To tell non RSVP party children they haven't got a place when they turn up?

[MrsOB]

OK, long story short.

My DS party is today, sent invites out 4 weeks ago. Five non responses so I have only paid for the ones I know are coming. Cost is £17 per child.

Party venue needs parents to sign a waiver online.... I've just called venue to check they've been done and 3 children's parents have managed to go online to fill in waiver but not told me they are coming....

So, I've not got party bags or food for them, and I haven't paid for them.

When they turn up today at 3 I REALLY want to tell them that they didn't RSVP so there isn't a place for their child....

AIBU to do that?

I am amazed that people do not RSVP.

My son has had a birthday party every year from the age 2 to 14 years old and done various sizes ranging from 10 kids to about 40.

I received replies from every parent, every time.

I do not know what i would of done in this situation as its so alien to me.

Thing is, some parents know damn well that a lot of mums/dads are too nice to say anything and that if they just turn up (often with siblings) en spec, the parent throwing the party will just suck it up.

It's entitled behaviour and I would have no hesitation in saying "sorry, but as we hadn't heard from you, I only booked places/meals for a certain number" and turning them away. It may stop them doing it to other people.

I'm still gobsmacked at the stories of rudeness on this thread. And the posters who seem to think the OP should just accept such rudeness. Is this the way people behave now? (DS is almost an adult & certainly past the birthday party stage!)

So the child who was there when you arrived was unaccompanied waiting for you and you had no contact details? How old is this child?

SO IT'S fairly clear to OP that hee her non-responders are just rude, then.

Dropping off before she even got there is absolutely outrageous.

They left a child there alone.

What if your son had taken I'll contacted other parents who had rsvp'd to not bother coming.

There would have been a poor mite there for hiurs

I just can;t imagine leaving DS at a party before any adults have arrived.

Mind you if OP's child is 13 thats a different kettle of fish! Though I'm assuming the loom bands indicate 8-11

I'd be seriously fed up too.
It's because we, the parents who are polite and/ or are organised are too polite to exclude the children of the rude and/ or disorganised parents, that they get away with it.
My dsis (teacher) in school says it's the same - always one or two who don't have the permission slip on the day of the school trip out so she's inconvenienced emailing / phoning parent to get permission.
I said to her leave the child behind and they'll soon learn.
But she won't do that , as the child suffers.
But the parents will never learn.

Though I'm assuming the loom bands indicate 8-11

DD, aged 14, and I were talking about loom bands today. Most of the girls in her year and older are fans of these...........

OK I take it back insanity has no age limit.

If OP's son is in fact 14 then I feel its OK for parent to drop and run without an adult there.

There is no way I would accommodate non RSVPers. If the parents can't be bothered to reply then I won't bother paying for them.

It won't be me disappointing the child it will be their parents.