To have told dd2 the truth in a public loo?

[HattyMonkey]

I am on my period, dd2 aged 3 nearly 4 is aware that I bleed sometimes and I have always answered honestly to any questions. In Debenhams today we went to the toilet and she saw I was "on" she said loudly (she has a very carrying voice) "Mummy you have blood does that mean you are not having a baby?" I replied quietly ( I thought) "that's right".

We left the cubicle and woman confronted me in quite an angry manner saying "next time you want to discuss the facts of life with your kid check who is about, my Son is traumatised"

I was so shocked I said nothing, did I do something wrong? I know everyone parents differently but I don't think I did anything wrong.

Opmext time just on the disabled toilet then no one will over hear

I agree with KnitKnack from way upthread.
God forbid women should talk about aspects of our lives when there is a PFBBoy present.

Sanpro is called 'feminine hygiene' in US supermarkets, including Walmart aisles. Sanpro is a perfectly usable word, and everyone knows what it means. It's a trade term for 'feminine hygiene products'.

OP, I can't for the life of me understand women like the one you encountered.

I had a similar altercation once in a public loo when DD asked some questions about my period. The older lady told me I was awful for exposing such a young girl to the horrors. Nowt as queer as folk

It's all natural and not disgusting or traumatising FFS

I didn't know what it meant, the first time I heard the word 'sanpro' was on here and it took me a good few posts in context to understand it. I have (thank goodness) never once heard it uttered outside of mumsnet.

Love I think you just invoked the Godwins Law of toilet threads!

Ignore, ignore, ignore. It isn't worth engaging with silly women.

Icanhearyou With you all the way on Sanpro ...wff? have we all relocated to a kmart in main street usa? - as for you showing your kids you changing your tampon 'so they know what to expect' , what a pile of nonsense ! How about they learn about it in human biology lessons/sex ed that all primary schools provide at an age appropriate time, plus your mum telling you about it around the same time. 8 kids down the line with no lock on bathroom door, and I guess a few public loo stops, mine have never seen me change pads/tampons... have a chat with me whilst I'm having a bath/poo/wee yes, tampon changing fgs can a women have no privacy... I wonder how our parents/grandparents managed?

My children always came into the cubicles in public loos with me, until they were about 6.
Of course I wouldn't make them turn around to face the door. There is nothing they shouldn't see. Periods are private, but normal.

At home we had one loo for 4 people until my eldest was 11. They saw me using sanitary towels. No big deal.
They would have been traumatised if they saw me bleeding and didn't know what was happening.

Op ignore the comment, instead of grasping the opportunity to explain some simple facts of life to her son - there is an age appropriate way for all ages - she decided to have a go because she was out of her comfort zone.

A colleague told me about year 9 phse, where year after year there are boys in the class who haven't got the foggiest idea about periods. But they are already going out with girls.

My dd aged 2 knows about it all . We call it mooning and she has seen my moon cup and its contents .
I am a share it all and let them learn parent .
My eldest two are teenagers now and this method has worked fine with them .

She should mind her own business, no need to comment on other people's private conversations.

Don't get all the frothing about the word sanpro, it's just an abbreviation that's been used for years, certainly not exclusive to MN.

I shouldn't engage - but I'm baffled at the comments on "sanpro" being an Americanized term gracing the aisles at Walmart.

I'm American, have only ever heard the term on Mumsnet, and it took me a few posts to figure out. We would never say "sanitary protection" in the first place - it's just pads or tampons, maybe 'Kotex' as branded slang, but that's not in fashion anymore, and the "polite" term shops use is "feminine hygiene products" as a previous poster said.

Oh come on, who has honestly written 'sanpro' on a shopping list? Or asked a partner/friend to 'pick me up some sanpro'

Its horrid.

And impossible to say even in my head without it being in a South American drawwwl

The term sanpro is widely used outside mumsnet, my mum had been using it for as long as I can remember and I'm 43!

Well this is the most ridiculous thread I've ever read. Ever. It's a massive bunfight and has accusations of trolling. All because of how people choose to go to the toilet in front of there own children?

The only thing nuts about this thread is those of you claiming that people are damaging their children by how they choose to deal with their menstruation, be bit looking the door or letting them in. Now that is weird.

I've had a friend ask me for sanpro as she forgot to bring get moon cup when she visited us once. She's not twee or American.

It locking*

I reckon people who teach their children to use the term 'sanpro' instead of actually just saying what they bloody well mean are damaging them, just a little bit.

Its like extreme txtspk

I haven't had a period since Ds1 was 18m due to pregnancy and breastfeeding. If I had the need to change my sanpro in front of him, I would. In a public toilet, we are normally there because of his toileting needs, and I just go after him. To eject him from a toilet would create a situation and be more likely to trigger questions.

I can't remember if I dealt with lochia in front of him. The practicalities of a 3rd degree tear and worsened SPD meant I didn't leave the house alone for a month, and at home, it was most practical to shower, so I was upstairs and out of the way. At that stage he wasn't interested in toilet training and didn't tend to come in with me. It's not something I'd have hidden though.

I may have traumatised a boy of about 7 or 8 once. I was wearing Ds2 in a wrap, and he was trying to get his mum's attention fruitlessly as he could see baby's head and arms sticking out of my tummy. I suspect he thought I was giving birth!

We have had a similar discussion whilst in a public loo, if my kids ask a question I tell them ( very quietly when I public ).

Likewise had never heard of Sanpro before mumsnet.

Have always taken DC into cubicle with me too (bolters/ASD) - I don't have periods (Depo contraceptive side affect) but if I did I'm sure they might have seen something, no matter how discreet I was trying to be, and I probably would have said something along similar lines as I always answer those kind of questions - wouldn't want them to be freaking about me bleeding or that is was something to be ashamed of/not normal. Wish my DM had been more open - periods were a shock.

Coffee oh yes it does. Why is it so incomprehensible?

I tend to keep this stuff hidden from kids, ever since DS asked me at the Sainsburys counter "mummy why are you wearing a nappy"?

Sanpro is just a trade term. It's easier than saying 'tampons and towels' I suppose.

I find the idea of going to the loo with anyone in the same room or cubicle pretty grim, tbh. It's about personal space. Each to their own though, I guess.