cinema or have a day out with hubby. But there is no way at all that I would miss her first day of school! Not a chance!

vestandknickers · 14/08/2014 13:02

Your dd will be fine and most people will be too busy face booking about it all to pay attention to the kids anyway.

Not most people Giles. Most people will be chatting to their child, looking at the things they've brought home, maybe having a special tea because for most parents it is a genuinely exciting day.

NickNacks · 14/08/2014 13:05

Feeling extreme guilt here reading this has hit me like a ton of bricks.

I couldn't pick ds up from his first day of school because I went into labour. Feeling v bad all of a sudden. :(

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