To smoke in the garden at a party?

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I lit up at a family bbq yesterday. Outside, big garden. The hostess (an inlaw) went a bit off her head and jumped from out of her own arse to right down my throat. Very publicly. There were children there, but they were playing a good way away. I have always done this at her parties, but now she has moved to a different, bigger house (it was a housewarming) it seems the goalposts have moved quite considerably. I was angry and upset at being shouted at like a kid. It's a party, right? A boozy housewarming (her words not mine).

Am I a social pariah?

AIBU?

I don't think anyone plans on getting addicted to smoking. I think most people who smoke start when they're young and don't think about the addiction factor. By the time you realise you're addicted, it's too late. It is a very powerful drug. Thanks for the name compliment BTW

Was this before or after everyone chowed down on their yummy carcinogenic charred meat, lovingly cooked on the carcinogenic fume-belching barbecue, while setting the excellent example of being boozed-up around the DC?

Outside but right next to the food and where people were sitting eating and/or children playing and eating, or in the middle of a cluster of people chatting and drinking: Unreasonable.

Outside but not close to anyone else or food or the door: Reasonable.

Eat right. Exercise. Die anyway.

Has it been confirmed it's a charcoal bbq?

Tell us, gamer, do you ever travel in motorised transport?

I will donate a fiver to the charity of their choice, if just one person will answer this question (or rather, how they deal with the dangers of the fumes produced by motorised transport).

You're on, blubirdy

Wherever possible I walk. I would cycle but my knees are bags of gravel, so if somewhere is too far to walk I get a bus or a train. London buses are all being phased to have hybrid engines, which is excellent news. The minicabs I sometimes get also have hybrid engines these days. They are much much cleaner and also cheaper to run and much quieter.

IMO it's about time we thought about making all new cars with hybrid tech and then we could phase out combustion engines in urban and residential areas altogether.

Some very outlandish posts here.
"Polite people don't smoke" and whatever bollocks it was about being socially unacceptable for children to see smokers.
Ha ha! You wonder how some people make it through a day!

Course I do but then I smoke so....

And those with the poles up their backsides making such highly strung statements - you don't make smokers see the error of their ways with your pinchy faced finger wagging, so much as provide a source of entertainment.
Sorry about that.

It's always good for a laugh indeed, pictish.

Hate smoke, none of my good friends smoke if one acquaintance turned up at my party wanting to smoke id ask them to go out front so that me and my friends didn't have to put up with the smell. My house, my rules and I just don't like the smell. We prefer to kill ourselves slowly with alcohol. oh and fumes from any kind of motorised vehicle that looks fun.

Think on that while precious little Annabella who must be shielded from looking at the nasty smokers watches mummy chug down her socially acceptable wine.
You twits.

This is gold, it really is.

And you sound really laid back, pictish, so basically, smoking's hot for the cool kids.

That I have never read such overwrought rubbish in my life, is undisputable. How do these people cope?

I have to admit that the hatred towards smokers on here is something else. However, it would seem that intoxicating yourself with alcohol is perfectly acceptable.

It's the intolerance of experiences outside of one's personal realm that is so disheartening. The certainty that their view is right because 'smoking kills'. The kind of people who probably think folks with lung cancer who ever smoked shouldn't get NHS help. Yuck.

I have to admit that the hatred towards smokers on here is something else. However, it would seem that intoxicating yourself with alcohol is perfectly acceptable

Or eating yourself into an early grave

Using food as an emotional crutch = "We don't know what sort of upbringing /trauma that person has had, so show some sympathy and understanding".

Using tobacco as an emotional crutch = "Bad, silly person".

Yes, I agree Worra, I always hear how smoking is different, but why is that? You hear that people shouldn't smoke as it's addictive and bad for you. Surely, drinking too much alcohol is addictive and bad for you, and the same goes for fatty foods, but alcohol and fat seem to be more 'socially acceptable', despite costing the NHS loads of money and smokers pay loads in tax for their 'bad' habit in any case.

"It's the intolerance of experiences outside of one's personal realm that is so disheartening."

I have plenty of experience thanks and I hate smoking. From a chain smokng pregnant mum (god knows what damage she might have done us) who smoked non stop. No doubt blew smoke in her newborns faces as she fed us. House stank, we stank, every trip long and short, I"d be fee sick or puking. Had constant coughs etc as a child. She even burnt my communion veil with her before we had even left the house. And that was just at home and not taking in smoke filled work places, public transport, restaurants and clubs etc.

And yes I watchd her deal with lung cancer and held her in my arms at her premature awful death.

Wonder why I hate smoking...

Non smoker here.

I think people have forgotten the meaning of the word hospitality.

I would have set up a little table, a couple of chairs and an ashtray.

I'll do anything to make my guests feel comfortable and welcome.

You are welcome round mine any time you want! You might get a lecture from my sanctimonious 7 year old but in the process I will teach him the meaning of hospitality by telling him to zip it.

I think we all agree that smoking isn't good for you, just saying that alcohol and fatty foods are also bad, but they seem to be acceptable. Anyway, don't want to go off track. Op, YANBU.

i don't think about passive smoking when near a smoker, as the risk is tiny but i do think how anti social the habit is. it makes my nose itch and if i am with a smoker or in their house for a few hours, i am likely to end up with a cold.

however its great that smoking it is not allowed in pubs etc any more as at least i don't have to wash my hair and clothes after a night out.

yes i hate smoking. non smokers has to put up with smokers for years and its excellent we don't any longer.

Non smoker here

I think people have forgotten the meaning of the word hospitality

ditto, and.... ditto.

Though it's not just the word hospitality they've forgotten the meaning of, it's tolerance too.