To think this is a busy site and as such

[strawberrydreamcake]

Show respect for your own privacy and that of other people's?

I am not going to say which one, so don't ask and I'm going to ignore any guessing games as well as they aren't the point of the thread and I find them a bit pathetic. But I am almost positive a 'friend' has been discussing my situation on Mumsnet.

She's obviously meant no harm but I am very recognisable.

If you want to post about someone else, change a few details or similar. It just isn't fair on the person you're posting about!

I have always assumed that posters are careful to change most of the identifying information when they are posting about someone else on here. This thread has been a bit of an eye opener. Give away all your own details if you want, but it's pretty repulsive to publicly discuss things that people have told you in confidence if they are then identifiable to their friends. It wouldn't be ok to go up to their friends in RL and tell them, why is it ok to put it on MN undisguised?