AIBU to be annoyed at 'girl' judging our family dynamics.

[madchocolatemum48]

A group of friends of a neighbour and I were chatting at a party over the weekend.
We were getting acquainted with the usual "What do you do?" "How many children?".......etc etc.
I said dh & i have been married nearly 20 years, 2 children, I'm a SAHM. Ended with saying "You know, the usual traditional family"
A young woman who had already stated she had 3 kids by 3 fathers, never married, pipes up " Fuc#ing hell, didn't know people still did that old b¤llsh!t stuff"

Is it 'old-fashioned' to be a traditional family now? Maybe she just made me feel old, but I wouldn't have made a derogatory comment about her family dynamics.

Ended with saying "You know, the usual traditional family" and she's a 'girl', you sound very judgemental.
You were rude first, she was rude back.

Your OP makes it very clear that you were judgemental of her family dynamics.

Rather ironic, no?

By traditional ou meant how it should be which is bull shit

The reason I used the word 'girl' was because she was in her early 20's.
There were others in the group who were single/ married/divorced parents. It was a kind of. "Hi my name is poppy, single, mother to Bob and Sue, work P/t at Tesco" kind of conversation.
I wasn't judging her even though I did think she was rather young to have 3 children, married, single or divorced.
I was wondering if my family situation warranted her comment.

Tbh if she is going away with friends she might have a drink before hand and not be bothered

well aren't you just perfect op. you sound like a right charmer as well, definitely not judgey at all.

Wrong thread ignore me

I was a parent in my early 20s I wasnt a girl a woman with 3 children is a woman yes I know you are older than her but she is equal to you ,

Yeah.....

I'm in my early twenties, I am not a girl. I am a young woman.

You sound like a judgemental arsehole.

Rather young meh no you are not judgey at all

Madchoc - I don't think she judged you, I think she just felt judged.

I think you got off lightly. Id of torn you a new passive aggressive arsehole if you had said that in front of me. That's if it actually happened mind....

She probably thought you were being judgey. Not everyone is a 2.4 family. She probably felt looked down on, which you had no right to do. Time has moved on mrs perfect and families come in all shapes and sizes.
Also who are you to say what's normal/traditional

A woman in her twenties isn't a 'girl' op. You sound so condescending.

If it was a group conversation and she had already stated her situation, if you subsequently made that 'traditional family' comment I would interpret that as a really bitchy dig. I would think yourself lucky that she didn't confront you directly as I think she would have been entitled to!

Whether we like it or not, most people would judge a single mother with 3 children by 3 dads.

Wow, didn't anticipate so much hostility to be honest. Obviously there are a lot of 'non-traditional' families out there. Didn't realize the term offended so many.

OP - how old do you have to be before you stop being a girl and start being an adult?

Just wondering if I still qualify at 41?

Tbh I dont really care who people have babies with its not my business

Oh now you are taking the piss non traditional families give us a break

I'm as 'traditional' as they come. Still think you're being patronising and judgemental.

I think she was hurt by your comment which was very rude. As a married woman, I can safely say I would never say anything as offensive as you did.