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Just sent wrong text to playdate horrors mother

451 replies

Fanfeckintastic · 15/07/2014 17:14

Oh please help me I'm mortified!! I've just had a play date from HELL and to I went to text my best friend (who would find it hilarious) all about it, outlined everything horrible that he did but I sent it to the little boys mother. I feel like crying.

Is there anyway out of this, I used him name and I ended with "never to return again" Blush

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PourquoiTuGachesTaVie · 15/07/2014 17:32

Laughing behind someone elses back is kind of malicious though OP.

OutsSelf · 15/07/2014 17:32

Disclaimer, he's not my little horror though I do have one

ExcuseTypos · 15/07/2014 17:32

I think you should text and apologise too. Just say you've had a really bad day and you didint mean it. Then say that your son loved having him round and when can he come again- ok forget that last bit.

I'm sure she'll forgive youwell hopefully

hollyisalovelyname · 15/07/2014 17:33

I'd leave it
The words can't be unsaid sadly.
Perhaps the mother needs to know ( and get her act together- unless her child has special needs where you make allowances ) and put manners on her child.
Poor you.
Life's a bitch Smile

MrsKoala · 15/07/2014 17:33

oh dear. If i was the mum i don't think i'd be too forgiving and may send an extremely offensive text back to you

windchime · 15/07/2014 17:33

Nope, no way out of that mess. Your name will be mud at the school gates forever, I'm afraid to say.

Bowlersarm · 15/07/2014 17:33

So all the holier than thou posters have never said anything negatively about anyone else to their best friend?

Picklepest · 15/07/2014 17:34

Of course malice was intended as you are now mortified. If you were being kind about the date , a ) where's the laugh for your friend? B) wouldn't care you got the tel no wrong would you?

You got caught bitchin'. Just text one word. Sorry. More really won't help. That alone just might.

Chocovore · 15/07/2014 17:34

Of course we understand, I'm sure we've all done it. Now.. What did it say? Wink

You could say a friend/teenager stole your phone and played a joke?

Aeroflotgirl · 15/07/2014 17:34

Oh no. Nobody's perfect, I expect most of us gave had run ins with nightmare kids and have talked to our DP or good friends about it. That is so bad op, I really feel fir you. Here have some Flowers and Wine

spiderswilldescend · 15/07/2014 17:34

1 there's no such thing as karma

2 we all do it - even the ones who are going to be on here saying you should send flowers (as if!)

3 ignore it, you can't fix it so just write it off

I got one of these from someone about me once (think it was an email actually) and I was pretty glad I knew. She's sent it to loads of people (it was work-based, I was a journalist and she was telling everyone not to talk to me as I'd misrepresented her - I hadn't, she just regretted saying what she did), and it was completely wrong, but it saved me loads of trouble. Grin.

daisychain01 · 15/07/2014 17:34

If her DS was badly behaved, maybe some of what you said in your text may ring true....

OutsSelf · 15/07/2014 17:34

Say, god, I was exaggerating to make my friend laugh, now I realise I was being an utter twat using your DS as my funny story and it's so unfair to him and to you, who by the way I like enormously. I'm really, really sorry.

Fragglewump · 15/07/2014 17:35

Op - if you copy us the text - we could be more helpful......

Nannyplumismymum · 15/07/2014 17:35

To be honest if you're the type of person that sends messages bitching about others, then really you're not somebody I would expect to understand why it's not good.

I'm don't appreciate people that always look for the negative in others and find it entertaining to pour over the details.

APlaceOnTheCouch · 15/07/2014 17:37

Oh no.

If it makes you feel any better I once sent a text meant for my ex explaining exactly why I didn't want to see him again to my boss. I was mortified.

misstiredbuthappy · 15/07/2014 17:37

Blame it on your dc saying they wrote it Grin

waits for the kids mum to reply

Berryglitter · 15/07/2014 17:38

Try not to stress yourself too much, it's done now. All you can do is apologise, no excuses, just an apology.

"hi playdates mum, very sorry for the text I sent. It was meant for my friend. I hope we can move on from my mistake and you cab accept my apology. From verysorryop"

KnackeredMuchly · 15/07/2014 17:38

I'm another who wpuld probably go round with flowers and an apology in person. Really must be awful to read what people think about you,but to hear the truth about your little darling...

Cakecrumbsinmybra · 15/07/2014 17:38

OP, yes I would discuss a play date from hell with a close friend and I don't think that makes me a bitchy, judgemental person. I really feel for both you and the recipient mum, so awkward. And I don't agree that because you would send an amusing text to a friend means that you intended any malice.

Nannyplumismymum · 15/07/2014 17:38

Karma - "I saw that coming" - things have a way of righting themselves ...
So of course if you are unpleasant about others , chances are it will find its way back to you - behaviour breeds behaviour.

Branleuse · 15/07/2014 17:38

i dont tend to bitch about kids tbh, no, i dont like hearing it either.

Even if im discussing other kids with a friend im diplomatic and generally sympathetic.

I always think it says more about the adult than the child.

if people talk badly about others behind their back, its always safe to assume theyd do the same about you when youre not there. Never trust someone who bitches

Original poster
Fanfeckintastic · 15/07/2014 17:39

Honestly, if you lot could see the state of my house you might understand why I needed to vent!

I've texted apologising profusely!

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Jackie0 · 15/07/2014 17:39

Like who hasn't bitched to their friends ? That's what friends are for !
Seriously , assuming what you said was actually true and you didn't embellish, then I'd brazen it out.
Who would you rather be?
The mum that had her afternoon ruined , tried to vent to her pal and embarrassed herself because of a silly mistake , or the mum whose kid was a complete nightmare and inadvertently heard a few home truths?