Still no thank you letter from friend for wedding present after 3 months...

[carolineannabel22]

For some random reason I realised last night that we still haven't had a thank you card from a good friend for her wedding present. She got married in May.

AIBU in that I think that's totally unacceptable? I wrote ours the week after we got back from honeymoon... I know that was keen but I knew if i didn't do it then, I'd never do it!!

The basic skill and manners is the act of thanking someone sincerely, it is not dependent on the method of delivery.

Etiquette is a strangled old fashioned notion,of what knife,how to eat bread roll
Manners are important,and one can be well mannered by text,phone,email or in person
I don't indulge in etiquette or knock myself out about right way

What scottishmummy said

Also I will add to the few people who've said it's a shocking waste of paper to send 100 thank you cards out. I much prefer an e-card, better for environment

Aye exactly what scottishmummy said. Most f folk have been brought up with good manners less with etiquette the later imo is nothing go get your knickers in a knot about.

Etiquette was invented as a way of keeping the oiks in their place.
Unwritten rules about trivialities that made it easy to spot a social climber a mile off.

Ironically etiquette is now clung to by the very people it was invented to exclude.

Manners are classless and definitely do not always go hand in hand with a top notch knowledge of which fork to use and what sort of heading you should have on your Thank You notelets.

I read mn thread right way to eat bread roll with soup.as opposed to open yap.eat

We thanked everyone personally on the day. We only had a small wedding, 25 to the day, and a further50 in the evening. Had about 5 presents, which as we had stipulated no gifts was more than generous. What really hurt tho, was how few cards we recorded. About 20 in total. Even taking couples/families out of the equation, that meant that around half of our guests could not even be bothered to write out a card for us.

Oh boo hoo.stop it with the card expectation and face
You were there,did guests mingle,chat,say thanks?
You surely know by reaction if guest enjoyed day,as opposed to fretting over a card

Received. Not recorded. Autocorrect fail, apologies.

Shut the door on your way out Scottishmummy. Why are you always so goady? I never read anything nice from you.

A card for what?being a guest?are you seriously expecting a thanks i was guest card

Its a straight question,did you know if guests enjoyed your wedding?
You know these people,have rapport with themWhy do you need thank you cards
You clearly expected a thanks for having me as guest card

Agree 100% with scottishmummy.

I've never received a thankyou card either, wouldn't expect one. I was happy at being invited to their special day, I'm sure they were happy to receive a present. Job done.

It goes like this
Save the day card
Card to couple to say thank you for sending me a save the day card.
Invitation
Reply to invitation saying thank you for inviting us.
Gift list
Card to say thank you for sending me a gift list
Card to say congratulations on your marriage.
Card from couple to say thank you for your gift
Card from guest to say thank you for letting me come to your wedding.
Card back to say thank you for your thank you cards.

All specially commissioned, all hand written, all posted first class.

That way no one can possibly get upset about lack of gratitude on either side.

Its easy.

Is there a card to say thankyou for your thankyou card thanking me for your thankyou card

If there isn't, there should be.
Or its RUDE

MrsDevere can I ask about your namechange? I've been curious!

Isla will you send me a card
Card saying dont let door hit yer arse you goady cow,you never say anyfink nice
Ill not reply,there'll be no carefully selected mass produced insincere card from me

My cousin got married 3 years ago, still haven't received a thank you for the gift, don't even care really, as long as they had a good day.

I've never sent one and I've never received one.

I said thanks on the day and so have other people.

Non issue.

I think I would be surprised if I ever received one.

IsChippyMinton and scottishmummy - the internet hadn't been invented when I got married, so email thank-yous were not an option for me. And when I said I put thank-you and sorry cards in with Christmas cards, what I meant was I put a note in each card thanking the people for the gift and apologising for not having thanked them sooner - calling them cards was a mistake on my part that came from posting too fast without checking what I wrote.

:o

morphine &mrsDevere

Just about sums the whole thing up.

By the way it has to be written in unicorn blood or it's clearly not enough effort.

Sorry deverethemuzzeler

*Flyingtrue, they sent a card. Very odd. I struggled with the whole "we want cash" thing and got them something instead that I know they'd use and like.

I loved sending cards out after my wedding. It extended the occasion a little for me. I also don't open people's cards to me and bin them.

I don't feel bad if I don't receive a card after a wedding, but I do notice it. I generally shrug my shoulders but yep, I do take note on some level except when I seem to be singled out for no card !