to think you cant post anything on here without being picked on!

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like really, this section can be so negative and bitchy! nearly everyone who posts in AIBU gets unnecessaryagro about something theyv posted which to anyone else could seem completely normal!? some people need to get there attitude checked and realise that for example if you say the word 'gay' in a post, you don't need to rip them apart calling them homophobic by people desperately looking for a problem..just saying, chill out we are supposed to support eachother as women not make sly digs and remarks over social networking!

No I don't see it then

I love AIBU! You all say what people in real life are too scared to. I love a bit of brutal honesty and find it very cleansing

I would not post here if I was not willing to have a range of views thrown at me, my spelling and grammar corrected and be called precious (I think maybe I am and AIBU is like therapy!)

Long live open debate and bun fights!

Haven't RTFT, sorry.

If you want gentler, more sensitive responses OP, post in a different topic.

There are lots to choose from.

Op please read the recent AIBU thread in site stuff, if you really feel someone has been rude/taken it too far/bullied you then you need to report it.

To start a thread about a few posters is not on really, I could easily search your history and see who you mean.

I think if you have an issue with AIBU and those who post on here, you should perhaps just not post here.

Sometimes i read comments on here and i think 'what an arsehole' because they're unpleasant and uncalled for but some (not many) just post because they're trying to be controversial. I just ignore them because they don't interest me and there are many more supportive and witty posters on here. But there are lots of sections to chose from, this one may just not be for you.

enough with the attacks on another poster.

Ive posted on AIBU and generally its been fine. I got tore to shreds a couple of times but then I was. being unreasonable, just too invested in the situation to see it.
MN is alot more than AIBU though.

See, if it was really bitchy then someone would have pulled you up about your lack of sentences/capitals...

Just saying...

"You can't post anything on here" without being picked on"

"Nearly everyone who posts in AIBU gets unnecessary aggro"

implies a more general application than a select few people to me.

And if the OP really is talking about a select few people she needs to deal with unpleasantness where she sees it or report, not start a thread to attack them.

Do you two mind?

Seriously.

Wtaf

It's AIBU. Whatever you ask there will always be a differing opinion in it. There will always be some that are more agressive, passive, sarcastic etc. Just like RL..

As other have said, if you want a guaranteed gentler response then post in another section. Chat, is a good section.

Insomnia. .it is beyond poor form to start slagging someone off on another thread.

I don't do passive aggreasive thanks.

You clearly do though. If you have an issue with ny posts tell me to my face or report me.

Don't just start making bitchy references to "regular posters" all over the shop.

Op you are right.

Sometimes one is picked on even when not on a thread.

AIBU is not support - they ask a question and very often they are being completely unreasonable! The problem is that they assume they are right and expect everyone to agree!
If you want support then don't use AIBU.

And morphine..please also stop with the PAs on me and my posting style. Thanks.

Fanjo that's what I meant. If people have an issue they need to take it up on the relevant thread and report anything they feel needs to be looked at. Starting a thread in AIBU to whinge seems counterproductive and unhelpful to me, especially with the passive aggressive whine of some people

AIBU is filled with people who could start a fight in a room on their own.
Mnhq are trying to encourage a less hostile posting style. I'm not sure starting a thread calling people names helps much tbh.

Why not post in the manner you want others too?

Dammit LuisSuarez as a serial biter I'm not so sure you should be the attitude checker.... And no salt? Are salt like substitutes allowed?

I'm relatively new to mn ( 6 months or so ) and have posted a couple of threads in AIBU. I received a lot of advice and support and was grateful for people to take the time to reply.
That said, you must be prepared to hear others opinions, that's the point of it. If someone doesn't agree with you, it doesn't render either opinion invalid.
You learn to develop a pretty thick skin and a minority of people will be nasty, that's just life.
I absolutely love mn, it's my first port of call if I need any advice etc, and it can be very erm.... entertaining , though I'm still learning the rules every day:)

I have been flamed on here sometimes rightly and sometimes wrongly.

When posters make personal remarks which have nothing to do with the original thread and goad to the point of bullying because they want a reaction (god they must be bored!) that is not nice to see and IU.

I was once sent an iPhone for my son as the result of a post on here and when I have been flamed I have had really nice, supportive and kind PMs from other posters.

Best thing to do is not get wound up and take it personally (after all posters here don't KNOW you they are just seeing one scenario or one snapshot of your life), don't post about personal stuff if you don't have a thick skin, don't post if you are feeling very defensive, vulnerable, wanting others to tell you you are right and be prepared to accept you are BU.

Also don't post when pissed and think through what you are posting (from personal experience :) ).

OP, if you're a long term mner, you know what AIBU is like. Why post there? Why not chat?

If you lay with dogs you get fleas.

Weather. That's exactly right. If you are talking about a sensitive issue and feeling vulnerable or upset about something AIBU is not the place for you. It seems to encourage a pack mentality. Having been on the receiving end even though I was being perfectly R I would never ask for advice again!

In which case what's the point of AIBU so just dump it MN!

Hi there,

Just dropping in to direct anybody who hasn't already seen it to this MNHQ thread.

We don't expect you to read all 963 messages on it , but if you just take a look at Rowan's opening post you'll see that we're working hard behind the scenes to make AIBU a more luffly place to post.

With your help, we'll get there