to think you cant post anything on here without being picked on!

[zazA09Jane]

like really, this section can be so negative and bitchy! nearly everyone who posts in AIBU gets unnecessaryagro about something theyv posted which to anyone else could seem completely normal!? some people need to get there attitude checked and realise that for example if you say the word 'gay' in a post, you don't need to rip them apart calling them homophobic by people desperately looking for a problem..just saying, chill out we are supposed to support eachother as women not make sly digs and remarks over social networking!

Meh. I get "yelled" at about every other thread or so.

I'm not the most "PC" person, nor do I have the mental energy to go over and delicately word every little post so there's no room for misinterpretation. I've tried and it doesn't work. Now I just type what's on my mind and hit post.

Mostly though, I just hide the threads if I'm getting ganged up on. It's a lost cause to reason with the unreasonable. You can't expect water from an empty cup.

I don't post on AIBU often. I started a thread last week though, asking AIBU not to pay my window cleaner after he broke a fairly expensive (ie over £10) pot on my balcony when he moved it to climb over the railing. I said I couldn't easily replace the pot because I was on a low income.

I was told by two posters to clean my own windows as it was an unnecessary expense if I was on a low income. It wasn't a suggestion but a directive. I was also picked up on for having 'expensive' pots whilst being on a low income.

I hadn't asked if I was being unreasonable to have my windows cleaned if I was on a low income or whether owning two nice pots was unreasonable, but was told in no uncertain terms that both of these were indulgences I couldn't afford. Totally off-topic, very judgemental and unecessarily aggressive and I stopped looking at the thread after a bit.

I would hesitate to post in this section in future I think because it seems after this, that some people are deliberately inflammatory and unpleasant.

AIBU is an institution, a place where the nitty gritty of life gets chewed over with great honesty and a large amount of integrity. Make every effort to keep it safe and civil, MN - but don't go changing too much! It's an object lesson in human nature and modern life.

to think you cant post anything on here without being picked on!

I've told you a million times - stop exaggerating!

AIBU is an institution, a place where the nitty gritty of life gets chewed over with great honesty and a large amount of integrity.

And huge amounts of abuse & judginess from what I've seen. If it's going to continue in its current format then MNHQ need to actively police it more proactively and not just pick on the "easy" marks who snap after lots of goading. They need to actually read up 5 or 6 posts above the "offending" post & see what was said to cause it.

Context is everything, but is often ignored because the goady group all report the same post & it gets deleted....

Goading isn't allowed - but some people seem to get away with it all the time....

People change the entire meaning of OP and it never gets back!