Just sent wrong text to playdate horrors mother

[Fanfeckintastic]

Oh please help me I'm mortified!! I've just had a play date from HELL and to I went to text my best friend (who would find it hilarious) all about it, outlined everything horrible that he did but I sent it to the little boys mother. I feel like crying.

Is there anyway out of this, I used him name and I ended with "never to return again"

Follow it up with "only joking, I was being sarcastic! What a lovely child you have" ?????

I think you're getting slightly harsh treatment here. Geez. The number of people that post on MN about playdates from hell - is that really any better or any worse than venting privately (or so you thought) to your friend.

I agree apologise but I wouldn't overdo it. You'll just have to brazen it out now. If you have spoken to her about his behaviour before and it has repeated despite you giving it another go you're not unreasonable to feel annoyed about it and I for one don't think you're unreasonable for offloading to a friend.

Bad bad luck though!!!

outs selfs suggestion of what to write is really good

To be honest your text is more of a reflection on you than her DC.

Oooh Jackie0 - RIGHT on your wavelength!!

Completely agree Bran.

Oof. I'd probably have to move too.

In reality, there's probably little you can do

Oh come on now. I spend most of my life seeing all sides and being diplomatic and kind to people and not saying anything about them that I would mind having repeated. But when I get home to DH, I bitch right left and centre!! We have to vent somewhere and this is a very unfortunate occurence, but does not make the op a shit human being.

I'd send a text saying 'Oh my lord, I am really sorry about that. I was venting and didn't mean half of it. Really, really sorry."

She'll know you probably meant it but may appreciate the sign that you care about trying to make up. I think I would, even though I'd obv be upset.

< checks phone for messages >

I like your style, JackieO.

OP, you are getting an unwarranted hard time from posters liking to kick people when they are down.

I hope you find a resolution to smooth it over.

Has she text back?

Shit, she replied and I wish she was angry now. She just said "I'm failing as a mum aren't I?"

Should I drive around with wine or something? She's not failing, she's lovely but he really is very very bold

sounds like she needs a friend.

Even after the text, you still go ahead with that thread title of yours not knowing if the mum is on mn. That really says a lot about you

Yes, go round and see her. Tell her you exaggerated hugely for effect. And that you are mortified.

Looks like she's having a tough time. Can you see if she needs any support or just a shoulder to cry on?

To everyone saying things like inadvertently heard a few home truths? Do you imagine this woman isn't painfully aware of her childs behaviour? As the mother of a 'horror' i would just like to say, we know! If the house is a state like you say OP, then i really doubt the mum is oblivious. (This is why my child is confined to my house or very wide open spaces )

Yes to driving round with wine.

Oh that poor woman! I'd go round with wine, yes - sounds like she needs it!

I don't blame you for bitching though, we all do it. Well, except for all the holier-than-though types on here, who are either lying or incredibly dull!

I think it would be really nice if you apologised to her. If she's low or something, it might stop her feeling really awful. She probably won't forgive and forget though.

Invite her for coffee or wine or something

Go round with and or