to refer to my step grandchild, as my grandchild?

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I have two step grandchildren. I am finding every time I refer to them it is such a mouthful. I am wondering therefore whether people think it would be OK to just refer to them as my grandchildren?

I don't know if I am over thinking it. I know that referring to step children as your children is not on. I have never, and would never do this as they already have a perfectly good Mum. I am wondering though if it is such an issue in relation to the next generation, as it is perfectly possible to have several grandparents, and it is not trying to take over someone else 's place in the same way, if that makes sense? I'd be interested to know what anyone else thinks?

I think it would be lovely for you to ask your step daughter/son about this. Hopefully they'd be really touched.

My stepmother in law won't even be referred to as 'step' grandma - has to be only her name even though her husband is obviously grandad. I find this a bit unfriendly and sad to be honest.

We let my kids call their step grandmother 'Grandma' when they were growing up. Largely because we didn't want to tell them what she was like and bias them. When they got older and saw through her they decided to call her by her first name. It did make me shudder a bit as my long dead mum would have been the best Grandma in the world - she adored kids and was brilliant with them. But as their real grandmas were both dead... we just did it as less of a mouthful. Made me shudder though.

My Step Dads Mum has called me her granddaughter for 25 years. Very touched she feels that way, She gets Granddaughter, Granddaughter and Husband cards for me and Great Grandson cards for my son :)

Conversely, I just remembered I had a step Grandmother! I had never had a real grandma and must admit she was a lovely lady I liked a lot (not a piece of work like her daughter). But somehow never dreamed of calling her Grandma (and she wouldn't have minded if I had). That extra one syllable didn't really matter, as I was a s fond of her as was possible to be, even if she was, forever, my step grandmother. That was the 1970s when blended families were still freakishly rare. So I think things have changed. But part of me did feel it would have been an insult to my real grandmas - both of whom died long before I was born. I'm sure it wouldn't have been, but as a teenager, that was how I felt. Just to be honest.

And as my anecdote re my own kids hopefully shows - you can as adults, impose whatever you like on them but the day comes when they will do it their own way. There is no way my kids call their step grandmother 'Grandma' now (except in ironic quotation marks) and they came to that realisation themselves, despite us manfully calling her 'Grandma' for two decades...

i had a stepgrandad who i adored he was just grandad to me he was married to my maternal grandmother my maternal grandfather passed away when my mum was a child so i never knew him and my grandma married my step grandad when they were in their 60s ! my boys have a step grandad too they have always called him grandad first name sadly since a family tragedy last yr he appears to have disowned them.

My grandson's other grandma is a step. Makes no difference to him, or his parents, or us. He loves us both and we both love him. He calls me Nanny and her Granny. No problem at all.

I also had a step grandfather. His other grandchildren were biologically his but I was his favourite and always called him granddad.

My dad's partner is insisting on being called granny. Me and my DH are resisting it but it's causing a rift. For context Dad and his partner got together when I was an adult so she is in no way a 'step mum' to me.
I think it depends on your relationship with your step children.

Chat to the mum and kids. I imagine as your post is so lovely they love you and will be chuffed.

My DH grew up with a step nan (though this was a bit of a family secret) but has always been nan and is now great nanny to our DD. Never occurred to me until now to think of it as strange. And that has only been fleeting. If all parties are comfortable and you view them as your grandchildren I really don't think there is an issue.