to 'accidently' wake up DP during every night feed.

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Or just whenever I feel like waking him up actually.

Sorry it is so long.
DS is now almost 9 months old and the boy just doesn't sleep. All he wants to do is play and stand up, I can get him to have two, one hour naps a day but he often refuses to go to sleep at night. His bedtime is 7pm but for the past month he still hasn't been asleep my 10pm he will wake up at 3am every morning without fail and sometimes he just won't go back to sleep for two hours. Then he's awake and ready to start the day by 7am.

He is breastfed so I have always been the one to wake in the night and since he has been born I've been getting on average 5-6 hours of sleep a night and never more than 3 hours at a time. DP works FT, he does need a good nights sleep so I just get on with it on my own.

However the sheer lack of consideration from DP is making my blood boil. Weekends are supposed to be my lie in days. DS is eating solids and finger foods now so DP can give him breakfast and entertain him so I can get a few hours sleep. DP hasn't woken up until 11-1 every weekend and I have been up since 7 on my 'lie in' days.

DP always decides at about 11pm that he wants a shower before bed. Ds room is directly next to bathroom and the bath and shower are in the same place as his cot, just on the other side of the wall. The shower wakes him up because it sounds like a bloody jumbo jet and once showered DP gets into bed and goes to sleep, so I am left trying to stay awake feeding DS in a warm, dark and silent room when all I want to do is sleep.

DP wakes ds every single morning, if his two-minutely alarms going off from 5:30-7 (he just sleeps through them all even with a sonic boom alarm clock) doesn't do the trick then the banging around and shouting up the stairs certainly does.

This morning he must have actually woken up to his alarms for once because at 7am both me and ds was still both asleep, until DP couldn't find something for work and somehow thought I would know where it was. I didn't of course so a lot of banging around and him being as loud as possible has woken DS.

I'm getting fed up of it. So, WIBU to wake DP during the night and make sure he gets no more than 6 hours a night and 3 hours at a stretch so he can see how I feel?

Or failing that,

WIBU to kill him?

Just a thought... Is there a chance your dp might be depressed? I have similar issues, and after a few months of arguing, dp broke down one night and it all came out. he has struggled with fatherhood, sleeps badly and feels unwell a lot of the time. Sometimes I still feel reaentful about his weekend lie ins, but he has sought help and things are slowly improving.

When you get up in the night to feed DS, switch off his phone alarm in your way back in. Set your own for his drop dead time.
Wake, place feet into small of his back and push him out of the bed. Say" wow, look at the time".
Roll over, go back to sleep.

How are things now op.

Scratch that. OP, have you got a tens machine or one you can borrow? :-) ...

if it were me i would hide the bloody phone and buy an alarm clock - set it for 7am. if he cant get up then its his tough luck. if he sets his phone for 5am i would just turn the damn thing off, and rely on a proper alarm clock at the time he NEEDS to get up.

Just set the time yourself, if he sets it earlier turn his phone off.
Why do you let him do this?
Talk to him and tell him its not on, tell him what you expect.
Get him to give the water at night and get some sleep woman.
ask him how he thinks you cope on so little sleep.
Book a weekend away with a friend.

Well I spoke to soon with my previous update. Last night at about 11:30 DP decided to jump into the shower. When he had finished and came back to the bedroom he found me lying on the bed in some lingerie, his little eyes lit up and I rolled over and went to sleep.

DS slept 8-8 last night :D I woke up feeling so cheerful I had to share my joy by singing 'good morning, good morning. I slept the whole night through, good morning' extremely loudly, about two inches away from DP's face.

I think today will be a good day

I like your style.

Not read the whole thing, but why do you have to stay awake to feed? Especially if BF? Just co sleep and let him latch on whenever he likes.

OH

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