aibu to go to the cinema on DD's 1st day of P1

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She's an only child, and DH and I really want to see this film before he gets a spoiler. We have signed her up for the after school club and if I weren't still fucking unemployed had to work that day, I wouldn't think twice about using it. DH has taken the day off and we've tried several other options for childcare at the weekends/evenings without any luck.

So... aaibu to just use the childcare we are paying for?

I'm thinking perhaps Giles meant she doesn't 'mind' who picks her up, rather than she doesn't 'care'?

Correct me if I'm wrong, obviously

Depends on your priorities I suppose- which will you cherish the most in later years- picking your child up from their first day at school or watching a film that will be on DVD in a few weeks

First choice would be them but as that doesn't happen anymore she really isn't fussed if it's me or her dad or a friend. She goes out as soon as she gets home most days whoever picks her up.

The taxi was a novelty, think that was even more interesting than mummy picking her up :o

I don't get to do school pick up or drop off very often and it's such a treat when I manage it. For me and my children.

It's not mine (or anyone else's) place to judge the OP, but she has asked for opinions. Suffice to say, I wouldn't choose the cinema over a first day at school pick up in a million years.

But then she's not the sort to come bounding out desperate to tell me stuff or jumping up for cuddles etc

She tells me after dinner usually if at all

She just wants to get home and go play with her friend or go run around.

She didn't look back on her first day either.

*Feeling extreme guilt here reading this has hit me like a ton of bricks.

I couldn't pick ds up from his first day of school because I went into labour. Feeling v bad all of a sudden. sad*

Oh that's nothing. DS was born prematurely so I was in hospital for DD1's first two weeks at school.

I put DD2 into after school club on her first day at school... even though I was still on maternity leave, I wanted her to get used to the routine before I went back to work 2 weeks later. After school club was at the nursery she'd been at since she was a baby, she was with her big sister and friends who weren't in reception. When I arrived to pick her up (after just an hour of after school club) she told me to go away and come back when it closed because she was having so much fun. For the next 2 weeks I picked her up as late as possible because she was enjoying after school club more than school at that stage.

So, based on my experience, go and see the film. DH and I have very odd days at home when it's just the two of us (Actually it's less than 'odd days', we've only done it about 3 times since DD1 was born 6.5 years ago) and it's such bliss to have a day without children. Enjoy the film and use up a few more of your DH's annual leave days on doing things together.

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It's not a competition games :(

I'm sorry about your experience but please don't minimise my feelings.

Nick,I think she was just trying to make you feel better.

Personally I think that you are being a bit selfish. I am with Margocat

What makes it worse is that your going to watch a comic book film

I know I'm massively missing the point of the thread here but

a) I'm 40 and I LOVE comic books films! Actually just sat and watched Captain America 2 with DD this evening. Saw Guardians on Saturday just gone. Stupidly excited for Avengers 2 and that's not even out til next year.

b) I'd rather be into Marvel films than someone who doesn't know the difference between 'your' and 'you're'.

Sorry for picking up on grammar but I think if you're going to be high and mighty about the film choices someone makes then I'm going to be the same about your lack of English!

However, I wouldn't miss picking my child up from school on their first day. I have three. My eldest went to nursery from four months and did a year of pre-school before Reception. I still wouldn't have missed picking her up on that first day.

And I'm in England - all three of mine attended the same school. Eldest went straight in for full days, DS1 had a staggered start time on his first day, DS2 went straight in for full days. It does happen.

As a childminder I have picked up plenty of children from their first day at school. Some at lunchtime, some at the end of the school day and some from after school clubs. The children are just as excited about their first day at school regardless of when their parents collect them.

Out of a class of 30 there will be plenty of them not seeing parents till later and it won't traumatise them for life!!

Why haven't you been to see it already? It's been out for a week or so.

As of last year children in England had to have the option of starting Reception on a full day. The parent can decide to stagger it, but the school can't.

As for the question, I can't see why you can't go to see the film at some other time.

There's a major difference though nokids between someone having to use out of school care because they are at work and someone who could easily be there, deciding that going to the pictures is more of a priority in their life!

I wouldn't worry too much about spoilers, it's not really a spoilerisy sort of film. It's amazing though. Go next week.