Husband completely ignores house rules at the weekend!

[MyPantsAreGreen]

I am by no means an OCD but there are certain things round the house that me and the children do to make life easier and run more smoothly. Simple things like not leaving bags and shoes dumped by the front door so I can get the pram in an out, not having drinks on the drawing table because they inevitably get knocked over, not allowing constant grazing of food because then main meals are a waste of time. Noting ott just simple things. When my husband is around he shows little regard to any of this and seems to actively flout these rules just to make
his presence felt. Am I being unreasonable to expect him to tow the line at the weekends? He called me a horrible and obnoxious person for asking him to tidy away 2 wine glasses and put them in a cupboard? Is it me should I just grin and bear it?

kerry all I am saying is that if I made a joke that offended someone, I would apologise. If you don't want to, that's up to you.

It's nothing to do with me really anyway.

Sounds like he might be feeling left out whilst you run around after the DCs so he is being 'naughty' for attention.

This will result in everyone saying he needs to grow up but if you have no time or interest in him as you are too busy running the home then it doesn't bode well for a good relationship.

You need to show some appreciation for the wage he brings in and make sure he does stuff with the DCs tell him he is sooo good at it. At the mo it seems he is surplus to your requirements except for his wage, get him involved too and make some time as a couple.

I missed the 'joke'

What exactly did I spell wrong? I am lost.

Sounds like he might be feeling left out whilst you run around after the DCs so he is being 'naughty' for attention. WTAF! He's supposedly an adult, being 'naughty' to gain attention is only understandable in toddlers.

This OP reminds me a bit of my sister and her DH, except Sis works outside the home (as does he).
Its the sort of frantic tone of it all. Sis treats her life like a military operation-she is a busy person, but seems to make herself (and everyone around her) busier still.
Her DH is actually pretty hands on, but she is so scared that he might be slacking off, or that she might be doing more, it's a constant competition as to who is doing most with the housework and the kids.
She complains all the time about having no time alone, and I will suggest sending the H out with the kids one Saturday morning, but she would never do that. They must all be together all the time, even though they are constantly sniping, and every weekend is a whirlwind of activity, because she won't stay home (even though they have a garden, big house etc). Her DH is not allowed to just hang out at home either. Ever.
They never just chill out around the house. He is also not allowed to watch too much TV, or play on the computer
The whole scenario makes me feel exhausted; I think- hang on, there are two of you, working 35 hours a week each, 2 kids, just like millions of other people...does it have to be so stressful, or are you making it that way? Obvs I couldnt possibly understand, only working 28 hours a week, and only having one child as a lone parent.
Or are my standards just so damn low it's shameful?!

OP...breathe! Then sit down and talk to your DH, like an adult, and go from there.