to think you cant post anything on here without being picked on!

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like really, this section can be so negative and bitchy! nearly everyone who posts in AIBU gets unnecessaryagro about something theyv posted which to anyone else could seem completely normal!? some people need to get there attitude checked and realise that for example if you say the word 'gay' in a post, you don't need to rip them apart calling them homophobic by people desperately looking for a problem..just saying, chill out we are supposed to support eachother as women not make sly digs and remarks over social networking!

I hear netmums is nice. They got an award and everything

Jeez threads like this should be banned.... AIBU can be a pretty nasty and somewhat unrealistic world where IRL is at great odds to the 'advice' on AIBU but there is more than one section to Mumsnet and constantly complaining about it does nothing except invoke a bunfight.

OP just use other sections and take AIBU with a large pinch of salt

I have never started an AIBU and don't think I ever will because I have a thin skin and would get upset! To post here, you have to be willing to be told what you don't like hearing. Nobody is going to fawn or sugar coat things.

All that women looking out for women 'sisterhood' stuff is bollocks. Yes, if we are campaigning against FGM, no if women I don't know are having a melt down because their wedding favour almonds aren't pink enough or because their husband has not replied to a text for thirty minutes.
They deserve to be told they are utterly unreasonable.

I said 'melt down'. I believe that is unreasonable, so I await a telling off.

'Like really' - have I walked into an American Sitcom?

'Like really'

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MooMaid I'm sorry, salt is not allowed. Bad for you.

Actually I posted a while ago and found the people on here incredibly helpful and supportive.
Although having said that I've also posted and got some not so nice responses in the past.

Café there really is no need to be obtuse. The OP maybe American and that term of phrase is acceptable. Your snide dig is a great example of how nit picky AIBU can be.

AIBU needs binning. It's an open invitation to nastiness and confrontational behaviour.

In fairness OP your original OP wasn't very clear. I thought you were talking about using 'gay' as an insult in the manner so beloved of teenage boys.

Having seen your next post I realise that you probably just meant using gay as a descriptive word and I agree that sometimes it's relevant and sometimes it isn't. I think your original post proves why you're getting a rough ride - you aren't actually conveying what you think you are. Take a minute to read your posts before you hit the post button and ask yourself: would someone outside my head understand this post? Have I said what I meant to say?

Yabvu. Next!

I don't see why AIBU needs binning. Some threads would be better posted in the relevant forums, but there's actually alot of straight talking, wise and kind advice on here.

flossymoo: exactly! this is just what im talking about.

yes I agree aibu provides useful answers to questions ect thats why I post here sometimes. im only talking about a select few people who feel the need to really take libs on people for no reason.

im only talking about a select few people

But that's not really what you said in your OP though.

Best way OP is to ignore them. Just because they post does not mean you have to reply. If they are pulling your post apart unnecessarily then explain it once and ignore them.
Some posters are like dogs with a bone and the more you give the more they will continue to dig at you.

yes it is. I said 'some people' not all.

I don't think I'll bother arguing the difference between what you think you said and what I understood from the title and the OP. I'll probably be accused of picking on you.

Sorry ilove I have re-read the OP and I can only see that she said
some people need to get there attitude checked

I can't see what you have seen but then again I do have an eye test booked for Monday so it could be me

what dyou mean what I 'think' I said.. its there in black and white some people

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Rubbish

I've posted on here and had a lot of support when I really needed it

And on the flip side members have give my head a wobble when I've been being a nob

At the end of the day we come on here asking for opinions. We are adult women who should be able to accept opinions and not take personal offence. It isn't a playground. I'm sick of people flouncing because they don't like the answers given or because they expect everything to be all sweetness and light. God forbid women should have strong opinions that aren't necessarily nice.

im not talking about other people's opinions im talking about them generally being nasty and rude for no reason. . which does happen!